To think I can’t do this? (Pregnancy)

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I’m 5/6 weeks into a planned and very much wanted pregnancy BUT I feel so awful!!!!

Actually tested early due to horrid nausea/acid reflux/painful breasts and stabbing cervical pain. Now my hips ache when I lay in bed so having to sleep in the spare room as DH’s breathing, breath smell, body heat...and general existence is driving me crazy.

I feel poorly ALL of the time (have been signed off work) and the nausea meds don’t seem to be helping.

There’s no middle ground, either my stomach is empty and really hurts or (even if I lightly snack) I'm just hovering over a bucket!!! Literally having to carry the bucket around the house with me!

I’m miserable! I can’t imagine being able to go back to work like this. I just want to feel so useless/helpless/poorly and fed up!!!

I was so looking forward to pregnancy too 😭 so want this baby and feel really guilty for feeling the way I do now!

DH is being an angel- doing all chores/housework and listening to me complain constantly! Waking up with me when I’m nauseas in the night and doing all he can to help ... but I’m starting to resent him for his health whilst I go through this!

Today I’m struggling most with the faint/dizzy exhaustion. I’m currently in bed with the fan on me! However, the nausea is stil at bay...even after I ate toast and two fingers of kitkat!

After last night/ early this morning I was convinced I was in for a day of misery but it’s not been ‘as’ bad as it could have!

I’m not actually vomiting very much at all! It’s just the nausea that’s awful so don’t think I’m in danger of dehydrating as going through 4-5 pint glasses of water per day and keeping it down.

Thank you all again for being so wonderful and supportive!

Completely underestimated pregnancy before, all my friends had smooth ones so im sure they roll their eyes at me!

They’re not friends if they do! I had easy pregnancies but my word I pitied my friends that suffered

Glad you’re feeling a bit better OP.
Sleep and rest will help if it’s not HG and keep hydrated.

I had a horrendous time with my ds. I was off work from week 6 until about week 18 then off again from week 20 to the end. Nothing I ate would stay down, hubby made me eat then I would vomit. Ice lollies helped a little and ginger ale (is that the non alcoholic one?).
There are no words - apart from ds is now nearly 16 and has always been a complete gem. Good luck

Ask the GP about onandestron (zofran) I took it for all of mine for relentless nausea and it was a game changer.

Also, if you are trying to think of something you might be able to eat, think in categories, hot or cold, soft or crunchy, juicy or dry. Etc. and then get dh to bring you something in the category.

Its ok to eat a couple of table spoons of something and then stop, dont think in terms of meals

You can drink calories just as well as eat them, so consider smoothies, or even just squash. If you are getting dizzy, you might just need some sugar in your system initially and then work up to a spoonful of yogurt or a cheese biscuit etc

To help with the smells, get a couple of essential oils (amazon sells them) like lemon mint and lavender, then pop some on a tissue and hold it over your nose. Its very good at blocking the stench or whatever is triggering you. Mint is also helpful for nausea

Consider acupuncture

Consider seabands

Sending 🌺

My pregnancy was planned and I actually took a few days off work to digest it. I was in shock. It took a few weeks before the news sank in. It's a massive change, you will go through every emotion throughout. Once the scan was done, I felt like I was flying. So happy. Congratulations OP

Oh gosh you poor thing. It’s lovely to see how much support you’re getting here though
My first pregnancy (7 years ago) I had no sickness whatsoever, about a week of exhaustion and then I was fine. I used to forget I was pregnant!!
I’m now almost 10 weeks with my second and I felt constantly sick from 6 to 9 weeks and now I just feel sick on and off. The exhaustion is unreal though.
With both pregnancies I have lost a stone in the first 8 weeks because I totally lost my appetite. I ended up putting 2 stone on last time so I’m not worrying this time! Hopefully you’ll start feeling better soon and then there’s plenty of time for the weight to go back on and more

Hey...well i just found out im pregnant with my 4th....ive had sickness with my other 3...my last pregnancy was 5 years ago and omg the hell that was nausea was horrendous...i feel so guilty because i should be happy but im feeling so scared and dreading the sickness hitting...im only 4 weeks....i lost a twin pregnancy back in january so this is a rainbow for us...i know its so early but i honestly feel so anxious its nearly making me feel sick lol

Your symptoms are horrid and it must be so difficult trying to get by day to day feeling so awful. Just a moment of perspective, though. Our baby died in utero, and I would give all of my limbs to feel that dreadful again right now! If you’re having symptoms, your baby is there, and developing, and doing what he/she should. Whilst feeling grateful for feeling horrid is probably a stretch right now (!), you can at least see it as reassurance that you are still pregnant. I do hope your symptoms ease off and you feel better soon. X

@babyless

Oh god I’m so sorry you went through that! I do keep saying I know how lucky I am, even if it’s hard to remember when feeling this wank! I wouldn’t change it, or swap it, I’m scared every day that something will go wrong and I won’t make it to the 12 week mark 😭

MN I need some more advice! A good friend of mine (though a few years younger) has just asked to stay at mine one night next week. She’s a lovely friend and I had offered us as a place to crash whilst she gets on her feet with a new job (a couple of weeks ago before I was feeling this crap). The thing is she does know how poorly I am and that I’m actually using the spare room myself as can’t share with DH. So I’m pretty sure she doesn’t have another option else she wouldn’t have asked. She’s stayed here before and been a very good friend when I’ve needed her but honestly I just can’t cope with a guest right now 😭. Who knows I may feel better by then but I doubt it!

I just feel weird as she knows I’m poorly and struggling 🤔 so has probably tried everyone else with no luck! I just don’t want a house guest...even for one night!

I honestly feel like I just can’t cope with life atm. Even small things that should be straight forward.

Today DH had a (rare) day off and we were having furniture we’d ordered months ago delivered. I’d arranged my DP’s to come and help DH as I wasn’t capable ... but they were really late. DH was flipping out as new furniture was on its way, old was not removed and my parents were MIA!

I ended up having a big argument with my DM who ‘didn’t understand why I was so upset about them being 30 mins late’ despite KNOWING old furniture had to be removed before X time! 🙄

Feel like parents were angry at me for expecting them to show up on time and DH was frustrated that I was in the house but couldn’t help him. Kept getting the ‘can you just help me do ...X, can you just carry...X’ NO I CANT

It's a new world for you (hopefully temporary!) so it will take a bit of adjusting. Your normal has changed. Be kind to yourself and realistic about what you can manage day to day. I've been there myself and I'm pretty certain that you will feel better before long. Hang in there

I spoke to a lovely lady at pregnancy sickness support today who was VERY concerned about me and told me to ring the early pregnancy ward at my local hospital. She sent me an email saying they think I need to be admitted for tests and a proper revision of aggressive treatment (I’m now up most of the night unable to sleep)

She made me feel like I wasn’t just making a fuss! So I rang the ward...and was basically told I’m ‘normal’ and to just get on with it 😭🙄

So fed up of being given such conflicting opinions!!

You have all my sympathy. I had really distressing nausea from week seven onwards but because I wasn’t actually vomiting often the doctors were really unhelpful. Their view was that the nausea wasn’t harming the baby so I should just deal with it. I wanted to, but I couldn’t cope with it. I couldn’t work or look after my three-year-old and I was starting to have panic attacks too. Awful. So I reached out on here, drew support from other women in the same position and from Pregnancy Sickness Support and demanded that my doctor take it seriously and help me. Cyclazine just knocked me out but Stemetil worked enough that I could just about manage. Marmite on toast, plain almonds, eggs, mega doses of Vitamin B6, cereal and ice cold oat milk, and sea bands all had their place. Acupuncture didn’t work for me because laying down triggered the nausea again! It’s all about trial and error but you will find things that work for you. In the meantime, you aren’t going crazy, and you aren’t alone. Pregnancy nausea can be genuinely traumatising. Take it a day at a time and don’t feel guilty for doing whatever you need to do to manage it.

Op sorry your not feeling great.

On my Son who is turning 2 next week. I was glowing, never had any morning sickness, ridiculous amount of energy(my sister thought I had hired cleaners for our house) and I worked full time up until 38 weeks. I honestly didn’t know what the fuss was about.

I’m 36 weeks pregnant now and have been throwing up every single day since before the test even on nausea tablets. I’ve had two serious bleeds where they told me to prepare for the worst, zero energy due to low iron even after infusions and two weeks ago was admitted to hospital for a week when my heart was 133-140 at resting. They still can’t find what it is causing it but I have to have a c section compared to my previous completely natural(36 hour) birth on my son.

We wanted four kids but am thinking we are done with two now. I know I am super super lucky to be able to have kids and so grateful (both my sisters went through ivf and took over 5-6 years to conceive)

Definitely have a chat with your doctor see what they suggest, try not to be too hard on DH.

I hope it gets better for you.

Take care x

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