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Would you find it awkward - bride singing to groom at wedding

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ShutUpandSing · 08/08/2019 19:30

I'm not sure whether to do this at my upcoming wedding or not.

Not in any way a stealth brag but I think relevant... I can sing (well I think!) and did vocal studies at university.

The problem is I have quite bad anxiety and get nervous over what people think! I never had the confidence to take it anywhere.

Be honest, what would think to this?

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SingingSands · 08/08/2019 22:10

It would be impossible not to cringe as a guest.

We had the "pleasure" of listening to a groom recite a poem he'd written especially for his bride, it was awful. And I got the worst case of the giggles which started to spread around our table...

So yeah, save it for the honeymoon!

LadyOfTheCanyon · 08/08/2019 22:11

Oh God no, I'd be sat there thinking why the feck is she making a Holy show of herself?

Friends of mine did the whole co ordinated first dance thing. It was terrible. People were leaving the room, staring at the floor or catching each other's eyes and shaking with laughter. It was almost 20 years ago and still spoken about in hushed tones.

AlexaAmbidextra · 08/08/2019 22:12

Derail but I saw online a woman and all her bridesmaids who sat her new DH in a chair and danced at him at the reception. She was v.good dancer. Bridesmaid's weren't. It was a short skirt high heels bootylicious type dance.

Oh God. I wonder if that was my friend’s stepdaughters wedding. My friend showed me the dance on her phone afterwards. The bride and bridesmaids were in basques and did a raunchy dance that seemed to go on for hours. I was almost under the table with embarrassment for them just watching the video. Mind you, the looks on the guests faces were very entertaining. 😂

Silenttype · 08/08/2019 22:15

@Bezalelle

Crying 😂😂😂

Yourostar · 08/08/2019 22:17

I am astonished at how many of you are so buttoned up and mean spirited as to cringe. Get a life, honestly! Sitting and nitpicking from the sidelines while someone else puts themselves out there to be creative? That's no way for you to spend your one wild and precious life.

Or...are you all imagining it's mostly done to be a show off, or the singer pretending to be better than other people? That's really not why most singers sing.

Taste can be bad. Songs can be cheesy. The vibe can be over-serious and get tacky. Sometimes it's full of accidental comedy. But ffs it's someone singing to someone they love. Get over yourselves.

OP if you do it with joy and carefree spirit & don't take yourself too seriously it will be great for everyone. And if they don't like it, fuck 'em.

Cacacoisfarraige · 08/08/2019 22:19

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zeddybrek · 08/08/2019 22:20

I was the guest at a wedding where the bride sang to the groom.

Sorry but it was very cringe worthy

Please don't.

Mythreefavouritethings · 08/08/2019 22:22

Oh God, I’ve been at a wedding where this was done and it was just hideously awkward. It isn’t about how good the singing is, it’s just such a personal and intimate moment, and it felt a bit embarrassing for the rest of us. If you feel strongly then go for it, it’s your day and your loved ones would want you to do what made you happy, but it was honestly toe-curling.

Crazycrazylady · 08/08/2019 22:22

Please don't.
Saw it once and that was enough.

rugshade · 08/08/2019 22:23

Oh God, don't do it!

PolkaDotted · 08/08/2019 22:25

If you find it so bloody difficult to understand that other people don't have to like and appreciate the same things that you do then perhaps you should get over yourself, Yourostar.

EmeraldShamrock · 08/08/2019 22:27

I think it would be really personal and romantic, if there is any day your confidence will shine it will be on your wedding day. Early Congratulations Flowers

Proseccoinamug · 08/08/2019 22:27

My friend did this. She’s a classically trained singer. It was awesome. Spine tingling. I remember it twenty years on.

Phoebesgift · 08/08/2019 22:27

I don't think you should. Too cheesy.

thelikelylass · 08/08/2019 22:30

Rictus smiles on all the photos of this part of your wedding.

Sarcelle · 08/08/2019 22:33

Tacky

EskewedBeef · 08/08/2019 22:36

I went to a wedding where the best man sang to the groom during his speech! I was chewing my fist with embarrassment.

I'd rather have no solo singing at a wedding, if I'm honest. A choir as entertainment would be fine, far less intimate and easier to look away from without appearing rude.

SleepWarrior · 08/08/2019 22:37

I'd be one of the people turning themselves inside out with cringe. But, if you and your husband would both love it, it really doesn't matter if some guests wince.

However, if there's a chance that you might cringe looking back then do NOT do it as it will haunt you forever!

HeadintheiClouds · 08/08/2019 22:38

I see SGB is still shiteing on about Mundanes, aka anyone who disagrees with any of her frankly bizarre views on life.

Kerrywerrywoo1 · 08/08/2019 22:38

No please don’t, please.
Unless you are Mariah Carey you shouldn’t sing at your wedding. Sing in bed or bath to your hubby but too sing in front of a shit load of friends n family is totally Awkwarrrrrrrrrrrrd. Wedding days are a bit strange at best - tired, frazzled, overexcited, whatever but throw in the pressure of performing could add to unnecessary pressure. I mean go for karaoke and let rip - it’s less ‘ look at MEEEEEE ‘ and more ‘ omg she can sing wow’ ......

Ilovemypantry · 08/08/2019 22:42

BananaFace5
sang herself up the aisle

Don’t know why, but this made me laugh so much 😂😂

Smidge001 · 08/08/2019 22:42

Awful! So cringe worthy I already want to curl up in a ball ànd turn away just at the thought of it

AlexaAmbidextra · 08/08/2019 22:42

Is Mundanes the new Randoms? Just asking.

IABUQueen · 08/08/2019 22:43

Why don’t you sing a duet and record it and play it at the wedding ?

Yourostar · 08/08/2019 22:45

As I said, people have different tastes and may well sing in a way you don't "like or appreciate". All fine - you don't have to enjoy it but you can appreciate the thought and effort.

it's objectively a bad thing to be judgy (and make no mistake, "cringe" is judgement, it's "I feel bad for you as you have broken the social rules"). Cringers say more about themselves than the thing they cringe at.