Friend didn't tell me she moved ..aibu to be a bit annoyed?

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Well maybe not annoyed but a bit baffled.
We've been friends for 20 years.
We text every day and chat on the phone 3x a week sometimes more.
It was her birthday yesterday and we were meeting for lunch,as a extra surprise I sent her a bouquet of flowers.
The company rang and said they couldn't be delivered as the person no longer lived there.
I called my friend and she said "oh yeah we've moved,2 months ago,I never had the time to tell you"
???? We speak every day.
She had been renting but has bought this house.
How do you not tell your friend you've bought a house?
I just find it odd.
She was looking at houses a few months ago and said it was just for fun and they weren't in a position to buy etc
So she's gone through the whole process of putting offers in etc etc
Not saying a word.
We used to tell each other everything

That's so weird!

Very odd! and you still speak every day? Even odder.

It was her birthday yesterday and we were meeting for lunch,as a extra surprise I sent her a bouquet of flowers.

Did you discuss it over lunch ?

It is really weird!

Are you struggling for money?

Do you own your house? Has she been struggling with money or mentioning saving up ect?

How far apart do you live? How did she react?

YANBU I'd be both baffled and hurt if my oldest friend did this

What do you talk about when you speak? Does she tell you other things?

That’s absolutely fucking batshit!

After 20 years of being close friends and speaking so often I’d be beyond baffled & very hurt

I haven’t moved if you want to send me flowers 😊🌷💐

House buying is stressfull as fuck OP. I only told one person when I moved recently.

very odd is she usually scatty and forgetful?

Of course house buying is stressful - all the more reason to talk to your best friend of over 20 years about it!

I think she's won the lottery, doesn't want anyone to know, and hasn't mastered the subtleties of covering up spending.

How very odd. Surely when you talk you say so what you been up to/what you doing today....and she didn't say a word. Very very bizarre.

Very weird!
Maybe there was some nasty domestic abuse/ restraining order business going on and she has to go into hiding? or like her DP is an illegal immigrant and could be deported if found out so they have a secret to keep?
I don't know, just my imagination.

I don’t know, often an ex friend would call me twice a week to offload what’s happened to her at work, what’s going on with her boyfriend, moaning about her boss, and then just says bye! Without asking me a single thing. I don’t talk to her now but that went on probably about 8 months son definitely long enough for me to have brought a house and it never come up!

Is there any chance she might think you could be jealous? We moved to be closer to my parents and with some help from them (financial and childcare). A very close friend was at the same time lamenting her SIL who was essentially doing exactly the same thing. Without going into details about each individuals situation it seemed to me to stem from jealousy and it made it extremely difficult to tell her of our plans, so we didn't until it was all signed and sealed (wanted to make sure it was going to go ahead). Our relationship is now a bit strained - I put this down to jealousy again, but might be because I didn't tell her sooner. I know she is happy for us, but does she tend to compare unrelated circumstances to her detriment.

Yanbu that is very bizarre

Maybe she is living a double life

Or are you still renting and she felt it could be insensitive to being it up?

Why don't you just tell her you thought her omission was really odd seeing as you speak so often, and see what she says?

That's odd, especially as she bought, and wasn't just moving from one rented to another when the lease ended. That would be odd of her not to mention too though.

bringing it up!

Yeah that's super odd. Moving house is so stressful and time consuming, if you're talking to someone that often I can't see at all how it wouldn't get mentioned. Weird!

That is weird. Maybe she didn't want to tell you her new address?!

When you say "We speak every day" do you both speak or do you do all the talking and she can't get a word in to say anything about herself? That's the only explanation I can think of for her not mentioning moving. Otherwise, it's very strange indeed to not have told you she's moved.

Another one here who reckons massive lottery win she is keeping quiet about. Do you have the new address? I'd be on rightmove having a sneaky peak.

This reminds me of when sent out our wedding invitation, one in particular was sent to Mil friends daughter whose address we had been given by Mil friend.

We then get a phone call from Mil saying her friends daughter hasn’t received her invitation, it transpired that Mil friend gave us the wrong address and didn’t know her daughters new address.

Unbelievable.

Very weird.
I would ask her.
Maybe her partner is controlling her ,it would be interesting if he knows how much you both txt/speak.

That’s very odd. I would be hurt too although presumably she had her reasons. 🧐