To think I can’t do this? (Pregnancy)

[gonewiththepotter]

I’m 5/6 weeks into a planned and very much wanted pregnancy BUT I feel so awful!!!!

Actually tested early due to horrid nausea/acid reflux/painful breasts and stabbing cervical pain. Now my hips ache when I lay in bed so having to sleep in the spare room as DH’s breathing, breath smell, body heat...and general existence is driving me crazy.

I feel poorly ALL of the time (have been signed off work) and the nausea meds don’t seem to be helping.

There’s no middle ground, either my stomach is empty and really hurts or (even if I lightly snack) I'm just hovering over a bucket!!! Literally having to carry the bucket around the house with me!

I’m miserable! I can’t imagine being able to go back to work like this. I just want to feel so useless/helpless/poorly and fed up!!!

I was so looking forward to pregnancy too 😭 so want this baby and feel really guilty for feeling the way I do now!

DH is being an angel- doing all chores/housework and listening to me complain constantly! Waking up with me when I’m nauseas in the night and doing all he can to help ... but I’m starting to resent him for his health whilst I go through this!

• I just feel so ...

Its quite repulsive being pregnant.

It’s grim. But you will get through it & for many people it does get better in the second trimester.
Rest as much as you can. Don’t worry about working until you are better. Join the hyperemesis support thread on here for ace advice & support 💐

This is the worst bit, hang in there. For most people it gets better after about 12/13 weeks. I hated the first trimester - pretty much the worst time of my life, especially because like you say you feel so horrendous at a time when you should be excited and happy. Don’t feel guilty!

I’m currently sat here with THE worst stomach pain!! Feels like intense hunger but food doesn’t seem help! Moment I eat turns into intense nausea. Literally just eating toast!

Wondering if it’s being caused by the cyclizine!!!

Sounds rough OP, be kind to yourself.

Go back to the GP for different medication, I suffered so badly in early pregnancy but the moment I got the right antiemetic I felt a different person

And it’s even worse sometimes because people can’t see that you’re pregnant - when you start showing and feeling fine everyone’s so nice to you and helpful but when you’re feeling at your worst no one knows!

I don’t have HG as I’m not constantly vomiting it’s just the nausea...my god.

Went to the dentist with DH this morning (first time out in over a week and almost cancelled) he held a plastic bag next to me whilst the (very sweet and sympathetic) dentist did her thing. I cried on way home and we had to pull over twice!

I’m 26 weeks and still got it a bit rough but cyclizine did absolutely nothing for me, I felt tired, hungry, nauseas and vile the whole time I was on it. Saw plenty of different doctors before one agreed to give me a different medication and it’s helped loads, he also gave me some for acid reflux and they have actually helped lots with my nausea too even though I didn’t think my reflux was bad! Go back please there will be someone at your surgery that can help so you’re not suffering so much!

Just rang the midwife (second time this week - bet she groans when she sees my name) as was in bathroom just miserable and in pain. Described stomach pain and thinks it may be cyclizine related so can’t take it again now 😭 if this pain doesn’t wear off soon she said to call 111

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Being pregnant fairly sucks! Please go back to your GP though and see if you can have different medication.

Pregnancy sickness support is a great website, lots of research on their and a support line that can help.

Hang in there it will get better. I’m 25 weeks almost 26 and (I will get slated for this) I was exactly the same until 13/14 weeks in I even considered having an abortion because I couldn’t cope with the sickness / nausea. In the early days I could see no end. I wanted to go to bed so the feeling stopped but as soon as I opened my eyes it started again so I hated bedtime I hated getting up and all I did was cry. But now all that seems in the long and distance past! It will get better I know it doesn’t feel like it right now but it will Xxx

Pregnancy is shit. I spent the first 14-15 weeks lying naked on my bed with a fan on me and a bucket beside me. It did get better midway through. And then I felt like shit again.

I said to a friend the other day, I would do labour again, even though it was quite traumatic, but would I frick do nine months of pregnancy again. And I didn't even have that hard a time of it really.

However, it's a cliche but my DD is worth every retch and swig of gaviscon

@Porky

I’ve not said it but I’m ashamed to admit I’ve thought it today I feel SO AWFUL 😭

I love and want my baby but it’s SOO hard.
Originally DH and I wanted 3 children...I’ve fumed to him multiple times this week that this LO WILL be an only child!!

I can only sympathise with you. This time last year it was me, I literally felt like I had a raging hangover for 9 WEEKS solid!!! From week 5 till week 14. Constantly heaving my guts up but only 'actually' being sick 5/6 times. The only thing that made me feel better was eating, salty food especially, totally went off anything sweet even a sniff of a cake or choc would make me gag (usually afternoon tea or scones/cakes etc is my all time fave food!) I put on a stone by the time it all tapered off around 15/16 weeks because of the amount of salty snacks I'd ate!
It will get better you just have to persevere with it unfortunately. If you are constantly vomiting and can't keep anything down you must go to GP and get anti sickness meds.
I had it far worse with my girl than my boy.
And I'm glad I never have to do it again but it will all be worth it I promise you.

Aww yes the first trimester is awful my husband and my other children's breath was the worst! Everything that could upset me did my husband grows a beard because I like it but shaves it off when it gets itchy all very reasonable but I took a dislike to his face without his beard and told him not to look at me as I didn't like his face 🤣. Shocking I had sickness till around 18 weeks and still feel the odd bit sick now at 21 weeks. First trimester does funny things to you but it does for most get better x good luck

First trimester is diabolical, OP. I was actually sick every day and couldn't abide any strong smelling food at all. Fingers crossed it'll get better after week 12.

PS the baby's brilliant though

DH is being lovely but I know I’m being unreasonable and over sensitive.

He looked hurt this morning when I had to honestly tell him that his breath was making me sick. He brushed and mouthwashed But STILL couldn’t take it 😭🤢

He’d emptied the left overs of his dinner into the bin last night and today the smell in the kitchen is unbearable!! I (clutching my bucket) said ‘TAKE IT OUTSIDE!’ To which DH pointier out theres no room in the outside bin until it’s collected next Tuesday!!! 🤢😭😭😡

We live in a city terraced so if we pile it in garden will annoy neighbours. Normally I’d have shrugged it off BUT instead I cried and shouted that he needed to get rid of it. He ended up driving to the tip!

I’m 19 weeks had Hyperemesis with my first 2nd time I’m a surrogate I started acupuncture at 7 weeks and put sickness bands on and I won’t lie it’s worked wonders.... look into it I had anti sickness meds first time and it just knocked me out this time is so much better than last and I honestly put a lot down to acupuncture.... good luck

Being pregnant was the worst experience of my life. But the second trimester was better for me, so hang in there

I had constant nausea with no vomiting and it was horrendous. I existed on lucozade and Alka seltzer. You have my entire sympathy it did lift like magic around 12 weeks, which is fairly typical so hang in there. You're growing a human, that's hard work!

God I remember the stomach pain the only thing that helped for me was having a bath, I used to have them in the middle of the night coz I couldn't sleep!