This has been an incredibly frustrating thread to read. On the face of it, I thought it was a really interesting AIBU as I would have agreed in part with the OP's point.
I absolutely believe there are 'bad eggs' within our SS systems. Haven't experienced it (bad treatment from SS) personally but have seen it close by. I do however believe this is true within every system that is supposed to protect and care for us be it SS, medical or legal.
Point in case being that as a teenager, a psychiatrist I had butted heads with (personality clash) illegally signed section papers for me on the basis of his own lie and got a second signature on the papers by lying to a fellow doctor. I had a solicitor up in the hospital with me getting these papers rubbished due to their illegality.
I know that people in the professions we are asked to put the greatest faith in do lie, for whatever reason. I've also seen people who do these things be pushed sideways rather than out (firing people is not as easy as you may believe, sometimes it is less headache to move them than deal with it- wrong but true).
I'd be inclined to say that I agreed with the sentiment and the OP calling for accountability where lies are clearly unmasked that you simply cannot judge each person working for this system in the same way. Overall they do a wonderful job on such limited resources and have to act in a role where they rarely get the thanks and praise they deserve.
That's why I really had the utmost sympathy for both the OP and auntethel, but its descended into really juvenile name-calling and mud-slinging. There's no effort from either to actually engage in viewing it from any other viewpoint than their own. All it's become is ridicule if someone doesn't agree, a mini crusade to be a rebel and join against anyone asking genuine questions or offering opinions and I can't help but wonder that if this is the attitude you presented to social workers etc that you got their backs up.