DH left me at home with no snacks

[Howdidido]

30 weeks pregnant. DD asleep.
DH gone to friends house for drinks. Which is fine but I asked him to get me pudding and a drink from the shop at the end of the road before he left. He left and forgot to get it even though I said it as he was saying bye. AIBU to be majorly pissed off and grumpy.
He's at friends now and won't be back before I'm in bed.
I wanted something nice to drink and some chocolate!!

YANBU, my mum when she was pregnant with me (in the 1950's), used to crave lettuce sandwiches, and there were no such things as 24 hour shops in those days. Once in the middle of the night she HAD to have a lettuce sandwich, so my poor dad had to go out looking for one - I presume that he must have nicked one from someone's garden or allotment! By the way they were a very straight laced, middle class couple, so stealing one won't have been easy for him - maybe he went back the next day and paid for it!
To all you miserable lot who say that she is being unreasonable, I am so happy for you that at 30 weeks pregnant, with all the aches and pains that go with that, the exhaustion after a full day at work, and a small child to look after, that you remembered to put yourself first, and to stock up on chocolate and anything else you MIGHT fancy in between everything else you were doing. OP your partner was being a selfish so and so, I would be very cross too

YABU but pregnant hormones to tend to make us unreasonable.

Truly unreasonable, was when id been discharged from hospital having broken my neck, on the grounds I could move only if someone assisted ( basically held me up) to move. First morning home I woke up, no DH, hed gone to work, I was dying for a wee but unable to move from bed, bedpan nowhere in sight. Instead hed left the pbone and a can of coke.
THAT'S unreasonable!

Mine has left me with no milk or bread that he forgot to buy not once but twice. I could go to the shop but grumbling and leaving cross messages on his voicemail is more fun.

Your husband is a thoughtless git, but most are when it suits. Hope you can stock up tomorrow and remember to “forget” something he needs sometime soon

To DurexCertified - if you can’t write anything sensible don’t bother - crude

That comment was a little unfair. Maybe some mum's and mum's to be are more concerned with what is best for their child than for their personal enjoyment. Caffeine is a stimulant similar to certain illicit drugs. If I can avoid exposing my child to that I will! And of course I craved chocolate during pregnancy like probably most women, but it wasn't about me anymore. I'm not saying that the partner wasn't inconsiderate (even though it turned out to be a misunderstanding). I just meant that getting so angry over something that isn't recommended in the first place (including by the NHS) is unreasonable, and frankly, the stress is also unhealthy for the unborn child. It may be unfair from a social point of view, however, a burden of creating new life is also being responsible for its wellbeing, even at one's own expense at times.

This was a reply to @howdidido's last comment btw.

Get over yourself. Seriously.

Get over yourself. Seriously.

She probably has since it was a week ago.

@iklboo that was directed to the above comment. That was posted this morning

@Contraceptionismyfriend - oh, sorry! Ignore me. I'm a tool

No worries.

However I don't know if I'd be over it yet if I was Op. it's still pretty unforgivable.

YANBU because you are pregnant and he’s supposed to be looking after you.
FWIW I would text DH for a moan and I’m not pregnant, just high maintenance

Late to the thread but as you're pregnant, you're never irration over the need for snacks. The man who impregnated you has a moral responsibility to provide them too.

Do you have flour, eggs and cocoa powder OP? If so, mug cake!

1/4 cup of self raising flour (5 dessert spoons)
1/4 cup of any sugar (5 dessert spoons)
2 dessert spoons of cocoa powder (I think you can use hot chocolate powder, we use Bourneville Cocoa Powder)
A medium egg
A teaspoon of vanilla essence (optional)
Pinch of salt
2 dessert Spoons of Oil (Olive/Coconut)
2 dessert Spoons of milk
(Optional spoon of chocolate chips)
Sieve flour and cocoa powder, add other ingredients and mix then pour into mug or bowl. Microwave on 800W for 1 m 30.

The NHS doesn't say you shouldn't eat chocolate HerbalEssences - it says moderation. And milk chocolate is much lower in caffeine than dark chocolate. In fact there are lots of studies about chocolate being beneficial in pregnancy.

www.nhs.uk/news/food-and-diet/chocolate-cuts-pregnancy-risk-claim/

On that basis, perhaps you comparing it to an "illicit drug" and making out women who eat chocolate don't care about their babies is actually the unfair comment.

ISurely you shouldn't be having that much sugar and/or caffeine during pregnancy anyway. Parenthood is about sacrifices*

Jesus. Don’t you sound a barrel of laughs?

Chastising pregnant women for eating chocolate and comparing it to illicit drugs is dickish behaviour.

I honestly don’t get the mindset of some posters on here. Why would you say that to someone ?

*“Only on MN, where expectations of kindness and consideration can be very low.”

This is so true. I am constantly amazed at how mean spirited so many posters are.*

But only to one’s nearest and dearest, whilst berating people for not being “kind” to random CFs who cross their path

If you are really stuck, try ringing a local taxi firm and see if the will do a chocolate run for you

I can actually imagine the chests of some posters puffing up with rage upon reading the title of this post and not even bothering to read the details before venting their anger on the ridiculous expectation that ones husband should actually do something they said they would. 😆 All worked out in the end though OP, milkshake and a chocolate supply. Remember to be more clear next time so he can't wriggle out of it with silly excuses.