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Fat shamed at airport

213 replies

Misslu · 06/08/2019 21:49

Myself and my husband recently travelled back home from our all inclusive chill out holiday. The nature of the hotel was adults only, generally adult couples or mother daughter groups however there was two younger 20 girls who were at our hotel and also on our flights.

Myself and my husband have a bit of a tradition of having an Indian takeaway the night we return from holiday. It started on our honeymoon and we have carried it on ever since. In the queue for check in my dh reminded me of our tradition and asked me what I was having... As a joke I repeated the part from Gavin and Stacey and quoted smithys whole order.

Anyway hours later we are waiting for our baggage at the other end and these girls are directly in front of me. One girl turns to the other girl and said 'OMG did you hear thay girl in the check in queue' 'which one?' 'You know that annoying, fat one, with the massive double chin, you know she was at our hotel, you should have heard her saying what she was ordering from the Indian, greedy bitch'

At this point I was standing inches away from her, I didn't say anything but it has really hurt me.

For context, I've put on some weight recently (personal stress and comfort eating) and I'm a large 16. Already lacking in confidence about my figure and cringing at photos of me all week. I feel like this has really put a downer on an amazing holiday and tainted my memories. I really wish I had said something at the time but I was just so embarrassed.

OP posts:
NoSauce · 07/08/2019 08:27
Grin
Lilyannarose · 07/08/2019 08:28

I feel for you OP.
They clearly haven't yet matured from their school days and are not worth a minute of your head space.
I'm usually quite reserved but I don't think I would have been able to keep my mouth shut in that situation. You did well to refrain from saying anything! Flowers

amusedbush · 07/08/2019 08:52

Btw, what's a large 16?

Are you being deliberately obtuse? A large 16 is obviously someone who wears size 16/18 rather than 14/16 Hmm

feelingverylazytoday · 07/08/2019 08:56

I think most people have overheard something hurtful about ourselves, OP. I know I have. Just try and put it into perspective, she was a stranger who knows nothing about you or your life, don't give it another thought.
I have to agree though, some posters on this thread are also showing nasty attitudes - calling other women 'cunts', 'skanks', advocating physical violence. Two wrongs don't make a right.
And I've never watched Gavin and Stacey myself and wouldn't have recognised that quote, I'd have just thought you were putting in a rather large order, though I would have kept my thoughts to myself.

bluegirlgreen · 07/08/2019 09:29

@NoSauce @LyingWitchInTheWardrobe

Chill out hunniez. Grin

Fat shamed at airport
bluegirlgreen · 07/08/2019 09:33

@feelingverylazytoday

Just because the rude and nasty woman didn't recognise the quote from Gavin and Stacey, that makes it OK for her to be a rude and nasty and vile?

Yeah OK then!! Hmm

The attitudes from some on here and bizarre and quite sickening.

A random woman was vile and nasty and vitriolic IN PUBLIC to a woman who did nothing to deserve it, but when people call her names on here, it's all 'ooooh, 2 wrongs don't make a right' and 'shame on you! shame on you ALL!'

Jog on! Wink I have no time for people like you. Seriously, you make me sick.

Misslu · 07/08/2019 09:41

Some amazing responses on here, I just wish I had said some of them at the time.

@escapade1234 Of course I'm bitter! She really hurt my feelings! And I have no idea why said said I was annoying, I had zero interaction with her at the hotel.

Thanks so much for all the responses I am going to get the thread deleted now. Thank you.

OP posts:
escapade1234 · 07/08/2019 09:49

OP, I know why you’re bitter. Just a bit of an eye-opener to see how many strangers online are so furious on your behalf and hurling even worse, sexist insults at this other stranger.

feelingverylazytoday · 07/08/2019 09:49

bluegreengirl thats not what I said though. Hmm
I never said it was Ok for her to be rude, nasty or vile. In fact, I said it was wrong, in 'two wrongs don't make a right', meaning that what she said was wrong, but so are some of the posts on this thread.

escapade1234 · 07/08/2019 09:51

What interaction did you have with this girl while you were away? Sounds like there’s a lot more to it.

NoSauce · 07/08/2019 09:52

I didn’t realise we could just ask for a thread to be deleted now.

When did that happen?

feelingverylazytoday · 07/08/2019 09:54

NoSauce yes it's very annoying.. I won't bother posting on this any threads this OP starts again, it's a waste of time.

Misslu · 07/08/2019 09:55

I really had zero interaction with her, it was a large hotel and I only recognised her from her and her friend not being in a couple like the other people.

There really is no more too this, unless I have an 'annoying' personality that I am completely clueless about. I generally have quite a 'loud voice' so that may be it. I had a quite, relaxing holiday with my DH, chilled out, sunbathed and went to the evening entertainment whilst having a few drinks.

OP posts:
Misslu · 07/08/2019 09:56

The reason I wanted to delete as a previous poster suggested it was a good idea as this may get picked up by the press and that is the worst last thing I would want to happen. I didn't consider that a factor when I posted.

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feelingverylazytoday · 07/08/2019 09:59

Any thread can get picked up by the press though. There's a 30 day only board if you don't want your threads to be permanent.

NoSauce · 07/08/2019 09:59

But everyone that posts anything on MN has the chance of it being pulled by the DM.

Longtalljosie · 07/08/2019 10:01

Ok. Next time you’re asked what you want for a curry - MAKE YOURSELF ask for Smithy’s order, right down to the 9 poppadoms. Do not let the silly bitch take a family in-joke from you. And yes, she is a bitch. Nobody made her say that. Your dress size is your business.

BenWillbondsPants · 07/08/2019 10:04

OP, some people are just not very kind. You see it on here every day, so don't let it dim the memory of your lovely holiday.

Nanamilly · 07/08/2019 10:08

Thanks so much for all the responses I am going to get the thread deleted now. Thank you

I'd leave it in the hope it did bet picked up in the press and she see's what people have said about her.

escapade1234 · 07/08/2019 10:13

Picked up in the press? What newspaper do you read that would give a flying duck about this?

escapade1234 · 07/08/2019 10:14

I generally have quite a 'loud voice' so that may be it

Yes, quite possibly.

NoSauce · 07/08/2019 10:19

Flying duck 🦆 Grin

itsabongthing · 07/08/2019 10:28

Aww that’s horrible but try to forget it - she just didn’t get the Gavin & Stacey reference!

Bluntness100 · 07/08/2019 10:31

I don't understand this. Why are people posting threads then wanting them deleted for no good reason. Surely that's not how this is supposed to work.

And why the fuck would this be picked up by the press?

Nanamilly · 07/08/2019 10:34

What newspaper do you read that would give a flying duck about this?

You dont need to read a partucular newspaper for it to be picked up by it.

But I guess you knew that and you just wanted to be an arse.