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To think something must have happened

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MrsDragonLady · 14/07/2019 20:59

Early last year, DH gave up his job to be a stay at home dad, so that I could change my career. The job I had taken was crap hours and pay, but it was entry into a field that didn’t come up very often.

Now, 18 months on, I’ve secured a better job and the hours mean he will be able to go back to work too, something which he had always planned on doing.

He applied back to the company he had left, but on a different department. He got rejected before interview. So he applied again back onto the department he had left. He had 9 years experience and had been put forward by a former colleague that was still in the department. The manager wasnt the same one as when he left. He was basically offered the job at interview, but got told he would have to wait for the official email from head office to confirm. A week later he got a “after much deliberation, we have decided not to offer you the job” email! He contacted for feedback and got told he wasn’t the right fit for the position, but they would consider him for future roles.

Fast forward two months, he’s applied for 8 more jobs at that company and been rejected for them all.

He’s now moved onto applying at different companies and having the same issue with every single one. He’s getting an interview, being provisionally offered the job, then after being passed on to head office he gets a rejection email around a week later.

Could it just be a massive coincidence, or am I right in thinking that something must have happened for him to keep being rejected like this. He’s applied for well over 30 jobs now in various postions, companies and for different hours and not been considered for any of them!

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MRex · 16/07/2019 21:15

Bad references for people still get out, but usually only verbally and confidentially. If he knows his referees then that's unlikely, but it could be HR in the old company's case. I don't think they would be interested in giving a bad reference to another company though. Could there have been a health and safety issue identified after he left, or his name is the same as someone else who caused a problem? It's a reasonable idea about getting someone else to ask for a reference so that he knows exactly what's being said if that is possible, but hopefully his referees can help first.

Does he still want to be a butcher or could he consider an entirely different career?

annielouise · 16/07/2019 22:04

I also think prospective employers might be thinking you'll have another baby and he'll be off again looking after the baby. This was my first thought and someone else has said the same upthread.

RhiWrites · 17/07/2019 03:18

@Otherpeoplesteens I agree with everything in your post.

I’m sorry you’ve been finding it so hard. I made a sideways move after a gruelling 9 months of applying for jobs. It sounds as though I did better than you but I could not believe how tough it was out there. I’m sorry that your MBA hasn’t helped.

I am working again but for a startup part time so much more uncertainty. I hope you find something too.

OP, I’m sorry but I think you’re right. He’s been blacklisted somehow. Some kind of mismanagement or impropriety at his old job are my best guesses. It is a toygh marker but to be offered roles and have the offer withdrawn multiple times is very alarming.

chocorabbit · 18/07/2019 11:12

Maybe they get young and inexperienced recruits because they will cost a lot less.

In DH's workplace they desperately need highly experienced staff who would logically demand a lot more than many of the current ones' salaries but the manager has decided that he will lower even more the advertised jobs' salaries Confused DH is fed up of having to work with incompetents and do their actual work plus his own and work on many different projects at the same time.

If your DH is as highly experienced as he claims to be it doesn't make sense not to employ him. However, many times companies are short sighted and look at short-term profit and not long term losing the contract(s).

MrsDragonLady · 23/07/2019 20:44

Just a bit of an update, but he’s only gone and got a job!
It’s a completely different sector to butchery, further afield and he’s starting again from the bottom. But it’s a job, he’s started, and he’s enjoying it!

Still none the wiser to why he didn’t get any of the other jobs, but I’m assuming it can’t be the references as he used true same ones!

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myrtleWilson · 23/07/2019 21:01

Brilliant news - I hope he enjoys it very much!

Loveislandaddict · 23/07/2019 21:11

Yippee!

StrippingTheVelvet · 23/07/2019 22:06

Great news!

marcopront · 24/07/2019 09:07

I think it might be references but not the official ones. So a private conversation for example.
However now he has this job it doesn't matter as much.

MRex · 24/07/2019 12:43

It's clearly not him then, it's whispers behind the scenes. Never mind, hopefully whatever he's doing now will turn out to be more fun and more lucrative than being a butcher, so he can look back and see the challenges as a blessing.

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