Text found on husbands phone

[roseyposeypuddingandpie]

Him: Can you do lunch next week?
Her: Yes I can do Monday.
Him: Just remember, you are brave and strong, life is a daily battle that you’re winning, Every day gets easier I'm telling you!!! You are beautiful kind, intelligent and hard working, nothing else matters
Oh and you have a good looking boss.
Xxx

What would you think?

You trust he hasn't been unfaithful....why is that?

Even after the glove compartment situation and the text you can honestly say that. I'm sorry but you are living in cloud cuckoo land

Weirdly I do trust that he hasn't been unfaithful but I still feel that the way he speaks to other women is highly inappropriate, he has made me feel like a complete fool.

OP, you found cash, latex gloves and toilet roll in his glove box.

It really seems you stay in the dysfunctional relationship, because you get something out it.

You cant honestly believe, without finding our exactly what's going on, that those items were there just because.

You stay in this marriage for a reason. And it's not the kids. Because the kids dont need to be around such a shit relationship. They may not here the arguments (thought I bet they do) but they know he treats you badly and he is creepy as fuck.

Personally, I would divorce him now. I wouldnt be with a man that spoke to me like that. AND theres a good chance at some point he could get done for sexual harassment and could end up with a criminal record and getting sued.

Oh and if the money and gloves etc were for prostitutes, he icild end to witha record for that.

Do your kids need to see that in the papers?

The girls response was something along the lines of

'Thank you so much for your all support (company name) has been a huge help to me and incredibly supportive over the last few weeks and I can't thank you enough.'

His previous texts are flirty, hers aren't. Tbh it does seem as though he (a fifty year old man) is exploiting his position. She is early twenties. Although, he is a naturally flirtatious person and doesn't seem to have an awareness of how his actions impact other people. He could of course just be a first class penis but for a while I have suspected that he is on the spectrum as he often misreads certain situations. He swears blind he was just being supportive!

No spouse of mine would dare to speak to me in that manner because I would throw his sorry,disrespectful cheating ass out of the marital home that day and take him for all he's worth for maintenance and his belongings would all be on the front lawn for the neighbors to see

He called you cunt and you're still in love with him?

Get rid he's taking the absolute piss.

He’s a cheat and a gaslighting prick. You will be so glad you left him when you look back on all of this in a few years.

He will almost definitely get accused of sexual harassment at some point in the future.

@MarthasGinYard

He actually said that the he wore the gloves for filling his car up with petroleum. This I know to be absolute rubbish because
A) Petrol stations provide plastic gloves.
B) Not once in the 15 years we've been together has he used ever used them, despite me encouraging him to.

Meant to write petrol not petroleum

He could of course just be a first class penis but for a while I have suspected that he is on the spectrum as he often misreads certain situations.

Are you fucking serious? Really?

Also, why does he even have his colleagues phone numbers? Work business is usually conducted over email, if it can’t be discussed face to face. I bet he doesn’t have all of his male colleagues’ mobile numbers...

dont stir flobella

&@flobella

He actually has the telephone numbers of all his staff, male and female.

@EleanorReally Thank you

@flobella I have loads of male and female colleagues phones numbers.

I also have the numbers of everyone who works for me. The main reason for that is for business continuity, in the event something happens to our building. Every company I work for has had a business continuity plan that includes each manager being able to contact their staff if the building had a fire or something and we need to arrange for them to work elsewhere.

Sorry if I have crossed a line there. I am a bit confused but I will leave the thread and wish you well with whatever you decide to do.

As pps have said on various threads like this - it's never Keith from accounts that these so-caring-to-colleagues men want to 'help' is it?

You'll have to accept he is just another middle aged sleaze trying to get with much younger women by being sooooo supportive - and a user of sex workers, instead of excusing his behaviours as him being 'on the spectrum'

I totally see what you are saying but I am not sure that if I were a manager I would have all of those numbers stored on my own personal mobile phone and I really don’t think I would be using text messaging as a method of communication to set up meetings or working lunches etc. It just doesn’t seem to be very professional - I think I personally would use email and I would have a spreadsheet or something with contact details stored so that if the worst happened (like a problem with the building like you say), I could then make contact. If I really needed a phone with all of those contacts on it then I would probably have a separate one for work. It all just seems that personal and professional life is becoming very blurred otherwise.

Anyway, like I say, I clearly have offended so I won’t chip in with any other advice.

A colleague found similar years ago Op he had a penchant for dogging.

Would never of imagined it in a million years....

Op don't allow him to talk to you like he does. Imagine if you're BF or DD was being called a 'cunt' by their DH amongst other things. I'm sure you'd be horrified.

Ok until the last line! That is flirting

flobella stored on a spreadsheet is a great idea

Unless you work computer is in the building that burnt down.

Lots of people are also friends with their work colleagues too or all calle eachother for other reasons. Or have numbers for emergencies.

I dont know anyone who keeps work completely out of their personal life and doeant speak to anyone from work, outside work time. I am sure they exist. But it's not the most common way people are.

Last weekend my boss called me 3 times because the weekend reports didnt run. I fixed it and earnt and 2 extra days holidays for sorting. Well worth him having my number and doing an hours work on saturday morning. My boss isnt creepy though and doesnt send me creepy texts in between, though.

I feel very sorry for you op...he sounds horrible .. hundreds of people on this thread are saying he is absolutely in the wrong... listen to them!!

do you want to be with him.if you think/know hes a penis.why stay?

@MarthasGinYard

Dogging 

Forget whether what he's said to her is out of line or not. It is. But the way he's spoken to you is way off the scale and what you should do is tell him firmly and coldly that he stops the fishing texts and the disrespect of you or else it's divorce. And mean it. If you don't want to give him another chance, and no one would blame you, then just divorce him.