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Would you find it awkward - bride singing to groom at wedding

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ShutUpandSing · 08/08/2019 19:30

I'm not sure whether to do this at my upcoming wedding or not.

Not in any way a stealth brag but I think relevant... I can sing (well I think!) and did vocal studies at university.

The problem is I have quite bad anxiety and get nervous over what people think! I never had the confidence to take it anywhere.

Be honest, what would think to this?

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thecatsthecats · 09/08/2019 08:25

Hmm. My instinct was cringe. But then my BIL did sing to my stepsister and it was lovely. He is an actor, so no issues with confidence or competence.

The song was also very jovial - Have you met Miss Jones? (her maiden name). That really helped. It wasn't some romantic ode we were all supposed to sigh or cry to.

Cerealkillers · 09/08/2019 08:27

If its a fun song rather than romantic it could be great as everyone could join in...but if its a romantic staring into his eyes song my toenails would be curling.

francienolan · 09/08/2019 08:34

I would hate that as a guest and wouldnt know where to look. I'm afraid it would also be the subject of conversation for ages after in my family.

I had a boyfriend in school who tried to sing to me and it was like...the worst few minutes of my life so far I think Grin

WTF0ver · 09/08/2019 08:38

My friend's mum sang at her wedding. They're now divorced (not because of the singing).

Also went to a wedding where the couple did a dance routine at the wedding (they'd had lessons). It was nice but I was a bit thrown by it because it wasn't the sort of thing I expected from the groom.

dragonflyflew · 09/08/2019 08:46

Save your song for after the reception. It's such an intimate gesture so wait for an intimate moment like when he's going down on you and just really belt it out. He will never forget it wink

Bravo!

FrameyMcFrame · 09/08/2019 08:52

I was at a wedding where the bride sang Annie's Song to the groom during the ceremony.

It was unbearable and I corpsed along with a plenty of others in the audience.

It was full on classical voice with vibrato and just so bizarre and in the wrong context

I think when you're getting married you can't be the bride and part of the entertainment as well, it's just so incongruous!

whywhywhy6 · 09/08/2019 08:56

Cringe worthy. I’d disappear out a side door so I didn’t have to witness it.

Nicolastuffedone · 09/08/2019 09:04

I’d die. Same with these choreographed dances, flash dance thing....I can’t bear to watch them! Like PP’s I’d have to leave the room 🙈 I went to a wedding once where the B & G were am-dram performers, and instead of a first dance they done a re-enactment of ‘Anything you can do, I can do better’ complete with the drawling accents, and circling each other etc. Worst. Thing. Ever.

ElphabaTheGreen · 09/08/2019 09:06

Nicolastuffedone I am clenching in excruciation just reading that...

PurBal · 09/08/2019 09:08

Not weird at all. Some friends did a duet and sang themselves into their first dance before their singing friends took over. I think it's lovely.

LazyFace · 09/08/2019 09:12

I'd struggle to hide my giggles.

Nicolastuffedone · 09/08/2019 09:15

Yes Elphaba it was years ago, and I can remember it as if it were yesterday.....it was so awful. 😮 (this was how I looked!)

Confrontayshunme · 09/08/2019 09:52

As a fellow singer who has been to some fun wedding where there were couples singing and dancing, I would go for it with some serious caveats:

  1. No one wants to hear you singing Ed Sheeran "I'm in Love with your body". Gross.
  2. Equally, no one wants to hear a meaningful Adele anthem, opera aria or The Greatest Showman. Boring, too overdone and cringey.
  3. Do not do anything with good choreo unless you will do it too and super well. i.e. Dirty Dancing or Single Ladies
  4. Make sure it is NOT during the toasts but a fun impromptu for DJ to play along when everyone is standing and people can either dance along or escape.
  5. It HAS to be funny. If you are going to be nervous or can't pull off changing the words to take the mick out of yourself and DH, ABORT!
  6. Finally, if there is ANY chance you will forget to eat and drink too much due to nerves, it will be hella awkward. You AND DH need to be totally sober and ready to have fun.

If it fits the above, DO IT! The best one I have seen was a groom in musicals with a wife called Amelia, who did a randy version of "I want to be in America" from West Side Story complete with groomsmen and a fan dance sequence, changing America to Amelia! It had everyone in stitches right before he left for their wedding night.

ihadedto · 09/08/2019 09:56

nicholasstufhdone pissing myself laughing Grin was there anyone left in the room at that one.
Oh and SG yes I do properly cringe at the first dance. Unbearable.

BagsBagsandMoreBags · 09/08/2019 10:22

Why is everyone ignoring the OP who, after reading the the first half of the thread, decided against it confused - no need to keep beating her with the stick of how bad an idea it is!

Because posters love clinging onto something they think is embarrassing to the OP. Like flies around shit 🙄

Idontwanttotalk · 09/08/2019 10:37

I'd want to know in advance so I could think up an excuse for why I couldn't come. it's ridiculously cringeworthy. I don't care how well you can sing.

georgialondon · 09/08/2019 11:04

It's your wedding so do it if you want.

I'd find it really cringey to watch though.

SootySueandSweeptoo · 09/08/2019 11:15

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Buddyelf · 09/08/2019 12:14

I'd cringe so hard I'd probably turn inside out.

Grin

This though I’m sorry. I’d have to leave the room.

Divebar · 09/08/2019 12:25

At the reception and a fun song then fill your boots. Linn Manuel-Miranda did a great number from Fiddler in the roof for his wife with the entire wedding party as a surprise. Seriously most of them could not sing a note but it was a lot of fun. ( imagine the pressure of having to sing with him!). Have a look on You Tube. I think it would work best if it was a song you might not associate with weddings - a Marilyn Manson done acoustically or something.

Rezie · 09/08/2019 15:28

I think that singing to the audience and dedicating the song to your husband it perfectly fine m singing to your husband is a bit cringe.

GoodbyeRosie · 09/08/2019 15:32

I would be alternating between cringing and having a fit of the giggles.

I would assume that the bride just wanted to show off even more than normal, by showing what an amazing voice she ( thinks) she has.

CharityDingle · 09/08/2019 15:56

Like PP’s I’d have to leave the room 🙈 I went to a wedding once where the B & G were am-dram performers, and instead of a first dance they done a re-enactment of ‘Anything you can do, I can do better’ complete with the drawling accents, and circling each other etc. Worst. Thing. Ever.

Grin that is so funny! I feel your pain though.

OP, I don't know tbh. I remember watching a clip online that other people were really taken with, a groom singing to the bride. And there was a slight element (I thought) of her not really knowing what to do/ how to react.

Bluntness100 · 09/08/2019 16:06

Op, good decision to not do this. You can sing to him in th privacy of your honey moon suite if you both like that sort of thing, but it's the right decision not to make others watch.

If you just want to sing publicly. The way to do it at your wedding is to do a song with the band, a cool fun song. Nothing soppy and cringey.

Glitterfisher · 09/08/2019 16:08

Hmmm, I am from a performing background and I am not sure I would even not cringe at this. A friend/sibling/child if really good singers perhaps but not the bride or groom. I have seen that a few times and it's been lovely. SIL had her daughter who was about 11 play a musical instrument at hers in the ceremony, it was very cringy as she wasn't very good, a bit sweet though I guess.

I have seen one first dance that was properly choreographed but neither were dancers so it was pretty awful, everyone was just sat there watching two really bad dancers for 3 or 4 minutes, 1st dance is bad enough as it is. Now if they were both professional dancers then it would be amazing of course.

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