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Text found on husbands phone

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roseyposeypuddingandpie · 20/07/2019 01:10

Him: Can you do lunch next week?
Her: Yes I can do Monday.
Him: Just remember, you are brave and strong, life is a daily battle that you’re winning, Every day gets easier I'm telling you!!! You are beautiful kind, intelligent and hard working, nothing else matters
Oh and you have a good looking boss.
Xxx

What would you think?

OP posts:
HelgaGPataki · 20/07/2019 09:03

It's inappropriate, if my boss sent me that I'd feel uncomfortable. Plus, it's totally at odds to how he speaks to you, seems he's only playing the role of being kind and supportive in order to win her over. He's obviously not like that at all or he wouldn't speak to you (the person he is supposed to love) the way he does. Get out, he won't change it's totally disrespectful.

Boysey45 · 20/07/2019 09:04

Hes clearly after her, I'd have taken the number and given her a ring asking her honestly what else has he been saying.

Jellybeansincognito · 20/07/2019 09:17

He sounds like he’s enjoying the power, he’s disgusting.

BonnesVacances · 20/07/2019 09:18

Tbh the text is a red herring. It's the way he speaks to you OP that needs to be dealt with. Do you want your DC to speak to their partners like that when they're in a relationship? Will it make you feel proud if you witness on your DC calling their partner a cunt because they've queried something that might be amiss?

Opossooom · 20/07/2019 09:19

Oh OP 😦 what a horrible position to be in. It’s probably a younger girl who has no interest in him whatsoever. The fact he’s so lovely towards this girl who’s going through a hard time yet calls you a cunt when your upset is awful. The children didnt hear this did they? IMO A relationship of two people who dislike each other holds more responsibility for problems in a childhood than splitting up and potentially being happier ever will. Do you actually love him OP? He sounds fucking vile if I’m honest, he doesn’t sound like he really wants the relationship to work and is hoping to potentially go elsewhere.

QueenoftheBiscuitTin · 20/07/2019 09:24

If you have any self respect, you'll get rid of that piece of shit. Don't stay with him for the children's sake, what does that teach your kids? That it's okay for their partner to treat them as if they're nothing?

thethoughtfox · 20/07/2019 09:28

Is he such a kind friend that he offers emotional support and takes out older male or menopausal aged female colleagues? Or is it just young, female ones?

Bifflepants · 20/07/2019 09:28

Does he speak like this to male employees as well?

tomatostottie · 20/07/2019 09:29

He says I'm twisting things and he can write whatever he wants to whoever he wants and I should just grow up and trust him.

I said that he's disrespecting me and our marriage, his response- 'Fuck off and grow up.'

No, he needs to fuck off and the sooner the better. What an arsehole.
He's having his cake and eating it. He's got a wife to bring up his children, to keep house for him (don't know if you are SAHM or have a job but I'd like to bet he doesn't do his fair share of the chores and childcare, especially if you are also working).
And then he thinks he should be free to flirt with whoever he likes and send other women inappropriate texts telling them they are beautiful etc. And who knows whether he is having an affair or wants to or whether he has had affairs with other women before this one.
This man is a prize prick. Get rid of him.

theunrivalledjoysofparenting · 20/07/2019 09:30

He calls her beautiful and hard working and calls you a pathetic, immature cunt??

You're hjis wife!!
He clearly has more respect for some woman at work than he does for you.

LTB.

YOu and your dc are worth far more than this piece of shit.

xsquared · 20/07/2019 09:30

Even without the texts, the way he's speaking to you speaks volumes about how he sees you. He neither loves nor respects you.

For the sake of your mental health as well as for the children, I'd be looking to leave ASAP.

MarthasGinYard · 20/07/2019 09:33

The texts would now be immaterial to me.

I wouldn't be under the same roof as someone who called me a 'cunt'

daisychain01 · 20/07/2019 09:33

Another abandoned thread when the truth being posted is ugly

ContactLight · 20/07/2019 09:36

So he speaks like that to his female employees on a regular basis? That's sexual harassment in the workplace.

He sounds awful. Sorry Flowers

MarthasGinYard · 20/07/2019 09:38

Currently sitting in my husbands car, opened the glove compartment to find £300 cash, a packet of wet wipes, a pair of latex gloves and a toilet roll.'

The Op from another recent thread I was on of OP's

Bookworm4 · 20/07/2019 09:38

Good luck to him when his next target doesn’t fall for his shite and reports him to HR.

MarthasGinYard · 20/07/2019 09:39

Don't think Op returned to that thread either.

2beautifulbabs · 20/07/2019 09:42

Sorry OP but your husband sounds like a creep and someone who's abusing his power to talk that way to female colleagues it's kind of sick inducing really and the way he's spoken to you sounds horrendous he's checked out of the relationship and is trying his luck and worse of all if that woman is in a vulnerable position at moment he's taking advantage of that he doesn't sound like a nice person at all do you have anyone IRL you can talk to sorry your going through this Thanks

Tooner · 20/07/2019 09:42

You should kick him out but you're not going to do that, your words on here tell us that you're not ready to do that just yet.

Hopefully the day will come when you accept that he doesn't love you one bit and you are there simply for him to emotionally abuse whenever he feel like it

Things will not get better. You will continue to put up with his shit and your children will grow up in a dysfunctional setting.

Please start preparing for the day you find the strength to say to yourself that enough is enough and you will not be abused any longer. You are worth much more than that. Have a plan. Decide what you want to happen. Him to move out....you to move out. Put aside as much money as you can so you have one less worry when the time comes.

rainbowstardrops · 20/07/2019 09:42

That's interesting @MarthasGinYard

dottiedodah · 20/07/2019 09:45

Do you think its worth keeping this relationship?.He seems to disrespect you and appears to be trying it on with some of his staff!.I think you need to have a serious chat with him about your future .Also maybe some advice if you were to divorce?.He probably thinks that he would be able to walk away with a good deal .But you should be entitled to 50 % at least I think .Maybe you can work things out I dont know .The problem is that he wont change unless he feels he has to !

TheStuffedPenguin · 20/07/2019 09:49

he says it would be easier if I didn't love him. Right here he has told you he doesn't want to be married anymore and wants to pursue options . He has had his head turned . Sorry .

ScatteredMama82 · 20/07/2019 09:50

Quite apart from the text messages, I would not be with someone who spoke to me in that way. Just awful.

SallyWD · 20/07/2019 09:53

He called you a cunt and pathetic?!! He's the pathetic one and is a complete sleaze. If my boss sent me that message I'd report him fir sexual harassment.

Amibeingnaive · 20/07/2019 09:55

He uses too many exclamation marks.

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