We should be leaving to go on holiday today

[TheoriginalLEM]

We should be packing up the van and making the journey to Scotland for a camping trip.

Instead we are waiting to see if my mother will be discharged from hospital.

I shouldn't feel like this but I am as resentful as fuck. My dd is devastated and so i am I quite frankly.

There's a long back story but i am my mother's sole "carer" and she treats me like shit, yet guilt wont allow me to say actually just stay in bloody hospital, pay someone to care for her cat, and piss off.

I get zero support from social services and she refuses to see her GP.

I work ten hour days and was soo looking forward to a break as it has been so bloody awful at work this year.

AIBU to be feeling sorry for myself. The only compensation is that we only paid a £5 deposit as we were camping.

Please come and be nice to me I just feel like crying

I’m well behind but please enjoy your holiday.

Your mums health is her problem. It’s not yours OR the NHS staff’s jobs to make sure she asks for help.

Go and spend time with your family and give them the best of you

Just read your thread and am delighted to know that you're en route to glorious Devon. Have a lovely time.

About your mum's behaviour, I can't imagine my DM doing anything like this. I can't imagine treating my adult DC as your DM treats you. It's not healthy or loving. It's damaging your own family. You need to put your foot down.

I’m genuinely so so pleased to hear you are sat in a traffic jam!

Enjoy your very well deserved holiday!!! (And hope the traffic moves again quickly)

Lyon is too far for me to deliver wine. Have fun!

Currently sat in the customary traffic jam near Stonehenge

Never imagined I’d feel pleased to read someone was stuck in traffic. Hope you all have a lovely relaxing time.

Hope you have a lovely holiday

Hope you have a lovely holiday!

Enjoy this - you've all earned it!!

Glad to hear you're on your way. Now, forget about your mother, and enjoy your holiday with your family.

Another who is glad to read you're on your way flowers] . Enjoy

So glad you are on your way to your holiday with DD, DP and dogs

My view for the week - and breathe!!!!

Yay!

Excellent! So glad you went.

Now turn your phone off!

Lovely! Enjoy

I hope you have a wonderful time LEM, I have great memories of childhood holidays in that area with visits to Lynton and Lynmouth. It’s a beautiful part of the world

You're in Lynton?
I'm also camping there! Are we on the same site?? 😀

Good for you Lem. Enjoy your break.

Well done, OP - bloody well done. It's not easy to change long-term habits, even for your own benefit. Have a great time.

Looks gorgeous. Enjoy every minute.

Just read through this thread thinking please go LEM! Please go! Phew!

Sounds quite like BPD which obviously can manifest in different ways, but my dad had it and was strongly reminded of him. To the point where he also alienated everyone and was very generous with money, to try and draw people back in. He bullshitted and messed around with health issues so much that when he was genuinely sick nobody believed him because he’d cried wolf so many times. I know it’s a bit of a cliche on here and I certainly find myself saying it often, but counselling can be so illuminating when your parent behaves in this way.

Right now though, enjoy your very well deserved holiday. Focus on your lovely self, spend time with your family - and don’t feel guilty. You’re so important. You deserve a proper break, you really do.

Have a great time!

Enjoy your holiday. I hope you are currently relaxing with maybe 🍷 ?

Glad to hear you made it. Hope you all have a lovely time x