I'm 30 and dating a 19 year old

[Luciferthethird]

That's it really, I've 2 DC's they've not been introduced yet, still too early for that. We've been dating for about 3 weeks. He's lovely and he keeps telling me the age gap doesn't bother him.
My sister has the exact same age gap between herself and her partner but somehow that seems more acceptable when it's the man that's older. I just need a sounding board really.

Narrow minded idiotic reactions on here. Age is irrelevant between two adults if they have a connection and have a great time together. No one knows apart from the OP how they feel about each other. She should enjoy the blossoming relationship if it feels right.

Despite the fact that quite of few women on this thread are only in their 20’s as well so dating young men

Yes. I'm (quite a bit) younger than the OP and 19 year olds are very much children in my eyes. And I don't think I'd ever want to be a seedy 30/40 something year old bragging about the sex I have with young men while unironically calling men my own age 'old farts'.

My sister’s current boyfriend dated a 13 year old girl when he was 35 (and got her pregnant).

But I wouldn’t have concerns a 30 year old woman was exploiting a 19 year old man.

Funny how its different for girls.

And trust me none of us are jealous we're not dating teenage boys!

@Madfrogs Skittle sounds more like a teenager herself bragging about her young man child. Despite the fact that quite of few women on this thread are only in their 20’s as well so dating young men 🙄

He’s almost 30, works in a very senior level position. Very responsible and so he is far from a man child! Although, I will admit he’s the grown up in the relationship! I’m a bit of a brat but he’s seems to like it! LOL!

My friends sil is 20 years older than her bil. Idk how old they were when they met. So to say it can work. However she’s now quickly becoming an old woman and he’s early 50’s. The age gap, which may in some ways have seemed less significant before has become massive. Pensioner of several years vs middle aged man.

The fact that you dated someone else younger before makes me think you like younger men because of your past. I was wondering if part of you has emotionally remained younger due to being constantly on guard with your ex. Someone else suggested because younger men are probably less threatening, which I think is an interesting point.

Different for girls? A man dating a child is now comparison to two adults dating who aren't the same age!!!!
Jeez, are some posters on glue today?!

@Weymo My sister’s current boyfriend dated a 13 year old girl when he was 35 (and got her pregnant)

Ok that’s all kinds of fucked up!

Ew how do you not cringe your tits off? How can you even consider having sex with a literal teenager? This is gross as fuck.

@Flerkin We didn't date when I was 17, just had one kiss and I was only a few months shy off 18! But I get your point. However we did just get caught up in the moment and we didn't get together until I was 18, and we're still together and happy 6 years later. If he was the type that was always with younger girls, I'd get it, but really wasn't the case in this instance.

Age is not irrelevant if they are living totally different lifestyles. They are poles apart.

Weymo
What is your sister thinking? How old is she?

My sister’s current boyfriend dated raped a 13 year old girl when he was 35 (and got her pregnant)

Fixed it for you

and so I can assure you it’s all working out deliciously!

This is the creepiest sentence I have read on mn, in the 10 years I have been here.

My sister’s current boyfriend dated a 13 year old girl when he was 35

That’s not dating. That’s fucking statutory rape and paedophilic

@weymo I hope your sister doesn't have kids? And if she does, you have reported her relationship with this child abuser to the authorities?

@Skittlenommer

You sound a littlejealous zee zee

Expected answer.

As I said, older women in relationships ALWAYS assume that other women (with a man roughly the same age,) are jealous of them. In actual fact, there is not a single reason to be jealous, and I find it bizarre and hilarious that you think other women will be jealous. This same shit is always trotted out by older women with younger men. Usually followed by how amaaayyyyzing their sex life is LOL!

If it makes you feel better, and a bit less insecure, to try and convince yourself that every woman is jealous of you and your much younger boyfriend, then crack on.

@Flerkin This is the creepiest sentence I have read on mn, in the 10 years I have been here

OMG, I’m so honoured!!

@oddsocks123 18 isnt much better.

I do take your point about him not having a history of dating younger people. I do judge those who only seem to eb able to have relationships with much younger people, more.

And without sounding patronising. It's only been 6 years. That seem like a long time at your age it's really not. It's a quarter of your life time.

I hope it works out. But a 32 year old man snogging a 17 year old and dating an 19 year old, is creepy.

@zeezee3 he’s my husband, not my boyfriend! How old do you think I am, like 70? Your reaction is a little OTT!

@missmouse101s

Narrow minded idiotic reactions on here. Age is irrelevant between two adults if they have a connection and have a great time together. No one knows apart from the OP how they feel about each other. She should enjoy the blossoming relationship if it feels right.

ODFOD. People are entitled to opinions that you don't like. Grow up.

Pearl clutchers out in force tonight. If everyone involved in a relationship is a consenting adult then I have no issue. Not all 19 year olds are 'children'. And not all 30 year olds are interested in careers and pension plans. There used to be a theory that men's sexual peak is late teens and women's is in her 30s. Different relationships yield different experiences.

I’m in my 30’s and have a teenage son so anything ending in teen would just feel wrong to me.

OMG, I’m so honoured!!

You sound be.

Honestly, having had several younger men make a play for me I when I left dh, I couldnt be less jealous of someones 'delicious' relationship with a younger man.

I woildnt even have the ones that were throwing themselves at me.

I am more than happy with dp who is 3 years older. Who has never had an erection problem and gor for hours in bed.

In fact, I havent been with a man that cant. It seems some women have had that issue.

But apparantly death grip is becoming a real issue for young men as well as older ones too. So not surprising than some women have come across it.

We're so deliciously jealous not!