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Friend said her husband hates my 7 year old!

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Lovethetimeyouhave · 09/08/2019 16:10

Had a friend round with her 3 boys today, 8, 5, 5

We have known each other about 6 years, she has had my son for 4 days once because I went out of the country and got delayed returning.

During those 4 days, her husband spent time with my son alone as they went shopping! Supposed to have had fun.

Well, we were sat in the garden and she just informed me her husband doesn't like my sweet 7 year old, my boy hasn't been rude to him, he just doesn't like my sons dad so in turn doesn't like my son.

I was speechless and she's just left, I have no idea what to do, we spend a lot of time at their house and her husband is always there, he doesn't work, today was the first time in about a year I've seen her alone!

Should I bring it up? I can't ever imagine saying I dont like a child because of their dad.

For context my partner and her husband do not get on!

OP posts:
Drum2018 · 09/08/2019 16:54

There are kids I don't particularly like but I'd never tell their parents. It's not uncommon to dislike other people's kids, but it's rude to say it straight out. I wouldn't go to her house anymore. They sound odd.

Deathraystare · 09/08/2019 16:54

'I'm sorry my son tried to call the devil to your house. He knows he should not be summoning without an appropriate adult present, or while wearing everyday clothing. His robe was in the wash that day, but that's no excuse for departing from ceremonial practise. I can't believe he's been so disrespectful. I will be making him watch Songs of Praise on Sunday as a consequence for his carelessness.'

Brilliant! Still if you have named your child Damian......

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 09/08/2019 16:56

Text her and tell that you no friendship with anyone who thinks so badly of a child. Then block.

PapaShango · 09/08/2019 16:57

And she is always going on about how I dont see her enough! It'll be less now

Less now? You need to stop seeing her at all. With the devil comment and her dh not liking your son, why would you ever put your son back in that environment. Madness. You must be really desperate for her friendship if you’re thinking of staying in contact with her

user1498572889 · 09/08/2019 16:58

Have you asked your son if everything was ok when he spends time there. They are nuts and I would be wary of your son being there.

HiJenny35 · 09/08/2019 17:00

Now this is either untrue or seriously what are you thinking? They said you son called you a bitch and you didn't ask him about it when you got home? When he told you he didn't why didn't you speak to them at that point? What 7 year old would say "the bitch can wait", if you thought there was a chance he did then I'd be very concerned that your child's behaviour is very bad. They said he summon the devil? What did your child say? What conversation did you have afterwards with him about what the devil was and where he'd heard of 666? If he didn't know about it why didn't you take this up with them? So now they have said this and still your answer is "I'm going to be seeing less of them" why on earth would you allow these people to treat your child like this?

Candymay · 09/08/2019 17:02

I would not associate with these oddballs and most definitely would not leave a child with them. Not for five minutes.

dollydaydream114 · 09/08/2019 17:02

there are always lies made up about my son after he has visited, last weeks was that ds had called the devil to their house

Who the fuck is this man? The Witchfinder General?

Please stop leaving your son with two people who are apparently minor characters from The Crucible before they submit him to the ducking stool.

OhLookHeKickedTheBall · 09/08/2019 17:03

Wow, crazy. Is there any chance he's trying to so late your friend though, using her loose lippedness into actively losing her friends? Not that it means you shouldn't keep that away from your dc though.

Horehound · 09/08/2019 17:03

They sound thick as mince, uneducated and tinky. No loss

Fernie6491 · 09/08/2019 17:03

On a more serious note , are they like the relative of poor Victoria Clombie, who was killed by her aunt because she thought Victoria was 'possessed' by the devil? That was an evil thing to do, and makes one think of these people who still believe in such things.
Ignorant and easily manipulated.

Boysey45 · 09/08/2019 17:08

You can get some really badly behaved young children but it tends to be in my experience because their parents let them do exactly what they want and never put any boundaries in place. I think that trying to summon up the devil though is a bit far fetched.

Her husband isn't Gregory Peck is he?

bodgeitandscarper · 09/08/2019 17:08

No way would I Ieave my son with them, what if they tried to do some weird exorcism or somethng? They sound mental!

Is there a reason they don't like your partner/son's father? Havethey been involved in the occult or anything?
Anyway, time to move on, with friends like that who needs enemies?

Icecreamsoda99 · 09/08/2019 17:11

All you have is her word that her DH said this, it might well be her imagining it all and she has a serious mental health issue. You should not let your child see these people again.

MrsTWH · 09/08/2019 17:11

At first I thought you were in denial about your son being badly behaved and that was her way of telling you. We all think the best of our children but it can be frustrating when your friend’s child is incredibly badly behaved but they are never disciplined/the parent thinks they are a perfect angel who can do no wrong... do you think there could be some truth in this?

However, on reading your further posts - I would never leave my son with them again. Why did you leave your son there for 4 days? Was there nobody else that could help? How did you get Stuck abroad for so long?
They sound unhinged to be honest, have you discussed these accusations with your son at all?

If it were me, the friendship would be over. Why would she say something like that to you?!

IslandTulip · 09/08/2019 17:12

Fernie6491 That's who is made me think of too

IslandTulip · 09/08/2019 17:12

It

SomeAfternoonDelight · 09/08/2019 17:14

Tbh OP your friend sounds rather odd.. might she think your husband fancies you or something? Why would you drop your husband in it? Do you see my point? It sounds like she would prefer you to dislike her husband? I mean 6 years isn’t that long really for real home truths to be acceptably spoken about imo. Seems odd. I would be embarrassed if it was my DP saying such things even if I did agree with him I would never ever want my friend to know.

Zaphodsotherhead · 09/08/2019 17:15

So her DH told her that your DS 'summoned the devil' and also 'called you a bitch'? She didn't actually hear this herself, just took his word for it? And he doesn't work - what does he do all day?

Is there a chance that he is a poisonous twatbox who likes to spread stories like this for his own reasons?

JeanMichelBisquiat · 09/08/2019 17:31

Either he or she sound mentally very unwell.

Am I right that you left your child with them for four days after they told you he'd been summoning the devil? Please don't EVER leave your child with them again, and I wouldn't be having any more contact with them.

ILearnedItFromABook · 09/08/2019 17:33

...What in the world? I'm with everyone else on this. Your friend and her husband are extremely weird. I wouldn't want to leave my child alone with them again, even without the new knowledge that the husband "hates" your child just because of who his father happens to be.

I'd stop meeting up-- and would probably tell her exactly why, if she insisted on knowing.

MozarellaBalls · 09/08/2019 17:35

They sound like a pair of nutters! Keep your son away from their weirdness.

IvanaPee · 09/08/2019 17:38
Hmm

So hang on. You’re always at their house with ds. She came over today and announced out of nowhere that her husband hates your son?

Then, she had him for FOUR DAYS because you were delayed???

Then she said he was summoning the devil and your response was:

I said at the time "I cant believe that he would say that, we both now your ds is a difficult child but I dont hate him, hes a child!"

What???

JellyNo15 · 09/08/2019 17:42

If this had happened to me I would thank her for telling you (whether he said in or not) so you now know to keep your son away from him. Then I would ask her what she said in reply. If she did not defend your son, as he is only a young child, then I would tell her she is not a real friend and that I am ending the friendship.

In fact I would still do that as I wouldn't let my DS anywhere near these wierdos, I would be scared for my sons safety. Why on earth did you leave him with them for four days, you must have got some uncomfortable ibes before?

Hecateh · 09/08/2019 17:49

I suspect her husband doesn't like you either - probably doesn't like her having any friends.
Rather than say things about you that his wife knows aren't true, or maybe his wife refusing to act on him being rude about you, he tells lies about your son - things only he has heard.

He doesn't like your husband - makes far more sense to dislike you by association rather than a child.
This way he is getting his own way and in the process isolating his wife.

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