To dislike when strangers ask me the age gap of my children?

[Elmo311]

I know this is probably irrational, but I have a small gap between kids.
I was in the post office today and the que was massive, as I was leaving this random woman asked me really loudly what my kids age gap is, I told her "it's not a very big one!" And left.
Why are people so nosey ?!

I think I'm annoyed because it was in the most quiet place, and I can imagine everyone's ears were tuned in!

Why to people need to know / ask, when they don't even know me? Especially in a post office FGS...

Rant over!

Oh dear. I ask people of small gaps this all the time! It's because I have a small gap between mine so it's conversational. My kids aren't always with me when I ask..!

@PCohle Totally agree about fertility questions! But many people don't see that as rude....

I think If people 'wean' me into it then I don't mind sharing info. I am not ashamed of their age gap at all, and i don't feel sensitive about it. I think I just don't like strangers who blurt out questions at me whilst I'm trying to leave a shop.

@SleepingStandingUp I like you.

@Elvesdontdomagic Do you just blurt it out though?!

@Elvesdontdomagic do you have a conversation and ask or do you shout it at random strangers as they pass?

Thanks @Elmo311😊😊😊😊😊😊. I'mpregnant with twins, I'm heeding @dreichhighlands warning. Oh God, one kid who looks different and two that match, I'm gonna be such a conversation starter in the bus 😂😂😂

My DC are five years apart, I get asked if I had trouble get pregnant again and DH gets asked if they are both his! Several miscarriages and yes he is! Some people are rude.

@SleepingStandingUp 😀 I'm not religious, but I almost feel like praying for you 😀.

I also get told by strangers that I must leave a bigger gap next time, or be done now. But that's another thread!

@Elmo311 I'll take prayers to anything you believe in!!!

It can literally be the first thing I say..I might change that if people can be sensitive. It never occurred to me it would bother somebody! It never bothered me. I wouldn't think it was rude either but maybe it is

Either say they are twins or that there are five years between them.

@Elvesdontdomagic bit to someone walking past you to leave a shop or someone next to you in the queue /bus? The same question sounds totally different depending on the context

@Elvesdontdomagic Some people mind and some don't :). I would have preferred her to make a comment on the kids and ask their ages then. But I was leaving so she obviously felt that she must know right now! Haha .

I'll try to not let it get to me as my children are young as I suspect I will get this for many years to come. I just like to be in control.

I get asked this all the time. There is 11 months difference between my dd and my twins. They often get mistaken for triplets which then i obviously say no and have to explain. If im busy i just say yes they are triplets and dash off.

Its the comments after like, oh you didnt hang around or do you not own a TV

Any how they are 7,7 and 8 now so no one pays to much attention

@flippyflapper The TV comments are the worst!
Good to know it gets better after a few years though.

I don't mind if people ease into it with 'you've got your hands full' or 'that must keep you busy', its going straight in with a nosy question that annoys me. 'Have you worked out what's causing it' or 'don't you have a TV' are equally annoying.

@Sindragosan I like your comment x 100

Agree it's rude , 22 years between my oldest and youngest ! My grandson is older than my son . So I get questions when one is calling me mam and the other calling me nana !!

Oh god I always, always ask the age gap because I am considering a second and like to know what other people do and how they find it! 🤦🏻‍♀️

I used to childmind - one of my mindees was the child of a mum met at antenatal class expecting my first - 6 weeks between them. My other mindee was 4 months older.

I had to take all 3 with me to a midwife appointment when I was visibly pregnant with dc2 - my dc1 was about 19 months, younger mindee 21 months, older mindee just turned 2.

Triplets and you're expecting again, you're brave! They're not triplets? Oh, what the gap between her and the twins? None of them are twins...

Now that confused people!

@Itsalldramarama Sometimes people need to mind their own business ! But I bet they are so confused!

@crispysausagerolls It's fine to ask, but it's how you go about it.
If the woman had started with "I'm thinking of having another, how are you finding it with two little ones" I probably would've stopped to speak to her.

@crispysausagerolls But taken the convo outside as I don't like everyone listening in a post office where it's usually quiet.

There's siblings at our school who are three months apart.

Two mums + same male donor = the requirement to explain this to everyone at all times!

sleepingstandingup My absolutely favorite baby twin conversation held many times was,
"Are they twins", "yes", "oh, what sex?", "one boy, one girl", "oh great, are they identical?"
But it is really people trying to be friendly.
In the US I've heard people talk about Irish twins.

Ha I would totally follow up with ‘how on earth were you having sex so soon’

Now that is rude!