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Original poster

To ask how often you and OH have sex?

101 replies

Beansinahobbithole · 05/08/2019 23:25

Just curious. We used to a lot more pre DS, now it's on average about 4 times a week, sometimes less, could be only once, sometimes more.

How often do you get around to it?

OP posts:
TigerJoy · 05/08/2019 23:28

Oh god you lucky thing

Couple of times a week if I'm lucky. OH has a lower sex drive than me.

bebeboeuf · 05/08/2019 23:30

3-4 times on a good week (one toddler in house) sometimes 2 times on a bad week

Sushi123 · 05/08/2019 23:32

Once a week....which is fine by me

Yogurtcoveredricecake · 05/08/2019 23:33

Not enough.

PaquitaVariation · 05/08/2019 23:33

At the moment 20 months and counting...

Previously 1/2 times per week.

BlueSkiesLies · 05/08/2019 23:34

At the weekend. Usually once or twice but sometimes zero or more. Depends what we are doing over the weekend.

littlepeas · 05/08/2019 23:36

4 times a week is loads! We probably manage 2 or 3 times a month.

MrsTumbletap · 05/08/2019 23:37

Once or twice a week.

Depends on how long you have been together and your age. When we were mid twenties and had been together 6 months it was all the time.

Been together 12 years and approaching 40 as long as it's weekly, it's fine by me.

MrsTumbletap · 05/08/2019 23:37

Once or twice a week.

Depends on how long you have been together and your age. When we were mid twenties and had been together 6 months it was all the time.

Been together 12 years and approaching 40 as long as it's weekly, it's fine by me.

TwistyTop · 05/08/2019 23:41

Depends massively on what's going on at the time. We'll have runs of doing it every day (sometimes morning AND night time, woohoo!) And then work will get crazy and life happens and suddenly it's been nearly a week since we had sex. I think a week is the longest we've been, but then we're only in our 30s and have been married for 7 years. Ask me again when I'm 50 and I'll probably give you a very different answer lol.

Bbang · 05/08/2019 23:41

1-2 times a week, would like more but just so bloody tired all the time 😂

riotlady · 05/08/2019 23:42

Once a week usually, sometimes more. We’re in our mid twenties with a 16 month old daughter.

ScratchyMap · 05/08/2019 23:43

Only 4 times a week??? Shock

Once or twice a week for us, which is pretty usual as far as I’m aware

HopefullyAnonymous · 05/08/2019 23:45

Erm, once a month at most. I’m sure he would prefer more but I never feel like it anymore...

Original poster
Beansinahobbithole · 05/08/2019 23:48

TwistyTop

Oh lord I don't think I could do twice in one day! I used to but that just sounds exhausting now.

Also mid/late twenties here. His sex drive is lower, if it was up to him to start it, it'd probably be once or twice a week I'd say.

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LatteLove · 05/08/2019 23:50

Sometimes 0, sometimes 3 or 4 times

Doing it with teenagers in the house is a pain!

Chocolate35 · 05/08/2019 23:50

4 times a week?! Wow.
Twice or three times a month we do. I’m usually half asleep by 10.30 🙈

Cryalot2 · 05/08/2019 23:59

A few years back at least 2/4 times a day.
Now the joys of illness and his heart meds we are lucky if its that in a year.
The menopause knocked my drive for 6 so am not bothered.

RasberryR0ulade · 06/08/2019 00:04

2-3 3-4 times a week. On holiday every ( bloody ) night! But occasionally 1 x p/w ! Been together over 25 years !
He's still the love of my life & our personal relationship is important for us both Grin

VanGoghsDog · 06/08/2019 00:05

Once or twice a day - but we don't live together so only see each other about five days a week, and only been together three months.
We are, however, 51 and 60. It's great! Grin

TheJoxter · 06/08/2019 00:07

It depends where in my cycle I am and what his work week is like, it’s great when we find a day when we have time AND I’m up for it. Anywhere ranging from twice a day to none for two weeks.

sparkles07 · 06/08/2019 00:14

Once a month, often less than that. Neither of us have ever had high sex drives.

NottonightJosepheen · 06/08/2019 00:23

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AquaPris · 06/08/2019 00:24

Every month or so? We're 24 but low sex drives

NottonightJosepheen · 06/08/2019 00:25

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