6 hour round trip to drop off DD's boxes at student house?

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My DD (20) is just about to start her final year at university. She has been home a couple of times over the summer but generally has stayed at her student house (end July) as she has a internship over the summer giving her experience in her chosen career. We have really missed her but understand that gradually she will come home less often. She also has a BF, whom she met during her course who lives in close proximity. Over the next month she is virtually homeless and is staying with BF and his family for a while but generally sofa surfing. She had decided to put her stuff into storage for the month but didn't get round to it(probably money related) .

Now she has decided that Bf is driving her home this weekend (we're away) to attend a party and drop off her stuff. She has asked me to drive her stuff down on 1st Sept. This will be 6 hour return trip costing approx. £60 in fuel. I feel a bit mean to refuse but it really will be a wasted day for me. I won't even get to spend any quality time with her. Aibu to offer to share the cost of storage /insurance with her rather than waste a day doing this? Or am I mean uncaring mother?

I used to go to Dundee and Manchester three times a year to do this and I live 80 miles from the ferry to Scotland plus the travel when I got to the mainland.

I had a car at Uni so did all the driving myself, bought with my own money from my part time jobs.

My DM wouldn't have driven all that stuff for me in a million years if I wasn't in the car with her and I wouldnt have dreamed of asking her.

How about your daughter comes to visit you for a few days then you drive her and her stuff to her new place? Or if she's short for time then she could come down the night before?
As a former student whose parents were excellent at lugging me & my stuff around, it seems a bit cheeky.
I don't think my parents would've been impressed to be told 'I'm coming down and leaving stuff in the garage - yes I know you're not around but I'm coming down for a party so easy to drop off plus boyfriend is driving - and you can drive my stuff up to me at the start of September'.

There is a HUGE difference between being taken back and forth from uni with/without your stuff and being a free courier for a kid who is taking her parents for granted.

This can be simplified in two sentences: Mum, I cannot be arsed to meet you but bring me my stuff on this date.

If anybody is wondering how CFs are bred, this as perfect example.

I used these guys when I returned for year 2 www.mybaggage.com/shipping/student-courier-service/
It was about £20 for a huge box (in 2012) I got everything in I needed. My mum was going through chemo so couldn't physically drive me it would have been a 12 hour round trip for her and honestly it wasn't needed!! Get her to do something like this we used storage at the end of 3rd year and it cost about £150 for a month obviously cheaper than rent but it was more expensive than £60

I am 45, single pàrent to 4 and my parents have spent the morning, helping me and the kids move. Oldest daughter is off to uni in September, we will be moving her too, and I will do the reverse at the end of the academic year

I had a car at Uni so did all the driving myself, bought with my own money from my part time jobs

Wern't at Cambridge perchance where they have that odd named person the "Motor Proctor" who has IIRC to issue you a permit or licence to keep a Car within 3 miles of St Maries church or some quaint place?..

My dad used to drive me back to edinburgh after the summer - it was a road trip for us and he would stay over and we would go out and have dinner and drinks, was an ace father/daughter time 😎😎

I'd do it....if 6 hours in one day was too much I'd stay in a premier inn that night. Presumably you're still helping her financially...drop offs and paying out sums of cash are the price you pay for your child to receive a university education.

Probably get flamed here. We're happy to take/collect DC from uni at the start & end of the year when they have all their stuff with them. But when they come home for the holidays it's bus/train. For example DS chose to lug a huge bag (of dirty washing) home for the Easter hols and back clean & ironed. Think they have to live in the real world.
To answer the question I'd say some give and take here. Yes I'd do it, but the 'price' is DD spending some time with you. Seems only reasonable...