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To ask how often you and OH have sex?

101 replies

Beansinahobbithole · 05/08/2019 23:25

Just curious. We used to a lot more pre DS, now it's on average about 4 times a week, sometimes less, could be only once, sometimes more.

How often do you get around to it?

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MariaVonBratt · 06/08/2019 07:18

Once a month. I'd prefer more. Once a week or even once a fortnight would be lovely. But dp has a low libido and I've learnt that it's something you can't really change. It does get to me a bit sometimes and I've posted on here before with many LTB responses but we have a fab relationship in every other way so I've learnt to compromise and am happy with my lot.

Metalhead · 06/08/2019 07:19

Once a month on average (both 40, been together 13 years). It’s great when we do it, but despite this I would much rather read my book then go to sleep most of the time...

alohamfs · 06/08/2019 07:19

Never 😂

alohamfs · 06/08/2019 07:19

Never 😂

alohamfs · 06/08/2019 07:19

Never !

alohamfs · 06/08/2019 07:20

Never !

alohamfs · 06/08/2019 07:20

Never !

steff13 · 06/08/2019 07:22

3-4 times a week. We've been married 24 years, I'm 42 and he's 45.

ShippingNews · 06/08/2019 07:28

Not at all for 8 years. He got complete ED after a brain tumour was removed. All I have is memories now.

bumblingbovine49 · 06/08/2019 07:58

4 times a week every week sounds way oo much for me. Fine for holidays etc by normal weeks it is once or twice ( rarely).

Quicky sex has never done it for me. I need the and space to really enjoy it

AuntieMarys · 06/08/2019 08:01

4 times a week. Not bad at 60Grin

Merryoldgoat · 06/08/2019 08:03

This thread has made me feel really low Sad

HotChocolateLover · 06/08/2019 08:06

I don’t like doing it with kids in the house. Fortunately DS has just got a job so we can do it at least twice a week and be loud. I love it 👍

LifeofRye · 06/08/2019 08:07

@MariaVonBratt I completely understand, DH only feels like it once a month. My sex drive is higher but as you say, there's not a lot you can do about it.

Took me a long time to accept it wasn't my fault, it affected my self esteem. Society has you believe men want sex 24/7 so when you're married to a guy who really never thinks about sex, you automatically think you must be unattractive.

Ellabella989 · 06/08/2019 08:08

Sometimes every day, and sometimes 2-3 times per week. We don’t have kids though and I imagine it wouldn’t be quite as regularly if we did as we both lose our sex drive a bit when really tired

Newmumma83 · 06/08/2019 08:11

Once a week at the moment ... some times more sometimes less ... but that’s the average.
Been together 12 years.

I used to date someone that wanted it 3-4 times a day ... I prefer my new set up though I was a lot fitter as a result in those days 😂😂

Veryouting123 · 06/08/2019 08:15

It really varies. Usually 2-4 times a week but depending on what's going on it could be once a fortnight.

Gre8scott · 06/08/2019 08:15

Never

Veryouting123 · 06/08/2019 08:16

Oh and together nearly 9 years with a 4 and 2 yo.

StillIRise87 · 06/08/2019 08:18

Six times a month,when ovulating as im not interested when im not!

Notallitseemstobe · 06/08/2019 08:22

I'm on the coil and horny constantly lol

My husband and I have never had sex often, I'd like it daily

Chocolatedaim · 06/08/2019 08:24

Maybe once a week...
However I am currently pregnant and overdue so it’s been almost daily. Need to get this baby out!

Manno75 · 06/08/2019 08:28

Very rarely nowadays. Twice a year maybe?

Divebar · 06/08/2019 08:31

Not for 7 years

coconutmonkey · 06/08/2019 08:33

We have had sex maybe 4 or 5 times since our youngest was born. She is 16 months old...
I honestly have no interest in it anymore. Poor DH.