To stop pandering to neighbours parking requests..

[Panda368]

This might be a bit confusing but will try and make it as clear as possible. We are on a terraced street with street parking - no allotted spaces or anything - you get what is available at the time.

Neighbour (lets call her Anne lives next door but one) has a problem with our mutual neighbour (lets call her Clare) who has been doing up her house for a while, she has a particular problem with how Clare parks her car.

Anne thinks Clare parks too close behind her car (usually there is several feet between bumpers). Anne has taken to asking me and my partner when we have parked our cars to move up or down essentially trying to make us park in such a way that it prevents Clare parking infront of her own house.

We find this a bit weird and increasingly annoying as the last thing you want to do when you get in from work and park is then go and re-park. We also think Clare should be able to park in-front of her own house.

When we have pushed back and politely told Anne we are too busy/will move car later Anne has become arsey and accused us of 'making her ill' and repeatedly says the whole parking problem is giving her anxiety, shes on medication, her blood pressure is really high etc etc

Anne had a go at me last week about moving the car and complaining to me about my boyfriend having to be reminded weekly to park in the certain way she likes it - I was clearly about to leave in his car had baby in the back and was dashing in for something I'd forgotten when she caught me so I was quite short with her about already being late and still got an earful about her blood-pressure.

Is it unreasonable to refuse to play Annes parking games even if it causes her anxiety? Is pandering to her parking 'issue' ultimately making her anxiety worse? We don't want to be sucked into her one sided parking feud with Clare who is very normal and not arsed.

How do I say no next time?

She sounds like an absolute fruit loop and is lucky you have put up with her for this long I would of said piss of on day 1 🤣

@iheartroycropper Oh dear you must be one of those inconsiderate people with multiple cars taking over the whole street.

Absolutely not. Just a sensible person who knows the actual rules of the road and that there’s no “unwritten rule “ .
You only need to look at the multiple parking threads per week to see the problem when people start getting territorial about the spaces outside their house.

Why are you even answering the door/phone. Ignore it and it will go away. As the saying goes, not your monkey, not your circus. Unless you entertain it.

@iheartroycropper Yes you are right I have seen many threads too where people live close to hospitals and people park on their street, drives etc but it is not fair if one person has multiple cars taking up the whole street and everyone else has to walk, surely if you see others only having one car but you have multiple then you would take your neighbours into consideration. I read this thread as there is enough room for everyone but the other 2 houses can't park properly because the OP has 2 cars and has parked quite far back so there wasn't a lot of space left for claire in the middle which is why Anne keeps asking her to pull forward so Claire doesn't have to take up her space. Anne might just be a busy body but I know people who struggle with parking so I wanted to show the OP a different POV if she hadn't considered it.

Clare has come back from her weekend away bearing in mind we only moved my car forward about 3 feet there is easily 3 feet between her car and mine and probably about 6 between her car and Anne's - Anne will still hate this.

There’s clearly plenty of space. On my street this ‘consideration’ would have you lynched as we’re all packed in like sardines
But I agree with PP you need to stand up to Anne

I wish I could do something about it. I contacted the council and they said I had to pay - £500 then and keep a record of the number of times I have asked him and even if they got a judgement they probably will not be able to force him to do it. This is the hedge at the present time. Until last year he was trespassing on my flat roof to cut it. In 2011 I heard a noise and went out to see him raking the felt with a garden rake, the next time it rained water poured onto my bed. I had the whole roof replaced. About 18 mths ago I asked the police to ask him not to go on the roof again. It is still under guarantee and the roofer will not honour it if there has been someone on it. So far he has not climbed on it, but it has birds nesting in it and it is against the law to disturb nests. The little chimney in the photo is the gas boiler flue. The police had several times climbed up and removed debris deliberately piled on it and blocking it, but they say I cannot prove it was him. The trees are damaging my gutter and fascia but the police say it is a civil matter, yet the law says it has to be 6ft. I do not live upstairs now because I am disabled. They do not block any light or create a nuisance except they are damaging my property.

I have never had a conversation with him. I have never spoken to him. He is the sort of person who would put words into my mouth and said things I did not, so I have ignored him and I think that has made him do more and more hoping to get a reaction. My late husband was a vicar. Whether that had anything to do with it I do not know. Perhaps he was just trying to draw us out, but being Christian we turned the other cheek.

Before my husband died he kept coming up to me every time I went into the garden. It is a 6oft garden open plan. When my husband died he stopped, I suppose because of talk and took to damaging the property instead.

Our neighbours deliberately park in such a way that they are more outside our house than their own with not enough space for us. We have to park up the road or in the main road sometimes. Even though they asked DP to move once because they needed to be as close as possible to their house for when they have their grandson (hardly ever)..they now do this. It's beyond annoying.

Panda368
So basically Anne is pissed off because Clare had building work done and she didn’t like the noise, so because of this she’s making your lives a misery. How petty .
I wouldn’t even bother with Anne as she’s causing animosity between you all.
If she starts on about the parking again just tell her you haven’t the time or inclination to worry about who’s car is parked where and how many feet/inches they are parked away from each other, failing that just tell her to f**k off 😂. No seriously , if Anne was my neighbour I wouldn’t pander to her. Anne’s just got her knickers in a twist because of the building works Clare has had done and the noise it made.

Okay I would tackle this by talking to Claire and telling her how Anne feels, and asking her to not park so close to Anne. Then let them sort i out between them.

"it is not fair if one person has multiple cars taking up the whole street and everyone else has to walk, surely if you see others only having one car but you have multiple then you would take your neighbours into consideration"

It's not "fair".....just the language evokes entitlement. I agree with iheart - there is no "unwritten rule" on a public street and it's none of your business how many cars your neighbours have. In my own experience it's always those that believe otherwise who are most hostile and aggressively controlling with their notes and pestering requests.

@llizzie that's awful! What a knob. Best solution is to kill the tree. Leylandii is hardy but enough weed killer or salt/boiling water near the roots should be enough. Or if you could get someone to help, drilling holes and injecting copper sulphate into the branches and trunk will be faster. Just make sure you don't have anything to do with it and they can't prove it was you

@Panda368 any update? Does Anne leave you alone now?

Bloody thread. Halfway through reading it I discovered I was humming Smooth Criminal and now can't stop.

Annie are you ok, are you ok Annie.