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Fat shamed at airport

213 replies

Misslu · 06/08/2019 21:49

Myself and my husband recently travelled back home from our all inclusive chill out holiday. The nature of the hotel was adults only, generally adult couples or mother daughter groups however there was two younger 20 girls who were at our hotel and also on our flights.

Myself and my husband have a bit of a tradition of having an Indian takeaway the night we return from holiday. It started on our honeymoon and we have carried it on ever since. In the queue for check in my dh reminded me of our tradition and asked me what I was having... As a joke I repeated the part from Gavin and Stacey and quoted smithys whole order.

Anyway hours later we are waiting for our baggage at the other end and these girls are directly in front of me. One girl turns to the other girl and said 'OMG did you hear thay girl in the check in queue' 'which one?' 'You know that annoying, fat one, with the massive double chin, you know she was at our hotel, you should have heard her saying what she was ordering from the Indian, greedy bitch'

At this point I was standing inches away from her, I didn't say anything but it has really hurt me.

For context, I've put on some weight recently (personal stress and comfort eating) and I'm a large 16. Already lacking in confidence about my figure and cringing at photos of me all week. I feel like this has really put a downer on an amazing holiday and tainted my memories. I really wish I had said something at the time but I was just so embarrassed.

OP posts:
bluegirlgreen · 06/08/2019 22:12

@Misslu

What a nasty cowbag.

Sorry you had to hear that.

You can lose weight, she will always be a cunt. (FWIW though, size 16 isn't HUGE!) Smile

Hope she shits lego.

You are obviously a fab person, as you love Gavin & Stacey. (Brilliant programme!) Grin

happycoffeedrinker1979 · 06/08/2019 22:12

I've been ugly shamed on many occasions.its not nice when people comment on your looks or weight. Ignore the silly bitch, who cares about her anyway. I hope you had the whole menu and it tasted fantastic and you and your man snuggled up afterwards , shutting the door to the world

CuriousMama · 06/08/2019 22:13

Probably the type who'd order a korma Grin So funny BeckyWith

I'd feel gutted too but would probably have accidentally fallen on her. She probably knew you were there and is just nasty to everyone.

Dieu · 06/08/2019 22:13

@FamilyOfAliens

Oh, I am sorry. I must have missed your support for the OP.

FurnitureAndBackgammon · 06/08/2019 22:13

Why would she care so much to talk about you hours later? She was probably jealous of your Indian meal, nasty little bitch.

Pharlapwasthebest · 06/08/2019 22:13

What she says tells you more about her than about you.
Let it go.

RowingMermaid · 06/08/2019 22:14

Pity her, she doesn't know the quote. Anyone hearing it should know it is from Gavin and Stacey.

We do the "Pete, have you thought about my bhunas" quote in our house as one of us orders a bhuna!

Hopefully she will repeat the story and fall on her face when someone points out it is in fact a quote from Gavin and Stacey.

JustTheCrowsAndTheBeef · 06/08/2019 22:15

Don’t give her another thought, OP. Pity her for not knowing that the only acceptable response would have been to ask, ‘Pete, have you thought about my bhunas?’

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 06/08/2019 22:15

I’d have got and sat on her.
The cheeky cunt. Grin
Easier said than done, but Just laugh it off. She’s not worth your upset. I promise.
Put it this way if you want to you can lose weight. She’ll always be a cunt.
Flowers

TheSerenDipitY · 06/08/2019 22:16

take solace in the fact that you can lose weight if you chose but she will always be a bitch... and in 10 years time most likely twice your size and extremely unhappy

Blutopia · 06/08/2019 22:16

Meh, what an ignorant, shallow, try-hard bitch. She was just trying to impress her equally vacuous mates with her witty bantz.

Don't give her any more of your head space, she really isn't worth it - guaranteed she isn't thinking anything about you at all, so forget about it. Flowers

C305 · 06/08/2019 22:16

@Misslu the fact that they didn't get the Gavin & Stacey reference means they're not worth your time anyway! Fuck 'em, they sound like nasty immature girls. Thanks

BeckyWithTheSplitEnds · 06/08/2019 22:17

JustTheCrows Pete and Dawn are an inspiration to us all. OP, go on the Keto diet and you could have 3 steaks.

cakeandchampagne · 06/08/2019 22:17

Do you think they say kind things about everybody else? They are just “mean girls” who need to grow up, and get professional help.

I’m glad you & your husband had a pleasant holiday, and have a food tradition.

PortiaCastis · 06/08/2019 22:17

Grin Grin @ Hope she shits Lego

FamilyOfAliens · 06/08/2019 22:18

Oh, I am sorry. I must have missed your support for the OP.

Apology accepted.

Dec2019mumtobe · 06/08/2019 22:18

I'd have said very loudly "it was a quote from Gaavin and Stacey you humourless pleb"

Nanna50 · 06/08/2019 22:19

The quote clearly went over her airhead.

bluegirlgreen · 06/08/2019 22:21

Hmmm, I really fancy

Chicken bhuna, lamb bhuna, prawn bhuna, mushroom rice, a bag of chips and 9 poppadoms now. !!! Grin

bluegirlgreen · 06/08/2019 22:21

@PortiaCastis

Grin
dollydaydream114 · 06/08/2019 22:21

Hopefully she will repeat the story and fall on her face when someone points out it is in fact a quote from Gavin and Stacey.

Er ... it doesn't matter that it was a quote from Gavin and Stacey, though, does it? It would have been just as rude and unacceptable to bitch about it even if that was actually what the OP was ordering.

Ikeameatballs · 06/08/2019 22:23

Meh. Ok, it hurts to hear what someone thinks of you and that was harsh but she wasn’t directing it at you. Enjoy your takeaway and if I’d you’re that bothered by how someone else perceived you then lose weight. If you’re happy in your body then shrug it off and move on.

StaplesCorner · 06/08/2019 22:23

Fair dos, dolly, fair dos.

MamaOfBothTeams · 06/08/2019 22:24

@RiftGibbon GrinGrinGrin

@op ignore them they aren't worth your time, life is too short so forget what they said and focus on the nice memories of the holiday Thanks

madcatladyforever · 06/08/2019 22:25

Who cares what those silly little tarts think. I bet you are gorgeous and yes you do have a husband :-)