Just found nudes on husband's phone

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He had 3 WhatsApp groups with him and a woman. One had nudes of her vagina close up. And the other nudes if her in different poses including in his london flat. And with him. There was no conversation and the third was them making arrangements to meet again. I then found a photo of a massive vibrator he took in his flat kitchen.. obviously to send to her. I don't know what to do..I haven't confronted him yet. Does this sound like an escort or something? There was one picture of them wake boarding outside his flat. No mention on any of his friends chat about another woman.

Who sends pictures of their fanny? They really aren’t very pretty.

If you can access the phone again you may be able to un-delete the pics but scrolling up to the ‘archive’ section in the conversation list. Thinking of you taking photos of them for evidence.

R u ok op x

I doubt if an escort would allow him to take pictures.

When you come into some threads to do wonder if people live in the real word.

Yes. People send stuff

Lol pancake ur right who does that.

Why didnt you finish the first thread ?

You really need to get back to work.

Your kids are adults. So there womt be child maintenance.

There maybe be spousal maintenance if he is a higher earner. But, in theory you could have been working for several years now.

Spousal maintenance will probably only be temporary, if you get it. You need your own income.

Though you would be entitled to a share of his pension. You could use this to leverage a larger share of the house.

@lonelyheartsclubband for his work, says on her other thread that she never came back to

Also are you 100% the house is definitly in his name.

He sounds like a cunt. He could have anticipated this a long time ago.

@bigchris ahh thank you, I see someone's linked the previous thread in. For "work" 🙄

why do people do this? Sending and receiving pictures of genitalia is utterly grim.

Alright grandma. Not if you really fancy the person

Hope your ok OP.

You should of saved all messages by screen shot and sent them to your phone then deleted the evidence you had done that. May come in handy. Definitely get a solicitor.

What a twat.

Personally, for me there is a huge difference between a prostitute and an affair. But it doesn’t matter what other people think. It’s what your boundaries are and how you feel. The deceit alone would be enough for it to be over for me.

Missed opportunity to present good reason for divorce. Think you are likely to get half the value of the house and flat, less mortgage, half the bank account and half his pension. Id expect him to pay silly buggers and hide money so id be getting your finances in order. Need to think about retraining or getting some kind of job. The sad fact is this fucker has screwed you over, now youve raised his children hes onto younger models. Sickening. Def get good lawyer.

What is wake boarding? Similar to snow boarding?!

Try google

I just googled and don't see how anyone can do wake boarding outside a flat.

Op, I'm glad you've been to a solicitor, it's all well dodgy.

I don’t care if I sound like a grandma. Sending pictures of your fanny is grim.

howwudufeel I totally agree. (and it could go very very wrong)

I’m not sure if it makes a difference who’s name the house is in, like others have said, you should get half the house and half if his pension.

Make sure you know where all of the money is, and get evidence.

My only other tip is if you are submitting a divorce petition, do it online, there’s something like a 7 month backlog for petitions submitted via the post.

OP it doesn't matter who's name the house is in if you are married. It's a joint marital asset and thus will likely be split between you on divorce.

Start planning your options, as a long term SAHM you need to get yourself some training to get back into the job market