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To ask how often you and OH have sex?

101 replies

Beansinahobbithole · 05/08/2019 23:25

Just curious. We used to a lot more pre DS, now it's on average about 4 times a week, sometimes less, could be only once, sometimes more.

How often do you get around to it?

OP posts:
Pinkout · 06/08/2019 08:34

2-4 times a week.

catgirl1976 · 06/08/2019 08:34

It goes in phases. It can be a couple of times a day or a couple of times a month. Depends how tired / stressed / busy / well we are.

Purplerain16 · 06/08/2019 08:36

Due to my medication I have 0 sex drive.

Cause of this I have to say its been about 3 months since we did the deed 😂

Butterbeeeen · 06/08/2019 08:41

Maybe 2 or 3 times a week. We often work different shifts thought so sometimes it can be much less as the short time we are together in the house we have our children to sort out.

twinkledag · 06/08/2019 08:41

We've been together 17 years this year.

In our 20s it was very regular - every time we saw each other!

We're now both 40 and fertility problems have really affected our sex life. We haven't had sex all year. But we love each other and are very close, we just have to ride out this phase.

IratusCats · 06/08/2019 08:42

4-5 times a week. If we're on holiday then daily.

Zbag14 · 06/08/2019 08:45

Once or twice a month. Together 10 yrs and have 2 young kids. I also have eds, anxiety and depression with can make life hard. Oh would happily do it every day. Im just not interested anymore and could easily live without it at all.

sheshootssheimplores · 06/08/2019 08:48

For us it’s quality over quantity. So probably only three or four times a month but when we do it’s fucking amazing. Im very happy.

LilouBlue · 06/08/2019 08:48

We've only been together 6 months and don't live together yet so it's about 6/7 times a week, depending on which days I manage to see him. We both have pretty high sex drives so this is good for me. I expect it will lessen as time goes on but as long as it doesn't go under about 3 times a week I'll be happy.

Itstheprinciple · 06/08/2019 08:51

A couple of times a month at the moment. We have a 12 yo who is a real night owl and I'm on medication which makes me fall asleep early every evening. Weekend mornings seem to be our best bet but depends what else we've got going on. It's much more difficult with an older child!

SweetSummerchild · 06/08/2019 08:54

About once a week - more if we’re on holiday.

We’re in our mid forties and have been together for 25 years.

RushianDisney · 06/08/2019 09:15

We have sex when I can't put up with the pestering/whinging anymore. Probably once a week, sometimes less. I actually have a very healthy sex drive, but 'D'P has been a shit partner since we had dd and the constant pestering for sex has killed any desire I had for him. He wonders why I don't want sex when all he does is plug into his games or disappear off to the pub when he gets home from work while I'm still rushing around doing housework and childcare. The mechanics of sex are fine and I can physically enjoy it (imagining its someone else), I just don't want to have sex with an entitled man child, I do it to keep the peace until I can afford to leave.

mrslaurenbrown · 06/08/2019 09:16

I would say once a week on average. We are late twenties been together 9 years. Neither of us have high drives after a days working so it's generally weekends. Sometimes it's more but sometimes we miss a week if we've got things on...

LaVieilleHarpie · 06/08/2019 09:16

Every night. I refuse to sleep until I'm good and satisfied.

Morgan12 · 06/08/2019 09:37

Probably once or twice a month just now due to a baby who screams if I so much as look away from him.

Popsicle434544 · 06/08/2019 11:41

My dh works away during the week so we only have the wknds, and then we r at it like rabbits.
If hes on a rare not working away then every day.

Skittlenommer · 06/08/2019 11:47

We’ve been together 11 years and we go through phases of a lot or not as often if there is a lot going on but we have set a 1-2 times per week minimum.

If we don’t feel like it we just bosh out a quickie! Wink

SamStephens · 06/08/2019 11:54

We tend to do it once a day - usually twice depending on timing and how I’m feeling given we have a 2.5yr old and a 1.5yr old and I’m 31 weeks pregnant - but I think we both just have high sex drives.

I can’t even remember how often it was with my ex husband to be honest..

Jinxed2 · 06/08/2019 11:58

Usually once a week....although at the moment about once a month

Jinxed2 · 06/08/2019 11:59

As someone said above it’s difficult with older kids around.

NottonightJosepheen · 06/08/2019 12:00

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Bookaholic73 · 06/08/2019 12:01

Almost every day. Apart from my time of the month.

velocitygirl7 · 06/08/2019 12:01

Together 10 years. I work term time only, so at the moment it's most days but once I'm back at school I'm like a zombie by 9pm and dead from the waist down Grin So when at work probably once a week, maybe less but we more than make up for it at other times!

velocitygirl7 · 06/08/2019 12:01

Together 10 years. I work term time only, so at the moment it's most days but once I'm back at school I'm like a zombie by 9pm and dead from the waist down Grin So when at work probably once a week, maybe less but we more than make up for it at other times!

InsertFunnyUsername · 06/08/2019 12:04

Average 2/3 times a week.