Fat shamed at airport

[Misslu]

Myself and my husband recently travelled back home from our all inclusive chill out holiday. The nature of the hotel was adults only, generally adult couples or mother daughter groups however there was two younger 20 girls who were at our hotel and also on our flights.

Myself and my husband have a bit of a tradition of having an Indian takeaway the night we return from holiday. It started on our honeymoon and we have carried it on ever since. In the queue for check in my dh reminded me of our tradition and asked me what I was having... As a joke I repeated the part from Gavin and Stacey and quoted smithys whole order.

Anyway hours later we are waiting for our baggage at the other end and these girls are directly in front of me. One girl turns to the other girl and said 'OMG did you hear thay girl in the check in queue' 'which one?' 'You know that annoying, fat one, with the massive double chin, you know she was at our hotel, you should have heard her saying what she was ordering from the Indian, greedy bitch'

At this point I was standing inches away from her, I didn't say anything but it has really hurt me.

For context, I've put on some weight recently (personal stress and comfort eating) and I'm a large 16. Already lacking in confidence about my figure and cringing at photos of me all week. I feel like this has really put a downer on an amazing holiday and tainted my memories. I really wish I had said something at the time but I was just so embarrassed.

OP I’ve always been intrigued what Nessa ordered. Jam Dani Hash. Duck with limes. Immense. I’ve googled it but I think it’s made up. Shame that I would have liked to try it

Hope you’re feeling a bit better now. Sorry you had to hear her.

Don't sweat it.

Your weight will always go up and down (it happens to everyone) but she'll always be a nasty bitch. Pity her.

She was really rude but probably just immature and not worth wasting your time being upset over. Try and forget it and enjoy the pleasant memories.

Btw, what's a large 16?

Very hurtful, OP, but it doesn't sound as if they meant you to hear.

Some pretty nasty comments on here about 2 young women who didn't mean to upset anyone, though.

I guess all the posters calling these young women bitches and saying they'd slap them have never, ever commented on a stranger's appearance when they thought that stranger couldn't hear them? I guess none of you have ever been the teensiest judgemental about someone else's body shape, even when you were young? What a lot of hypocrites saints you must be.

@pastyballbag yes she did say those exact words, after that part I walked away so I didn't hear her friends response.

Thanks for all the support everyone. I feel even worse because I just wore high coverage swimming costumes all week as I felt so unconfident, and on the last day my amazing dh persuaded me to wear a bikini and I actually felt I looked OK but this has massively knocked my confidence.

She sounds like a bitch whose brain is so empty of anything useful she has been replaying a strangers fake take away order for an entire flight in her head and it was the only topic of conversation she could raise with a friend who she is close enough to go on holiday with.

Pity the empty headed bitch - hope you enjoyed your takeaway. She’s probably still trying to remember where she lives

@RiftGibbon 😬😬🤣🤣 brilliant response

I don’t think she was being nasty, she was just genuinely shocked because she didn’t get the reference. I’m a size 22 and I’d be shocked if I genuinely thought someone was having Smithy’s order!

I find a massive double standard on MN, so many responses lashing out at the girl for being stupid, thin, a “tart” etc. Young girls are under such intense scrutiny themselves that it’s internalised and becomes their normal way of thinking to judge everyone else...much like if you read enough Mumsnet!

Incidentally, what did you order OP? I’m a chicken jalfrezi kind of girl myself, and can’t resist a butterflied tandoori prawn starter.

😂 At least there are others that can actually quote the whole order too!

A large 16 is someone who can still fit into their former size 16 clothes but they are a bit tighter than they once were.

Btw, what's a large 16?

I think it's what's known in the industry as a regular 18.

XXcstatic - are you for real? This isn’t someone being the “teensist” bit judgemental. This girl said some utterly vile things. And no I’ve never slated someone for their appearance like that! Have you? You must have to assume everyone else does it.

OP - this will probably sting for a while but you will forget about it in time. Unfortunately there are always going to be people like that out there but there are plenty who aren’t too

@IndianaMoleWoman Chicken Bhuna and a cheese naan.

I get if she didn't under stand the reference, however to refer to anyone in the way she did, complete with arm movements to emphasis her words is generally unkind, even if she was shocked by the order.

@XXcstatic

Are you actually being serious.

These 2 women didn't mean to hurt anyone?

Are you taking the piss?

Did you actually read ANY of the OP's comments?

The one woman said 'OMG did you hear that girl in the check in queue' 'which one?' 'You know that annoying, fat one, with the massive double chin, you know she was at our hotel, you should have heard her saying what she was ordering from the Indian, greedy bitch.'

You must have VERY low standards, if you think the comments made by these nasty women were OK and 'not intended to cause hurt..'

Either that OR you are taking the piss. (Which I think is a far more likely scenario.)

Oh OP, I'm sorry you had to hear that. What a dickhead that young woman was. I have a relative who behaves like that. She simply can't bear to see anyone who's confident in their own skin without being slim - it's all about her own crushing insecurities. She's basically friendless now, after being so horrible for so many years. Take solace from the notion that you probably caught that woman's eye by looking like you felt good in your bikini.

@IndianaMoleWoman

I don’t think she was being nasty, she was just genuinely shocked because she didn’t get the reference. I’m a size 22 and I’d be shocked if I genuinely thought someone was having Smithy’s order!

Are you taking the piss too?! Of COURSE she was being NASTY. 'Genuinely shocked' my fucking arse! She was a nasty cow.

And the fact you are a size 22, doesn't give you the right to say what this woman said was OK!

XXcstatic odd response.

Why would defend their behaviour? What they said was pretty horrible, no excuses whatsoever for that.

@bluegirlgreen I’m not saying it was ok, I’m saying that this girl probably lives in a realm of social media where every extra millimetre is scrutinised. I don’t think of “fat” “annoying” or “double chin” to be particularly cutting remarks, probably because (pardon the pun) I’m pretty thick-skinned (and thick-waisted) myself.

You must have VERY low standards, if you think the comments made by these nasty women were OK and 'not intended to cause hurt..

I didn't say the comments were OK, I said they were probably not meant to hurt the OP. As the girls were standing in front of the OP at luggage reclaim, they probably had no idea she was there. Anyone would be hurt by over-hearing their comments, but it sounds as if the OP over-hearing was accidental.

What I think is just as bad is the horrible pile-on about these girls - calling them cunts etc. The total hypocrisy of it. And I don't believe there is a single poster on this thread who hasn't said something equally judgemental about a stranger when they thought the stranger couldn't hear. You're all pretty quick to judge and slag off these girls. I find it hard to believe you're all such saints that you never judge anyone IRL.

What I think is just as bad is the horrible pile-on about these girls - calling them cunts etc. The total hypocrisy of it.

I agree with this. What they said was mean spirited and unkind but some of the replies here are vile.

Well, if they were young girls, just remember that their time will come, after they've squeezed something the size of a melon out of something the size of a lemon, been up all night with the kids, craving carbs and sugar and as they get older. For what it's worth, she probably wouldn't have commented had it not been for your conversation. She probably wouldn't really have noticed you at all tbh.

Well they were vile so you reap what you sow.

That Smithy quote is one of my favourite things. It's an in joke between me and my best mate after we went for a group meal and this bloke presumed to take charge and declare he was going to order 'a mix of stuff and we can all dig in'.

Try and forget about it, OP. It’s pathetic that these young women on a nice inclusive chill out holiday have nothing better to do than make specific negative comments and gestures about a total stranger standing next to them.

I know who I’d rather be on holiday with and it isn’t them!

20 year old women aren’t young girls.
I don’t care for the word cunt but they were pretty scathing towards the OP even though she wasn’t supposed to hear it.

I’d have leant forward and said to her friend “Me. She’s talking about me. You know, you were behind us in the queue over there, surely you saw me, you can’t miss me really”

Then taken a picture of the priceless looks on their faces.😄