Small bedroom, bad mum?

[tashakg89]

So I've got a (small)three bed house and ever since I moved in there five years ago I've had horrendous anxiety over the little bedroom, it is 5'11 by 6'9, the second bedroom is fairly small too (9'10 by 7'9) although I'm ok with that size and is plenty big enough for my six year old. My four year old is in the tiny box room and I feel constant guilt and daily anxiety about it. I can't afford to move and won't be doing so for another 4-5 years but I just want to enjoy my house and I can't as I feel like everyone's laughing at me and thinking I'm a bad mum for putting him in a such small bedroom.
I'm constantly on Rightmove too comparing it to other box bedrooms and it really is the smallest one I've ever seen.

What do other people think? Does anyone else have children in tiny bedrooms?

I’d move the wardrobe into the landing or your room.

Can you have the door rehung to open into the landing instead of into the bedroom, it would free up more floor space.

FIRST WORLD PROBLEMS …

Within miles from you there will a child sharing a room, sleeping on a sofa, or in a sleeping bag on the floor . Their parents still love them and are doing the best they can.

I have a work collegue who has 4 kids, the latter 2 being unexpected twins …. In their younger years mum and dad blew up an airbed every night to sleep on so the kids could sleep in beds.. I respect that guy. He works hard, and his 4 kids are all successful adults, in Medicine, law, literature...… Living a bit rough when they were younger did them good! …

My eldest (11) had what was the main bedroom (house now has a loft conversion too, so DH and I sleep up there). He had the en-suite and everything. We've just moved him to the box room at his request. He has everything he needs in there, a place for all his stuff and he finds it much easier and less stressful to keep tidy.

He's not one of those kids who hangs out in his bedroom anyway. Some don't.

Lots of children have tiny box rooms,and when they get grown up and leave, they will always remember their own little rooms from childhood.
Perhaps you should stop looking on Rightmove at other houses and rooms, as this will make you more upset.

I had the little box room in my parents 3 bed council house many years ago, it was mine,until I got married at 25. My sister,who was 7 years younger than me,had the bigger middle bedroom. No big deal for anyone.

I live in a 2 bed home, with 6 of us, so no, you are not a bad Mum for having a roof over your childs head!

We can't afford to move, we have been on the waiting list for 11 years for a larger home, however, I won't push it the way folk tell me to, as I made my bed lol, so I shall lie in it, even though, I don't actually have a bed, I have a sofa in the front room that I share with the husband, man its hot in the Summer lol.

Luckily I had two of each, and the two boys share their tiny room, as do the girls, they have bunk beds and a telly, not much room for much else and there isn't enough room to swing a cat (not that you'd want to, poor puss!)

But, our lack of space has actually made the kids want to do well, as all of them tell me how they are going to get amazing jobs just so they can buy Mummy & Daddy a bedroom bless 'em....sounds good to me!
They are growing, thriving, working hard, happy, playing, and yes, while they don't have much space, Ive still kept them off the streets and in a warm comfy bed, so don't beat yourself up! :-)

My husband was one of three boys in a tiny bedroom,his sister was in another.They managed fine.There are so many people who have no home it is important to remember how lucky we are to have our own homes.Its love and warmth that make a family and the difficulties of our lives can be made easier with this

My 5 and 3 year old share the box room here !

Started reading this to sympathise. My dd has moved in with my mum rather than live in her old tiny room. The amount of crap I've had - it's too small, it's an embarrassment, I shouldn't have had so many children, she can't have friends round, etc etc.
So I would think ahead to maximising space and making the most of it. In my experience it's the teenage years when they start hanging out with friends who have huge rooms with sofas and loads of floor space.

I shared a room smaller than that with my younger sister. It is a room to sleep in. It is not what your children will remember of their childhood.

My son had the smallest bedroom until we moved to a modern house. He asked for the smallest again there, and completely replicated it. He was then about 16. So, don't worry. It's home, that's what matters.

What @formerbabe said.

This is not a bedroom issue, this is an anxiety issue and it's spiraling out of control.

It's not the size of the bedroom that matters, it's the size of the love in your house.

They have their own rooms, they're fine but if you don't get a handle on this they won't be.

Put rightmove down and yourself to the GP pronto.

Look at it like this: I had 6 children in 2 bedrooms... trust me. Your kids will survive.

I lived in the box room of our house from when i was small until I left home at 19 yrs. It was 8'6" x 6'. My Dad changed the door hinges so that the door opened out onto the landing. I had a wardrobe with sliding doors and a small desk/dressing table, the bed had storage underneath it as well. Shelves were put up high on the wall above the bed. It was my space and I didn't think anything of it, except when we could change furniture, then I would get the graph paper out to see what and where I could fit things in.

I would rehang the door so it opens against the wall on the left rather than against the bed.