Just found nudes on husband's phone

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He had 3 WhatsApp groups with him and a woman. One had nudes of her vagina close up. And the other nudes if her in different poses including in his london flat. And with him. There was no conversation and the third was them making arrangements to meet again. I then found a photo of a massive vibrator he took in his flat kitchen.. obviously to send to her. I don't know what to do..I haven't confronted him yet. Does this sound like an escort or something? There was one picture of them wake boarding outside his flat. No mention on any of his friends chat about another woman.

Still not getting the wealth thing, he only rents in London. Yes he's not poor but it certainly doesn't mean he's a high net worth individual.

And let's get real he isn't paying a prostitute to wake board with him.

Op. Your marriage is over, you don't live together, he rarely comes home. He's involved in another relationship. You need to make a decision on what you want, are you ok with this, if you get to stay in the house and he doesn't come back much?

The previous thread doesn’t mention wealth to be fair but seeing as though a poster asked this...
Is your DH the one they has businesses worth about 5 million?

I think we can assume there’s some memorable posting history with the OP.

Wakeboarding? I don’t think you would do that with an escort. Sounds like an affair.

Why did you delete the evidence?

Ignore's like this......

Woolyheads
I’ve seen wake boarding in London - in Docklands. That’s legit.
The rest is definitely dodgy.
Not sure how you’d take a photo of a vagina though. Wouldn’t it just be black - or dark red if you could get enough light up there?

You can rent a flat in royal Victoria for 1500 a month. A business value is not th same as it's income after tax.

JiltedJohnsJulie
I submitted my divorce online in April & have heard nothing yet. When I rang up in July I was told the online backlog went back to March, but the postal backlog was just to June..

Perhaps they’ve been working on the postal backlog in the last month. The 7 month delay for postal petitions was from the beginning of April.

Before the court service reforms, all petitions were processed on the day they were received. I’m not sure the reforms really are as customer focused as they are saying in the press.

I agree with previous posters that you need to come back on and give feedback, you have asked for support and guidance, you got good advice and time given to you from people and not giving nothing back is not nice really.
I hope you come back on this one....

I agree with previous posters that you need to come back on and give feedback, you have asked for support and guidance, you got good advice and time given to you from people and not giving nothing back is not nice really.

Nobody ‘needs’ to do anything to appease other forum users.

Hopefully OP is busy getting her shit together rather than filling in the boredom for those waiting for the next episode of Soap Opera weekly.

One had nudes of her vagina close up.

I'm not sure you could describe this picture as a nude. A nude is generally a fairly tasteful image of a person created with some form of artistic intention.

Not sure how you’d take a photo of a vagina though. Wouldn’t it just be black - or dark red if you could get enough light up there?

Really? It's obvious what OP means! The woman spread her legs, and used her phone camera between her legs, to take a picture. A lot of people use the term "vagina" when they mean "genitals" or "labia".

ohhhh this thread has it all.

The people inexplibly angry at the OP, especially for 'not finishing' a thread.

Crap reading comprehension.

Those 'ex escorts' that always appear desperate to tell people about how they're an ex escort.

The totally unqualified giving legal advice.

And ridiculously sheltered people needing every aspect of the world and its possibilities explained to them in detail.

Maybe go and do all that elsewhere and not here where somebody is likely feeling that their life as they know it has ended?

And nobody gives a shit about wakeboarding FFS

@SirGawain knew exactly what the OP meant, they were just being pedantic.

@Patroclus. And don’t forget giving OP a row for using the word vagina instead of vulva.

FFS leave OP alone folks. Her marriage is on the rocks. She owes us fuck all

Not so much pedantic, more like obtuse.

Yes @Motoko you're right. At least we all know that @SirGawain is oh so knowledgeable.

You must be in shock OP, I'm sorry it turned out this way for you. A solicitor will be best placed to give you advice. If you're able to go onto the archive and undelete the photos then it would be best; firstly you can take copies, secondly you would be better to suprise your husband with the divorce. If you can check through his paperwork when he's out then it would be useful to build up a picture of his assets. There is plenty of advice about next steps when divorcing over on the Relationships board, it could be good for you to post over there. Good luck to you, I hope you find happiness soon.

Not that it matters but an open leg pic on her what’s app profile pic makes me think she’s an escort.

OP didn't say it was the woman's profile pic, she said the pics were sent to DH in a message.

He had 3 WhatsApp groups with him and a woman. One had nudes of her vagina close up

Anyway, it doesn't matter if she was an escort or not, the end result is the same. He's shagged this woman in his flat.

I don't think it matters. He's a dirty shagger. But there are plenty of sexy hook up sites that feature non escorts with their legs open.

MODERN PEOPLE SAY NUDES AS A WORD FOR NAKED PICS

it doesn’t matter what YOU think it means. The words changed.

The OP has found fanny shots on her dh's phone and some people are focused on the wakeboarding aspect of this thread, I mean ..really?

Not “fanny shots” *clutches pearls.

Nudes, darling, nudes.

As i said up thread i do think the terminology matters. I work with many teens who, as above, would be horrified to think they are sending “fanny shots”. They send nudes —to random males on social media—.

Nudes, as pp mentioned, make it sound less sordid.

So sorry you’re going through this, OP.

I would do as others have suggested first. Try & get those images back so that you can screenshot.

I’m sure that if you ask your dh about it he will deny in the first instance. So, play your cards close to your chest, try and find out about finances etc, get solicitor advice before you tackle him about it.

Hope you have RL support