Pissed off at lack of support on family holiday

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Some background. I am the youngest of 4 siblings. We are currently on a family holiday with my parents. I have 2 kids, 4 yo and 20 month old. The rest of the kids are all 10 and older.

Myself and DP have zero family support around, so very rarely go out, and as our 2 are vv early risers never get a lie in. This holiday has been particularly bad with neither of them sleeping well. I have been getting 2 to 4 hours sleep a night, with 2 totally sleepless nights. I have been on my knees.

In the time we have been here my siblings have offered only once to mind the kids so me and DP could go out and even then only after we had put them to bed. We have not been invited to any group activities. No one has even come to the beach with us.

Before my own kids came along I babysat regularly for both my sisters, have supported them unstintingly, dug my eldest sister out of numerous holes (including collecting her kids from the airport this trip just hours after we had arrived).

The final straw came last night when I discovered that everyone has booked a day trip today that is totally not suitable for my two, and it is our last day here.

AIBU to let rip and put a dampener on the last day of the holiday, or do I just quietly withdraw?

As I said- I haven’t read any more of the OP’s contributions. I’m talking about the other posters, not her.

Incidentally. Playing with your little cousins while their parents finish their lunch is not “forcing them to babysit”.
And does your teenager never do anything she doesn’t like? Good luck with that!

Insisting they get up at 7am on holiday so that their aunt can have a shag does not fall into that category.

Yeah the teenagers were happy to amuse the children in the pool but I don't blame them for saying not to a 6.30am rumpy pumpy alarm call.

Playing with your little cousins while their parents finish their lunch is not “forcing them to babysit”.

Well that isn't what OP wanted help with. She wanted a teenager to mind her children from 7 - 9 am so that her and DH could have sex. Bear in mind that that she'd just said that the villa was so child unfriendly that it took op and DH to look after the children at all times.

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I absolutely think teens should do their bit to help out. Insisting they get up at 7am on holiday so that their aunt can have a shag does not fall into that category.**

This. With bells on.

Every perspective on this thread this will be driven by own experience of family. Close family - you’d be baffled why you wouldn’t help one another. Family with lots of tensions (as is the OP’s by the sound of it), then you’d be indignant at prospect of childcare on holiday.

As I said, people were saying that they wouldn’t offer any help or think that their teenagers should before the later updates.

Yes, I think many posters correctly read between the lines that the OP had unreasonable expectations before she confirmed it.

I don’t think yabu expecting them to organise days out that are suitable for everybody, but i’m Afraid you are bu expecting them to babysit - they’re on holiday too and they’ve done their time with small kids!

And does your teenager never do anything she doesn’t like? Good luck with that!

Actually, Bertrand, she does things she doesn't like every day. Her older sister died when they were both young and her brother's SN makes life for her very difficult (she can't have friends over to visit, her activities are often curtailed due to his needs, all sorts) but she helps me and DH a lot with him, she's also leaving home earlier than she would probably have done otherwise and working towards that as life is so hard at home so excuse me if I don't force her to spend holidays doing even more shit she doesn't like because someone else wants it and it doesn't fit with your attempts to be condescending and sarcastic to assist your usual endeavours to prove you are always right .

We’re a close family but with dh and me both there I honestly wouldnt expect anyone to do our childcare especially with kids of their own. Possibly if I were on my own, I’d ask for help with specific things eg please watch this one for half an hour while I get this one to sleep. With both parents though, it would seem odd to me to expect someone else to take over.
But the day trips I think needed more thought and arranging in advance. From the sounds of it people saw the villa as the base from which to do their own thing, which is fine if everyone sees it that way.