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Friend said her husband hates my 7 year old!

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Lovethetimeyouhave · 09/08/2019 16:10

Had a friend round with her 3 boys today, 8, 5, 5

We have known each other about 6 years, she has had my son for 4 days once because I went out of the country and got delayed returning.

During those 4 days, her husband spent time with my son alone as they went shopping! Supposed to have had fun.

Well, we were sat in the garden and she just informed me her husband doesn't like my sweet 7 year old, my boy hasn't been rude to him, he just doesn't like my sons dad so in turn doesn't like my son.

I was speechless and she's just left, I have no idea what to do, we spend a lot of time at their house and her husband is always there, he doesn't work, today was the first time in about a year I've seen her alone!

Should I bring it up? I can't ever imagine saying I dont like a child because of their dad.

For context my partner and her husband do not get on!

OP posts:
WorraLiberty · 09/08/2019 17:51

I said at the time "I cant believe that he would say that, we both now your ds is a difficult child but I dont hate him, hes a child!"

Sorry, what was that in reply to?

IceQueenCometh · 09/08/2019 17:51

@Weezol Grin

Honestly OP, thins seems like the perfect opportunity to never speak to her or any of her family ever again

Timandra · 09/08/2019 17:53

I had a friend whose coercive controlling husband decided he didn't want my DD1 being around their DD. He started to make up lies about my DD.

I found them hard to believe at first but you can never be sure. Then he lied blatantly about what he'd overheard her saying on the phone to me so I knew for sure he was the one who was lying. My friend had to come down on his side so the friendship ended. It was exactly what he wanted.

I'm hanging out for the day I hear she has seen the light and left the abusive twunt.

diddl · 09/08/2019 17:57

Oh this is ridiculous.

She said that a 7yr old was asking the devil to come to her house & you didn't immediately think WTF & decide to not see them/her again?

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2019 17:58

Actually OP, I've just realised you're the poster with the nasty, misogynistic shit of a husband.

I'm not surprised this guy doesn't like him and I'm going to be honest, given some of your husband's views on women and the language he uses about them, it wouldn't surprise me if your DS did say "The bitch can wait".

Don't know about the devil thing but it's a weird thing to lie about.

Horehound · 09/08/2019 17:59

Ohhh interesting worra.

PixieLumos · 09/08/2019 18:01

He’s very unreasonable for thinking that and she’s very unreasonable for telling you about it. I agree with PP. Find some better friends.

IvanaPee · 09/08/2019 18:01

Oh my god that bastard!

No wonder your friend’s dh hates him. He probably doesn’t want his family around the shit show of your life and frankly, neither would I.

I 100% believe that your ds made that bitch comment. And this is the type of thing you were warned about last year.

Aaarrgghhh · 09/08/2019 18:05

Don’t get me wrong, I can dislike children (I don’t like to use the word hate because I don’t hold a grudge but my god one in particular is annoying) there is a four year old I can’t stand and she has a rude mouth on her (must come from the parents, I can’t think where else) but even I wouldn’t say I hate her, I’m also polite to her until she starts being rude. I also don’t dislike children because of their parents as it’s ridiculous, I’d go as far as not having him round and only see the mum on her own, if he hates your kid then why be around him, you know?

Fillipe · 09/08/2019 18:05

Can't understand why you even stayed in touch after the devil thing? What exactly are you doing?

DotForShort · 09/08/2019 18:06

What? Confused I would be less concerned with their dishonesty than their apparent lack of critical thinking.

Why doesn’t her husband work? Is he the SAHP?

winteryslippers · 09/08/2019 18:09

Which post has the previous info on about the rude OP's husband ?

Dolphinia · 09/08/2019 18:10

So is the devil actually at her house now? I can see how that would be a bit annoying

Aaarrgghhh · 09/08/2019 18:11

Oh, so it seems there is more to this..

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2019 18:18

You could probably take your pick winteryslippers.

whatever123noname · 09/08/2019 18:19

Your friend was nasty. However, reading your prior threads OP, and your DP is horrible, has a terrible attitude to women and treats you like shit. It really is very likely it's influencing your son and he is saying these things. Kids pick up on these things easily and tend to repeat our behaviour.

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2019 18:26

Well, we were sat in the garden and she just informed me her husband doesn't like my sweet 7 year old, my boy hasn't been rude to him, he just doesn't like my sons dad so in turn doesn't like my son.

Thinking about it again, could this be your friend's way of informing you that your boy is indeed growing up like his dad?

If he is, that's literally the last thing anyone would want for a 'sweet' 7 year old.

Patroclus · 09/08/2019 18:29

Go to her house dressed as satan and release a goat.

separatelives · 09/08/2019 18:38

She sounds like the mother in Oranges Are Not The Only Fruit
Ooh I remember that, wasn't it good. The mother was awful wasn't she.
Sorry to divert Op.

goingdeepinthesky · 09/08/2019 18:46

After Worra's post I have just glanced at one of your previous posts - your husband does call women bitches in your home. It is entirely possible your son did call you a bitch, and the friend's husband is not lying.

Your son will pick up your husband's attitude to women.

Justme1234567 · 09/08/2019 18:55

Please find new friends, even if her DH did say that why did she even have to tell you, she’s trying to hurt you on purpose x

goingdeepinthesky · 09/08/2019 18:57

I also see from previous posts you have previously considered leaving your DH due to his attitude to you. Maybe this could be a flag that you need to consider the impact of his behaviour on your son?

icelollycraving · 09/08/2019 18:58

Why doesn’t he like your partner?
Clearly they are bloody odd. I’m trying to make sense out of this...no, nothing.

WorraLiberty · 09/08/2019 18:58

Please find new friends, even if her DH did say that why did she even have to tell you, she’s trying to hurt you on purpose x

To warn her that her son is taking after her prick of a husband?

tobedtoMNandfart · 09/08/2019 18:58

Haven't RTFT. Has the OP confirmed yet that her son is NOT the devil incarnate??...
😈🤣

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