To roller skate in a crematorium

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I’ve been learning to skate at a roller derby fundamentals programme and I’m loving it- however I’m not very good and need lots of practice.

I’m not good enough to skate on uneven ground and feel very self conscious about being a woman in her mid thirties struggling to stay upright!

All of the parks nearby are very busy and hilly and uneven so not suitable for skating. I was moaning about it to DP who suggested the local crematorium, it has lovely gardens and a really smooth wide car park that would be perfect for skating on.

My instant reaction was that it would be disrespectful and wrong but when he asked me why I couldn’t articulate it. I’ve been jogging there before and see joggers every time I’m there (you cut through it to get to local playing fields and a play park) plus dog walkers, cyclists and just people going for a walk.

Obviously I’d never dream of practising at any time when a service might be on, but would it be so terrible in the evening or early morning? Logically I think DP is right and it’s just exercise the same as running but somehow it seems too exuberant and joyous to be appropriate, what do you think, wibu to skate at a quite time?

Obviously YABU!

But the thread title made me LOL.

No. Disrespectful. I would not be impressed with anyone using the crematorium where my mum's memorial is to roller skate in, just as I wouldn't with anyone practising jazz dance or playing on their iPad. It's not a leisure space. The joggers and dog walking don't make it ok. They're just the thin end of the wedge.

I visit the cemetery alot to tend to my dd's grave. If I saw you roller skating my first thought would be that you were aff yer nut!
I would also hope you didn't take a trip onto any graves.
Personally it wouldn't upset me.

I think if you have had pause for thought to the extent that you have posted on here, then SOMEBODY somewhere is going to feel the same.

Eating lunch, walking and jogging are not the same as roller skating OP.

Sorry no, I don’t think it would be ok. Go further afield?

I would say no, have respect for the place and for the people.

People going there feel emotional and vulnerable, they plan visits on anniversaries, birthdays and important calendar dates.

Their feelings of loss are very acute in the days approaching the anniversaries as well as the days themselves

People will be there to greave babies, children, young adults, young parents, grandparents....

It’s a place for quiet, respectful reflection.

What about a school playground at the weekend (ours is open so I suppose not possible if very secure).

so you want to skate in its car park. The irony.

Of course you can’t, have some common sense.

No. That is a place for paying respects not for dog walking, running, skating or whatever else you feel like.

Show some respect FFS.

When I am at my mums grave (she is not near) I go and sit down and chat to her. I would not appreciate roller skating and I have today replaced my daughters roller skates as she snapped the wheel off - god knows how!

Surely most Crems shut their gates out of hours?...a fully grown woman would look quite bizarre skating around a crematorium.
A large graveyard locally has smooth paths, but even then, one does not see adults {or even children} skating or cycling there, unless it is to visit or tend to a grave...even as kids, we felt odd cycling on the footpath that passed between the cemetery.
Urban supermarket car parks are much better, out of hours...Skating could just look too frivolous a pastime for a crematorium..the Dead won't mind, but the living could well raise an eyebrow or two.

No way is this acceptable. It's a place people go to remember loved ones. I for one would not be happy having the sound of roller skates when I'm remembering g my mother peacefully

By your title , OP, I thought you meant actually INSIDE a crem .

For what its worth I think it would be unreasonable really

No, absolutely not. It's a place of remembrance, not a skate park. I'd have strong words to say if i arrived to lay flowers on my baby's memorial and someone was zipping up and down on skates

I personally wouldn’t mind, I’d quite like to see someone skating whilst I was visiting a grave, would make me feel life goes on, in a whimsical sort of way. BUT it seems there’s a strength of opinion on here and I’m in a minority.

Why don’t you ask the Skate program leader, i guarantee all the Derby players will know every place you can skate in the area.

(Ps make sure you get some outdoor wheels, Derby wheels are too hard and you will hate it/ trip on a stone)

No. Just no. Please don’t.

100% no. Many crematoriums have ashes buried there and so i’m sure that visitors show up unannounced and not at the same time as services all the time. If I turned up to pay respects to my dad’s plot and saw someone roller skating I’d find it incredibly disrepectul in the same way I’d find it if it was a grave yard. It’s a similar thing given ashes can be buried there. Even without that you don’t know all the times services are due to take place and would no doubt end up there at the wrong time. So a big no from me, must be plenty of parks or even industrial estates you can use off peak

A fully grown woman would look quite bizarre skating around a crematorium
😂😂😂

it wouldn't upset me! i love to see life in the cemetery when i visit, i think it helps me feel that the world of the dead is not some distant cut off place; that the people i love are still somehow part of things. plus the cemetery i visit can feel a bit unsafe when it is empty (muggings more of an issue than ghosts) so I am always happy to see the joggers and dog walkers.

perhaps what "respect" means is different in different cultures though. for me to feel you were disrespecting me or my dead relatives you'd need to be personally rude to me, defacing the graves, dropping litter or not picking up dog shit.

i don't get the hierarchy of acceptable activities thing either really. the cemetery i go to there are a few famous graves people come to visit because of who made the sculpture. sightseeing, essentially. where does that rank on a respectability scale?

i hope in the future arriving by car will be seen as far more disrespectful to the living than arriving by roller skate!

In the cemetery I usually meet the local drunks having a session.
To see the op flying by on her skates would make a pleasant surprise.

Parkhead Paradise, I think we are singing from the same hymn sheet :)

Just to clarify a few points. There’s no graves, it’s quite small and I’ve never seen anybody there who’s not jogging/ dog walking etc, never anybody there in quiet reflection because as I said it’s fairly small and not a graveyard, but this is after hours.

As it’s a cut through the gates are open all the time, and I live somewhere where all the supermarkets are 24 hours so no chance of an out of hours car park.

I do clearly have respect, hence I’ve never done it! But logically I can see DP’s point it’s basically a car park not skating around someone’s grave and I wouldn’t bat an eyelid at somebody running so what makes skating so different?