To ask how often you and OH have sex?

[Beansinahobbithole]

Just curious. We used to a lot more pre DS, now it's on average about 4 times a week, sometimes less, could be only once, sometimes more.

How often do you get around to it?

Currently not at all - I’m pregnant and if anyone so much as breathes too close, I am NOT happy.
Prior to that probably 4-5 times a month. We go through phases though.

I just had a mirena coil removed, so for the last 5 years, we were lucky to attempt it once or twice A YEAR. Had the coil removed just under 2 weeks ago, and I've basically pounced on DH 3 times this week!😁 So much for the theory that the mirena doesn't tank your sex drive🙄

12 times this year (about a third of that in the past 2 weeks), although we have a 4 week old and sex in pregnancy didn't appeal to either of us.
He also has a low sex drive for the most part, prebaby it was 3 times a month, sometimes more, sometimes less.

3-4 times a week. If I was only having it once a month, I’d be very worried

I'd hate to have to have sex 4 times a week!

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I'd hate to have to have sex 4 times a week!

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I'd hate to have to have sex 4 times a week!

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About 3 times a week, although last week nothing mon-fri then 4 times over weekend. We are both quite stressed at work at the moment.

We have an eleven old and I’m pregnant so we should probably up the frequency whilst we have the opportunity. It’s harder when they’re young.

At the moment 2-3 times a week. Over the years it has been less or has been more. The children are growing up and it's getting easier to find time/energy.

Only once a month. Seems really low compared to everyone else on here. I’d like it to be 1/week but both of us (him more than me) can’t be bothered. However, when we do get round to it it is amazing. Our relationship is close and very affectionate in other ways though.

I used to have a boyfriend who wanted sex every night. I found it boring and not particularly good quality. Prefer what I have now.

3-4 times a week

Nowhere near enough for my liking. My DP is currently jet lagged and passing out at every given opportunity and I’m getting desperate!

When I was married we had a dryish few years when ds was small and it probably dropped to once every 3 weeks. It recovered to once every fortnight which was all I could cope with. Felt bad. Lots of affection though, always hugging and kissing.

Currently in an FWB type thing and we don't meet often. Once a month is now killing me, I would dtd every day with him.

After DS was born- combination of breastfeeding/exhaustion/general changes in life due to baby it was pretty infrequent untill he was about one. Then probably 1-2 times a weeks. I’m now pregnant 32 weeks pregnant with DD and quite frankly can’t think of anything worse at the moment. DP would literally do it everyday if I was up for it, but his sex drive is waaaaay higher than mine since having kids and he’s learned to accept and suck it up

After 43 years together, about once a week.

Together 11 years, teenager in the house and a 4 year old. I’m 35 weeks pregnant... 3 or 4 times a week I’d say?

3 or 4 times a week. Husband could have it every day but with a 4 and 1 yo I'm tired

Been together 25 years. Has varied over time from 4-5x a week when TTC to about 4 times total in the two years after DD2 was born (2 under 2 for a while and took a long time for tear to heal). Somewhere in the middle of those two is better, I find the intensity of orgasms is greater if there's been a bigger gap. But we're very irregular and have a bit of a gap then do it 3 days in a row.

The question is what is right for you, not what other people do.

In my 20s I was single and not in a committed relationship.

Once DCs came along in my 30s it was sometimes no more than once a month.

A lot less these days, 3 kids, working full time and a very stressful year has left me with zero notion.

Hopefully pick up again.

A lot less these days, 3 kids, working full time and a very stressful year has left me with zero notion.

Hopefully pick up again.

About once a week or 3 times a month.

@Sweetbabycheezits interesting - I’m wondering if the mirena is responsible for my non existent sex drive. We still do, though not that often, and although it’s enjoyable enough I have zero interest in initiating

Used to be 5/6 times a week, used to be very good, but then we had children.....three of them in three years....currently have 6 month old, 2 year old and 4 year old. Now we have sex about twice about a month. And we're ok with that. Life is SO busy and on the very rare occasion all three are asleep before 10pm we'd rather sit down with a cup of tea and chocolate biscuits or a glass of something :)

Once a month. I'd prefer more. Once a week or even once a fortnight would be lovely. But dp has a low libido and I've learnt that it's something you can't really change. It does get to me a bit sometimes and I've posted on here before with many LTB responses but we have a fab relationship in every other way so I've learnt to compromise and am happy with my lot.