To think no couple goes to bed at the same time?

[themimi]

Watching a programme tonight with DH and saw another example of a couple lying in bed at night having a conversation after clearly retiring at the same time. Mentioned to DH that we never ever go to bed at the same time (I'm an early to bed early to rise person and he's the opposite). DH said that no couple does - it's just a plot device to facilitate dialogue. I think I agree and couples who go to bed at same time don't exist. Anyone out there (past honeymoon stage) who does?

We do most nights, unless one of us is ill or particularly tired

I find it a bit weird to assume that just because you don't do this, literally no other couple would either! Everyone's different, aren't they?

I'd say my partner and I probably go to bed at the same time around 90 per cent of the time. I expect it would be different if one of us was the type who needed loads of sleep, but we're both night owls and both tend to stay up fairly late. Now and again we go to bed at different times - eg the other night I happened to be right in the middle of a complicated online admin task when he went to bed, so I stayed up a bit later to finish it, and when it was hot I went to bed earlier than him a couple of times purely so I could read in our bedroom, which is slightly cooler than the living room. But most of the time we go to bed at the same time and generally we'll both either read for a bit or listen to a podcast or something on iPlayer.

This has actually just reminded me something of something I'd forgotten, which was that my ex and I actually had a constant conflict over bed time. He had a job that involved late shifts, whereas I had to get up at 6.30am every morning. He would either get annoyed that I didn't want to sit up until 1am with him every day, or would come up to bed drunk and/or in a bad mood and deliberately wake me up, putting all the lights on, slamming doors etc. Needless to say, I was expected to tiptoe around in complete darkness so I didn't wake him when I had get up early, though

My parents do - but they live their lives on some kind of timetable from start to finish. DH's parent always did (his Dad has died) and when we stay there now we all go to bed at the same time, including his mum.

At home, DH and I do NOT go at the same time - ever. He snores horrifically badly, so it's a real blessing. I rely on sleeping pills when we're on holiday and going to bed together.

We almost always do. Both go through together at 2am. Dp doesn't get home from work until after 11pm.

Exceptions are when I am unwell and need to go through early. Even then though rarely sleep until later but need to rest so go through to lie down.
Or if one of us is away and therefore not In The same place.

10years in - we go to bed at the same time 50% of the time. Dh may stay up later to watch a programme or play a game. I have no issue sleeping without him.

Sometimes we do. Sometimes we don't.

Always.

I have lived with two partners, with both we always went to bed at the same time, if one wasn’t as tired that person would be on cuddle duty.

Hardly ever, been living together 27 years and he's an early riser, I'm a night owl, he often goes to bed 2 - 3 hours before me.

Together 20yrs and we never go up together. I’m in bed now mumsnetting and he’s still up doing some work on his laptop

Yup, been together nearly 15 years and 95% of the time go to bed at the same time.

Not often-we work very different hours.
I always go first and like to fidget and snuffle alone for a while. I'm like a cat who needs to turn around 5 times before settling. When dp comes to bed he is very quiet but he always spoons me when he gets in. We are totally different in the morning too. I am instantly awake and on full speed, he takes 3 hours to come round!

We go to bed at the same time but not necessarily to sleep. I like to sit up and read.

We do.

Yeah we do. Unless he’s working or stopping at work for the night. Although I’m usually left awake and he’s flat out with his arse hanging out. Guess my situation right now

Sometimes we do not often though.

Yep, we do. We don’t g to sleep at the same time but we do got up to be at the same time. We are way beyond honeymoon period at 20+yrs in.

We’ve been married over 10 years and never gone to bed at the same time OP so it’s not just you! 😆 My DH is a morning person so he’s in bed before 10pm, I’m a night owl so I’m generally still up in the early hours of the morning (like now lol).

Me and DP very rearly go to bed without one another. DP is sometimes asleep before I am but I'm usually lying next to him reading.

We don't, DP always in bed before me, I need my silent me time.

Nearly 20 years & DC later, I'd say we do go to bed at the same time & chat before falling asleep about 80-90% of the time

15yrs together and we go to bed together most of the time. The exceptions are rare though we have occasionally had to work/study late in which case we tend to do it in the bedroom whilst the other reads/sleeps. My parents always go to bed at the same time.

We go to bed at the same time every night. I love that time when we're both beginning to get tired and we snuggle up for a chat before dozing off....or the opposite 😉

Yep, always gone to bed at the same time and it would be strange to us if we didn’t.

I was with ex dh for 12 years, ALWAYS went to bed at the same time, watched tv, talked etc