Fat shamed at airport

[Misslu]

Myself and my husband recently travelled back home from our all inclusive chill out holiday. The nature of the hotel was adults only, generally adult couples or mother daughter groups however there was two younger 20 girls who were at our hotel and also on our flights.

Myself and my husband have a bit of a tradition of having an Indian takeaway the night we return from holiday. It started on our honeymoon and we have carried it on ever since. In the queue for check in my dh reminded me of our tradition and asked me what I was having... As a joke I repeated the part from Gavin and Stacey and quoted smithys whole order.

Anyway hours later we are waiting for our baggage at the other end and these girls are directly in front of me. One girl turns to the other girl and said 'OMG did you hear thay girl in the check in queue' 'which one?' 'You know that annoying, fat one, with the massive double chin, you know she was at our hotel, you should have heard her saying what she was ordering from the Indian, greedy bitch'

At this point I was standing inches away from her, I didn't say anything but it has really hurt me.

For context, I've put on some weight recently (personal stress and comfort eating) and I'm a large 16. Already lacking in confidence about my figure and cringing at photos of me all week. I feel like this has really put a downer on an amazing holiday and tainted my memories. I really wish I had said something at the time but I was just so embarrassed.

You should lose weight really, not for her but for your own health
Easier said than done ( at least for me)
Totally misses the OP' s point and the point of this thread
OP our holiday tradition is to have a massive Burger King at the airport. Any time of day.
Her tiny judgemental mind would explode watching me have a double whopper for breakfast .

My stock answer, "I can diet, what can you do about being a bitch?"

Look on the bright side, horrible though those comments are, it may spur you on to lose weight.

The important thing is that you had a lovely holiday with your husband and have some great memories. Please don't let these silly immature girls spoil that. They're not worth your time.

I don't get the Gavin and Stacey reference. I've never seen it

Was there a back story here op? Clearly the comments were unacceptable, but she recognised you from her hotel and pointed you out as the annoying one, so curious if you'd previously had some sort of interaction with them?

Saying you were rhe annoying one from the hotel would indicate there was a previous issue.

I’m going to go against the grain here and guess that the young lady clocked you earlier in your holiday and found your actions annoying while you were at the hotel. And then she made the first insult she could think of about your appearance at the airport. Had you been thin, she probably would have said that annoying stick of a woman with no ass/boobs/etc. Or picked on a large nose if you had one, etc.

But I don’t think she was randomly fat shaming you - she knew who you were and found you annoying, for whatever reason.

I don’t know if that helps, but I think it was less about your weight and more about a personality clash from afar for her.

She was still completely out of order, of course.

Oh and I love Gavin and Stacey but I wouldn’t have had a clue that your Indian order was a quote or a joke.

isabelle only one poster has suggested that the OP might want to lose weight

There may only have been one person who said outright 'you need to lose weight' but several others have said things like 'use it as motivation to lose weight' or 'if it upsets you, you must want to lose weight'.

She’s a thoughtless idiot, and one day her words will come back and bite her on the arse. Forget about it.
And remember that when people say things like that about others it’s never about the other person, it’s always about themselves and their own insecurities.

She probably seen you on holiday having a lovely time with your Husband and felt jealous because she doesn't have what you have.

As PPs say, the main thing is that you had a good holiday with DH.

The woman made a horrible remark, which reflects very badly on her, and not you.

She probably seen you on holiday having a lovely time with your Husband and felt jealous because she doesn't have what you have

Doubtful.

She just sounds like a bit of a gobshite.
I think Bluntness makes a good point though why she would use the word annoying! Strange word to use.

Did you have a run in with her at the hotel OP?

I adore 'Gavin& Stacey' and I'm just impressed that you managed to remember all of Smithy's order. I know I wouldn't have, I'd have ad-libbed with many item he probably wouldn't have ordered.

Kudos at your fan-ness.

What that girl said was unkind; she's young and thinks that middle-age won't happen to her. It (hopefully) will. Some of the comments upthread are on par for meanness though and don't sound nearly as pithy as the poster thinks they do.

Hope you enjoyed your Boonas!

What did smithy order? Can’t remember!

Great show.

Oh and I love Gavin and Stacey but I wouldn’t have had a clue that your Indian order was a quote or a joke

This. I've seen Gavin and Stacey several times but wouldn't have immediately associated a long Indian order as being the Smithy quote. A pint of wine, maybe.

The vitriol on this thread for the women involved is shameful. Yes, they were cruel, and it was unnecessary. But "cunt"? "Skank"? "Tart"? That's just as bad as the original catty comments. Also, middle age doesn't have to mean getting fat. All these positively gleeful comments around how they'll look after having children says a lot about the posters tbh.

I have never watched a single episode of Gavin and Stacey (can’t stand James Corden), but even I recognise the scene from the Indian order from clips. So I’m surprised at supposed fans saying they wouldn’t have recognised it.
OP you had a great holiday that’s what counts. This silly girl probably can’t enjoy anything without having to put someone else down, she must be very insecure.

I’m sensing a LOT of bitterness on your behalf on this thread OP.

Come on though, tell us why she said you were “the annoying one”.

Don't let an ignorant bitch ruin your holiday memories.
Once a bitch always a bitch.
Weight can be an issue for most people,ignorance is a choice.
You did right to say nothing,as she is too up herself to care.

Karma and metabolism will come for her eventually - she’s a nasty piece of work

Found this on Twitter, someone had it tattooed! 😂

'Once a bitch always a bitch'?

Sorry KUGA to pick on your post because others were just as vapid. That is stupid, it really is. People change. Grow. We see snapshots of them all the time. Pin it down to what it actually is - a thoughtless/spiteful comment.

Mumsnet is peppered with posters who keep saying "You may be X but she'll always be Y" and it really makes me cringe. It sounded very good when Winston Churchill made the original comment but the jumping on the bandwagon and paraphrasing of it just sounds utterly ridiculous.

I'm just waiting for the super-silly to interject "... and Karma's a bitch too and will get her!".

I remember saying really horrible things about strangers with my friends when I was about 13. It's not something I'm proud of, but I saw it as a 'safe' way to bond and be bitchy together without being causing fallout in our friendship group.

I would also really exaggerate any perceived faults that they had. Like this girl has clearly done with you op.

Even at the time I felt bad about it. But this clip proves I wasn't the only one:

This girl hasn't grown out of being 13.

Butters, really?

I cross-posted with you but honestly!

No one who is happy with their own life makes comments like this op x x

All those saying karma will get her, calling her a bitch or worse etc I bet you have

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