Friend said her husband hates my 7 year old!

[Lovethetimeyouhave]

Had a friend round with her 3 boys today, 8, 5, 5

We have known each other about 6 years, she has had my son for 4 days once because I went out of the country and got delayed returning.

During those 4 days, her husband spent time with my son alone as they went shopping! Supposed to have had fun.

Well, we were sat in the garden and she just informed me her husband doesn't like my sweet 7 year old, my boy hasn't been rude to him, he just doesn't like my sons dad so in turn doesn't like my son.

I was speechless and she's just left, I have no idea what to do, we spend a lot of time at their house and her husband is always there, he doesn't work, today was the first time in about a year I've seen her alone!

Should I bring it up? I can't ever imagine saying I dont like a child because of their dad.

For context my partner and her husband do not get on!

I don't like anyones kids but I just don't tell them

Your priority is your son. I don't think you can continue the friendship any longer. If they can tell you to your face that he doesnt like your son (who is a small child and has done nothing wrong) then he really isn't safe with them is he? I would send a message explaining that you, "found her words quite hurtful and won't be visiting any more."

They both sound deranged. I wouldn't see them or let my DC anywhere near them. Called the devil to their house? FFS, next they'll be calling a priest to exorcise him. I'd cut them out of your life right now.

Yes apparently called the devil to her house, you know, something I've never heard ds mention or anything! She sent me a message saying

"Yesterday * were asking the devil to come in my house and say 666. I just found out now. I am quite superstitious on this things please talk to him because I don't like him say this things in my house"

That's the exact message with ds name taken out!

When asked, she said her husband heard him, we were all in the house, I heard nothing.

There were other lies too, I called ds once to leave and he did the usual not wanting to leave, I was in the hallway, ds in the lounge, no door... later on she text me telling me her husband said the my ds had said "the bitch can wait"

Now it all makes sense.

You are right! I am so hurt and deeply angry about it. I said at the time "I cant believe that he would say that, we both now your ds is a difficult child but I dont hate him, hes a child!"

was that ds had called the devil to their house.
These people are unhinged, also claiming your 7 yr old called you a bitch?
Does your son routinely swear and summon the devil?
Are they members of a weird religion/cult?
Do not leave your child there ever!

No, nothing more than usual 7 year old rudeness sometimes! They are also not in any cult, they stay home all the time

Oh it would be on like Donkey Kong for me to hear anyone say that about my boy

Distance yourself.

I'd be very tempted to reply:

'I'm sorry my son tried to call the devil to your house. He knows he should not be summoning without an appropriate adult present, or while wearing everyday clothing. His robe was in the wash that day, but that's no excuse for departing from ceremonial practise. I can't believe he's been so disrespectful. I will be making him watch Songs of Praise on Sunday as a consequence for his carelessness.'

But because I'm a grown up I wouldn't do that, I'd actually just drop the 'friends' like a hot rock.

He’s nuts. Your son shouldn’t be around him full stop.

HAHAHA Weezol I really like that reply.

OP it is certainly time to find new friends, they seem to think you son is evil, so time to stop spending time with these idiots. Do you by any chance think she was trying to warn you her husband has taken against your son and it might be better not to come around with him?

What Weezol said.

@Weezol I just burst out laughing 😆

In all seriousness @Lovethetimeyouhave WTAF? Are these people drunk, high or overly religious? They sound batshit and compulsive liars.

I’d be inclined to say “After our conversation today and your bizarre accusations about X summoning the devil and calling me a bitch, I’ve decided that the two of you are either utter twats, compulsive liars or completely batshit. None of which makes me want to remain friends with you so fuckity bye.”

Lol Weezol

I don't understand why you would tell that to a friend but I would say something like, what a coincidence, neither my DH nor I can stand your DH.

Why are you friends with her? "Called the devil to her house"? They sound unhinged
I wouldnt be spending any more time with them!

I'm unsure whether your friend and husband are from a religious background that believes in the devil etc, or whether there is something else going on.

But whatever it is, it doesn't sound healthy with the focus on your DS. For his sake, end the friendship.

You saw her on her own and she tells you that her husband doesn't like him. Are you sure he doesn't? Could she just be telling you that to get rid of you?

they sound...umm, uneducated?

She makes up lies about your son?

You should have dumped her already!

Wow they’re bonkers. Best off far away from them.

Get rid of her asap. Tell her why and protect your DS. She sounds unhinged and her husband is a dangerous dick.

Is her DH Max von Sydow?

Tell them both to fuck right off. They are both as mad as a box of frogs.

You know, it makes sense now, there are always lies made up about my son after he has visited, last weeks was that ds had called the devil to their house... he's 7!!!!

This didn't raise any red flags with you? You just carried on meeting up?