Just found nudes on husband's phone

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He had 3 WhatsApp groups with him and a woman. One had nudes of her vagina close up. And the other nudes if her in different poses including in his london flat. And with him. There was no conversation and the third was them making arrangements to meet again. I then found a photo of a massive vibrator he took in his flat kitchen.. obviously to send to her. I don't know what to do..I haven't confronted him yet. Does this sound like an escort or something? There was one picture of them wake boarding outside his flat. No mention on any of his friends chat about another woman.

What does wake boarding have to do with anything? Do you mean skate boarding?

It doesn’t sound like an escort. Escorts don’t test about messaging clients, they do what they are paid to do.

I’m sorry you’ve found all this. Have you told him you know he’s cheating yet?

He’s cheating. Sorry OP.

Get a lawyer and get access to all joint money. Take lots out in cash if you need to (so the bank can’t stop you getting at it)

What difference does it make if they are in a relationship or he's paying for it? I don't understand your thinking here OP.

Your husband is fucking another woman. That would be enough for me to get him to leave.

You do need to talk to him about this.

What do you mean you "don't know what to do" ?

What do you consider the alternatives to be ?

Obviously some people do send them on what's app. As you have seen.

^^

This too.

Doesn't sound like a prostitute if they are wake boarding/whatever together, sounds much more like an affair.

I cannot understand why you deleted the photos but agree with PP - get yourself lawyered up and take it from there...

Just get rid of him.

I’ve seen wake boarding in London - in Docklands. That’s legit.
The rest is definitely dodgy.
Not sure how you’d take a photo of a vagina though. Wouldn’t it just be black - or dark red if you could get enough light up there?

You do need to talk to him about this.

Why? Just chuck him out.

Any semblance of an honest relationship with this man-slut is over, done, dead as a doornail. Why do you hang on to it?

Lol at “not nudes”. This is what people call them. Yes - very usual

@Woolyheads oh ffs 🙄

Considering how he treated you when you went to his flat in London recently I would say your marriage is over and you should see a solicitor.

*Naked pics not nudes.

Seriously?*

Yes, seriously. “Nudes” make it sound arty and almost respectable. I’ve heard many teenagers refer to sending CSA pictures as “Nudes”. It’s an almost romanticised term girls use so they don’t have to admit they’re sending pornography to boys and men.

They are pictures of a naked woman. Pornographic by the sound of it too.

Doubt its an escort if he is seeing her regularly and going to his flat!

Why didn't you confront him with the pics instead of deleting them

I remember your thread, he has checked out of your marriage and is hoping you will start the ball rolling. Hope you have a good solicitor.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a3649360-Should-these-people-go-home#88871951

I remember your previous thread too OP.

How he treated you then was bad enough - this is just the icing on the cake, surely?

Sounds like your marriage is over. Time to get prepared.

I also don’t think it particularly matters whether she is a girlfriend or being paid for her time.

Does your husband also check your phone or do you merely check his?

Such a silly sanctimonious comment. Isn't it a good thing she checked his phone? How else would she have found out this information?

OP I remember your recent post - he’s an absolute shit. Enough already.

@bluebluezoo sending a picture of your body to your (perceived) partner is not pornography.

@justasking111 I remember your thread

Ah I also remember that one! I think your right Op needs a good solicitor and those pics would of really helped!