I seriously don’t really like people - anyone

[SomeAfternoonDelight]

No seriously I don’t.

And is that unreasonable? Does that mean something’s wrong? It feels to me like there is. But it doesn’t really bother me. I haven’t got much feeling towards people anymore. I sometimes wish to be alone - totally alone.

Mumsnet is fascinating to see the anonymous dynamics of what’s mostly hysteria in someone’s life. Or dysfunctional dynamics. Or heartbreaking shit. And I think that’s unhealthy that, that might be why I come here. I will NC after this by the way 😂.

I have friends who I know love me whole heartedly. A DP who adores me. A mother who has always been devoted to me. Nieces and nephews who love me and depend on me. But then there’s just me. I don’t even know if I like myself? I love my dog. I really get that feeling of love in my tummy for my dog. And my DP - but it’s too intense my feelings for him it feels unreal it sickens me?

But ultimately I don’t like/love anyone, or anything. Is it the relationship I have with me? This, it’s getting tiresome. Is there something mentally wrong with me? Like something not right up in the old thinker?

Or do some of you feel this pit of emptiness that gets filled once in a blue moon?

I’ve had therapy.

There’s so much in my life that’s amazing. And I’m seriously just not living it at the moment. I’m only young - late 20s.

Fuck.

This thread resonates with me well. I have been a people pleaser all my life. I have gone out of my way for those around me. I have turned myself inside out trying to help others, running around frantically, listening to others problems and expecting nothing in return. Then recently I was betrayed terribly by what I thought was a very close friend. And then following that became very unwell and had a long period of time in hospital.

It shattered everything for me. I now feel totally burnt out by people. I no longer want to try to please or make others like me. I have a very limited number of people now who I truely care for. Everyone else gets polite me but no more. It would take a lot for me to open up to letting anyone into my life from here.

I get it. I only really like/love my family and DP. Haven't much time for anyone else anymore.

My husband is like this. He really loves my son, our dog, me and his parents. He likes other family and a few friends but really doesn’t care about anyone else

I was like this for most of my life, but weirdly, it seemed to wear out once I reached my 30s.

I used to think people would be shocked if they knew how little I cared for them / that I could up and leave at any point and not care about anyone really as they were all replaceable.

I'm guessing I had some sort of brain development burst or my new slightly cleaner living life helped right anything odd going on. Also, the self confidence I gained with age helped me to open up emotionally and care more.

I'm still slightly cold now but happy to report that I love my friends husband and child!

rosein, I get what you are saying. I also feel "betrayed" by the people around me though not for some major incident. I can't remember the last time anyone did anything for me, thought of me or bought me a gift. I seem to have spent 30 years putting others first and myself last. Despite this I get little back in the way of kindness and respect and I have had enough of it. I am starting to put myself first now and am even considering cutting some extended relatives out of my life. I think the menopause has made me think very differently.

I love my family. Other people just get in my way. I'm polite and I'll be nice to people if I'm in a situation where I have to talk to them, but I'm not interested in anything they have to say.

I’m not a people person at all. I have DH, a child and 3 close friends. People annoy me and I just cannot be bothered.

Now I look at it, I only really became that way after I suffered meningitis last year.