To be jealous ? He said he's going out on the prowl?

[rachyrachy]

I started to see a guy a couple of months ago he is a friend of a friend.
He just got out of serious relationship and I told myself I was happy with casual.
I've developed feelings for him and I thought he had for me (he texts daily all the time )and in person seemed really into me and caring.
He's made it clear he isn't in the right head space for serious and labels and if I try and ask him he backs away.
He text me today telling me Friday night he is going out with his friend who has just been dumped and he's friend is in the prowl.
I didn't want to ask if he was so I sent a jokey reply saying
"Ha ha enjoy prowling,if you can't be good,be careful)
He replied "careful is my middle name)
That hurt,I was looking for some sort of reassurance and he offered none.
Tbh I think I'm done now because I want someone that I'm enough for.
Aibu here to be hurt?
He's played mind games with me for months now and it hurts.

Jesus, with that text from him I would have said "what are you after? Lawyers, guns and money? No way pal, find your own way home!"
If I could be bothered to text that is.

How awful op? I seriously feel for you I have had similar relationships in the past please do yourself a favour and ghost him. I promise In a few months you will be glad you did xx

Well he gets what he wants out of it. Sex, intimacy and to sleep with other people. What are you getting?

He has no reason to send you of all people a message like that about waking up in a strangers house. He has mates for that presumably. So I disagree that he isn't playing mind games. You're being a mug and he's having a laugh.

End it and stop allowing him to make you feel stupid.

And who would want to be exclusive with a twat that ends up sleeping at random houses at his age anyway. He thinks he's cool and fun. He's not. He's an immature dick.

You do have a choice to walk away. The same way he has a choice to remain casual.

He has been nothing but straight up here. He’s been very clear he doesn’t want anything serious, he backs off and tells you that you are too intense when you try to have serious discussions about your ‘relationship’. He tells you when he’s out on the prowl and you endorse it. No amount of talk or persuasion on your part is going to make this serious because he doesn’t want that.

You refuse to accept what he has told you over and over again and are intent on convincing him and us that there is more to your connection than mutually pleasurable sex. This insistence on denying the two of you are FWB is much closer to gaslighting than his very consistent stance.