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DH left me at home with no snacks

296 replies

Howdidido · 09/08/2019 21:01

30 weeks pregnant. DD asleep.
DH gone to friends house for drinks. Which is fine but I asked him to get me pudding and a drink from the shop at the end of the road before he left. He left and forgot to get it even though I said it as he was saying bye. AIBU to be majorly pissed off and grumpy.
He's at friends now and won't be back before I'm in bed.
I wanted something nice to drink and some chocolate!! Sad

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Isithometimeyet0987 · 10/08/2019 21:59

I know it’s to late now but for future reference if you have a dominos near by they have chocolate desserts on their menu and they deliver.

GPatz · 10/08/2019 22:00

'YABU and trivial, and foolish and petty'.

The gems just keep coming!

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Nicknackpaddywack16 · 10/08/2019 22:28

@howdidido I think you're being perfectly reasonable.

You are 30 week pregnant and growing another person.

Your DD is in bed hence youre housebound really

Your DH agreed to get you something before he left. It must be hard enough feeling a bit left out without anything to look forward to.Its not better than chocolate but here are some Hugs

kayteep · 10/08/2019 22:48

I would totally be pissed off as well. Hope he has made up for it today!

CasanovaFrankenstein · 10/08/2019 23:16

YANBU!! Stockpile some chocolate and keep it secret!

EllenMP · 10/08/2019 23:28

I would be annoyed too. I'm sure he didn't mean to leave you snackless, but still. There is ot much a partner can do for a woman while she is gestating their child, and catering to her eating and drinking whims is not too much to expect. But it's not exactly a capital crime either.

bouncingraindrops · 10/08/2019 23:40

Mumsnet is the place when nobody does anything for anybody and as soon as children pass the age of ten you have to treat them with contempt. Men are never right but it seems pregnant women are a bigger target Sad

OP YANBU

Devora13 · 11/08/2019 00:11

Seems there are a lot of people here who think lack of consideration, kindness and thoughtfulness in relationship is okay and you should just deal and move on.

AlexaAmbidextra · 11/08/2019 00:20

Assuming you ate a nourishing, tasty dinner, I cannot understand why you would want to be 'snacking' later in the evening. Most peculiar!

🙄🙄🙄🙄. Another one that’s hard of thinking. Outside the parameters of their own tiny little life so must be ‘peculiar’.

HerbalEssences · 11/08/2019 06:28

Can't you eat or drink something else? Surely you shouldn't be having that much sugar and/or caffeine during pregnancy anyway. Parenthood is about sacrifices, and getting annoyed about little things like this also adds stress that your DC2 to be doesn't need. Think you need to laugh it off and go eat a sandwich. Life is too short to get annoyed about these things. YABU. However, I appreciate that sometimes you just need to rant to get things out of your system.

EdtheBear · 11/08/2019 07:40

Op hope the milk shake was worth the wait and effort. I hope you've had a word with DH.

A tale from an old guy. Before 24hr supermarkets his pregnant wife was craving Mint Aeros at midnight. He tried the 24hr garages but no luck so went hoping to find a shop still open. He was slowing down as he was passing each shop. Then police pulled him over for looking suspicious. He explained the Pregnant wife, Mint Aeros, they laughed and led him to a 24hr corner shop, he then cleared the shelf of mint aeros!

Realitysucks · 11/08/2019 09:58

Omg I would have gone mental at DH and would have made him drive back from friends to get snacks!

  1. You are preggers, end of !
  2. You are home with child so he can have a break with mates.
  3. It’s all about you girl till that little bean comes out ! Any ‘Free time drinking with mates’ he gets he should count himself lucky and bend over backwards to make sure you are taken care of first!

My DH would have gone back to the shop and f he had forgotton and I’m not even preggers! (Yet! 😉)

LittleAndOften · 11/08/2019 10:40

"Surely you shouldn't be having that much sugar and/or caffeine during pregnancy anyway" Really?! Hmm

So many judgemental pps on this thread, I'm quite shocked. Crack on with your snacks OP. Your DH let you down with his thoughtlessness, whether you're pg or not.

BikeRunSki · 11/08/2019 11:46

I don’t think this thread is about the OPs desire for something sweet, more her dg’s thoughtlessness. She asked him to do something before he went out to make her evening a bit more enjoyable, whilst of and looking after their older child. He undertook to do this, but didn’t. She can’t go out because she has a young child asleep at home. So get the OPs evening was a little but downgraded through no fault of get Jen, yet her DH carried on enjoying himself as planned.

BertrandRussell · 11/08/2019 12:19

Can’t believe anyone thinks the OP is in the wrong in this situation!

LittleBearPad · 11/08/2019 12:25

Can’t believe anyone thinks the OP is in the wrong in this situation!

Agreed!

EdtheBear · 11/08/2019 13:18

It's completely about thoughtlessness. It's not about the chocolate.
I wonder what the responses would have been if she was after milk or loo roll.

Cloglover · 11/08/2019 13:25

Absolute yanbu. He said he would and he didn't. Had he said he wouldn't op could have gone herself. She's also pg so should be treated as a goddess anyhow 😉Have rtwt, but hope he's made amends. Hope his forgetting wasn't malicious. X

Original poster
Howdidido · 11/08/2019 17:42

Apologies for not replying! I fell asleep soon after milkshake- and obviously was no longer annoyed once I'd had my milkshake!
DH returned earlier than usual with a selection of white, milk and dark chocolate. And sparkling water which is my weird craving....
He was a bit annoyed the last message I'd left was how annoyed I was. But he made up for it. Apparently he'd thought I meant get chocolate on his way home (craziness!)

The milkshake BTW was amazing. Dangerously so. I may have to add them to my frequently called numbers...

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Howdidido · 11/08/2019 17:44

And who are these weird people who are satisfied with a 'nutritious meal' when their head and stomach have already thought of chocolate?!?!
I'm assuming those who think pregnant women shouldn't eat chocolate have 1)never been pregnant And 2) never been near a pregnant woman!

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Cloglover · 11/08/2019 22:56

Glad there was a happy ending. By happy ending I mean post carb snooze.

EdtheBear · 11/08/2019 23:14

Happy days - and he's topped up your chocolate stash!

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Kinsters · 12/08/2019 02:50

Glad you got your milkshake and treats and it was just a misunderstanding!

What's the point of being in a relationship if you don't do nice things for each other?!