Small bedroom, bad mum?

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So I've got a (small)three bed house and ever since I moved in there five years ago I've had horrendous anxiety over the little bedroom, it is 5'11 by 6'9, the second bedroom is fairly small too (9'10 by 7'9) although I'm ok with that size and is plenty big enough for my six year old. My four year old is in the tiny box room and I feel constant guilt and daily anxiety about it. I can't afford to move and won't be doing so for another 4-5 years but I just want to enjoy my house and I can't as I feel like everyone's laughing at me and thinking I'm a bad mum for putting him in a such small bedroom.
I'm constantly on Rightmove too comparing it to other box bedrooms and it really is the smallest one I've ever seen.

What do other people think? Does anyone else have children in tiny bedrooms?

@blue25
I'm not trying to be insensitive I feel very grateful for what I have, I really do, but when you've got anxiety things are different in your head and things get distorted and it's something I worry about a lot, I'm a long time lurker on here so thought I'd see if I should genuinely feel worried/bad or if it's just my anxiety messing with me.
And it's good to know some people have similar size rooms and they were/are happy.

My bedroom was big enough for a 2ft 6 bed lengthways & a wardrobe facing the door & covering half the window. It was completely and utterly the bestest few square feet in the whole house and the happiest & calmest place. Don't ever feel guilty about that op. Dsis had a cabin bed in there as a child. I was in that room as a baby then from age 18-25 when I left home (I was at uni between 18-22 so only there in the hols) what's not to love about your own bedroom. My en-suite is about the same size now - actually smaller. Again it's my little sanctuary xx

As in laughing at me for being stupid and buying such a small house with such small bedrooms

No one would laugh; you just bought from what was available within your nugget at the time! If it is a newish house they might be wondering why developers create such small bedrooms! Would it be possible to move the door to open outwards rather than inwards as that would open up more space within the room?

Think all those who tragically lost their lives in Grenfell would of gladly swapped. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and count your blessings.

I think cecily is right developers should be building houses with decent size bedroomsit is ridiculous to add on a tiny room and sell it as a 3 bed

I moved from a massive 3 bed to a tiny 2 bed. My sons room is tiny and can only fit his bed and a set of drawers.
I don’t feel guilty at all, he has a nice room, roof over his head and lives in a nice area.
Decorate it lovely and look at cabin beds to free up floor space

I understand your anxiety. I felt guilty about this too which wasn't helped by spoilt visiting kids passing comment! My dd has the same odd sized room and we have managed to get a high sleeper, desk, wardrobe, bookcase, chairbed and toy storage in with very careful planning. It is doable and I have had to give myself a good talking to about how lucky she really is!

My DD(18) has the box room, she has a lot less stuff than her younger siblings. It’s decorated to her choice and she’s fine in there.

Loads of children sleep I. Tiny rooms and have for generations. It's really not something you need to feel guilty about.

Here in Edinburgh, it's not new builds that have box rooms, but traditional flats!

My brother and I had tiny rooms just this size growing up. Kitchen cabinets on the wall as it was the only way to have storage plus a bed! My other two brothers shared a bigger bedroom which was the same size as my parents room.

Never thought anything of it at all. If anything we thought we were well off as we had a 4 bed. Friends thought likewise.

It's only as adults we realised what small bedrooms we had.

Plenty of kids with no roof/room to sleep in. So i am pretty sure your kid is ok and you should stop worrying over it. A bedroom is for sleeping
So if you can fit a bed in it and you can stand up in it: your set 😊

We have one huge master with en-suite. Two double bedrooms and the smallest box room ever. My 12 yr old ds is in the box room. We had to remove built in cupboard and build a stand type thing for the bed.
My dds (old teenagers) have the two double rooms.
Sometimes I feel bad he has such a small room but he likes it and we've made it really nice. There's not a lot we can do with it so it is what it is.

My three year old is in a box room, it doesn't fit a full sized bed, only a toddler bed until we have a bed specially made. He loves it though

I had a tiny room growing up right till I left home. I loved it and felt very cosy in there. I honestly wouldn’t feel any guilt over a child sleeping in a box room. If it’s warm, cosy and safe then it’s lacking nothing imo.

Forgot to say my room was so small a standard single wouldn’t fit. Good job I was a small child.

My 7 yo bedroom. It's tiny and she loves it!!

Most people have small box rooms and someone has to sleep in them.
I spent my childhood sleeping in the living room, so I would have been bloody grateful for a bed of my own let alone a room.
My own children have been all over the world and seen people living in real poverty. They realise how fortunate they are to have a roof over their heads

@Mucky1 that bedroom is lovely!!! I wish I was good at stuff like that.
It look soooo cosy!

Loads of my friends this bothers them. Doesn't bother me. At ALL.

This is a pic of the bedroom. Any ideas of how I can make it cosy will be greatly received.

My sister and I shared a bedroom until we left home. Our brother had the smallest room and slept in a two foot six shortie bed with storage underneath until he too left home a couple of years after finishing at university.
His room was so small that it had a curtain rather than a door for several years until my dad worked out how to fit a folding one, and none of his friends or mine ever laughed at the fact it was so tiny or that he only had one of those canvas wardrobes for his clothes or that he had to use his bed as a chair so that he could do his homework on a shelf fixed to the wall.
My brother loved his room and was hugely popular with those he shared with at university because he always wanted the smallest bedroom in the house. It certainly didn’t do him any harm.

I’d put some drawers under the bed, gallery shelves and pictures opposite, play rug on the floor

Can you rehang to door so it opens to the wall side rather than cutting off space within the room?
My youngest has similar size room and that's what we've done.

In my experience children value the privacy of a solo bedroom over everything else. That they have one place to go to that is theirs exclusively. I recall finding small bedrooms desirable for their cosiness.