To think that you should never marry a gamer

[Somersetlady]

A glut of threads on here recently reference DH being useless/not contributing/ not looking after kids because they are in the xbox. Often they stay up late on the xbox.

One but of advice for those dating would seem to be to steer clear of gamers as your future OH!

Each to their own but after having a child who couldn't self moderate, there's no way.
personally, I think it's immature and playing with childrens/teens toys, even though some games are marketed towards man children
I can't think of anything more off putting but we are all different.

assumed that gaming was silent and the player just stared at the screen clicking a fee buttons
It can be social, I play a game where I talk to a group of people on the same team on microphone. Chat about the game but also just random chit chat.

assumed that gaming was silent and the player just stared at the screen clicking a fee buttons

It can be silent or social.

My ex used to play when we had our first tiny cottage. I went to bed, he gamed

Thanks @Stamz and @jacqueshammer for widening my knowledge of popular culture!

I ride my horses almost every day AND run AND fit in the odd computer game somersetlady

playing games on the pc and being outside loads aren't mutually exclusive.

I used to work in a related field and DH and most of our friends were games journalists. I can’t remember the last time he turned on any of his consoles, neither of us have time for hobbies these days! Not every gamer is a complete layabout (although I’ll admit that there’s no way on earth I could have been with most of the gaming man-children we know!).

I’m a gamer, I’m also a single parent, doing both really isn’t difficult. If you choose to marry an idiot you only have yourself to blame.

@Fibbke I’m impressed as I’d never find the time on top of work and kids!

I would always advice against starting a relationship with someone addicted to gaming. I thought he was over it but he thought he would start again just for fun... Obviously that wasn't possible. It causes so many problems. He doesn't think he has a problem. Although what someone said up thread, probably just don't start a relationship with anyone who is a total cock, regardless of their hobby

Gaming is addictive. I found facebook addictive in that I could lose time on it and achieve nothing so removed the ap from my phone! Maybe I’ll not try the gaming thing just in case.......

I probably play for 40 mins three or four times a week somersetlady but my kids are older so don't really need me after we've ridden and eaten!

DP & I are both gamers, but our children & each other's come first.
We often game with the kids - who are all gamers or becoming gamers.
I think it very much depends on the person, if they are going to put a hobby before partner and children, it doesn't really matter what it is.

Majority of gamers are female now apparently (52% i think it was).

What would they be called? Women-children?

@Chovihano Ah yes, like that famous child's toy Grand Theft Auto V. Aka the most profitable entertainment product of all time.

@Benjispruce I’m a gamer, I have very toned thighs, I also have a sixpack and I can deadlift 120kg. I’m not pasty either, I’m a nice shade of dairy milk.

There is a difference between someone who does this for an hour a few times a week and someone who ends up for hours, goes to bed late, and would want to do so when on holiday.

Though finding out which one applies before marrying or starting a long-term relationship seems reasonable to me.

Gooigi

You'll probably find that most kids have played GTA before they are 16.
It's y opinion that consoles are toys for children, and that grown ups are a bit pathetic playing them tbh.
Whenever I meet one pathetic springs to mind, I can't help it.
i'm so glad mine sold them when they were thinking of moving in with their partners, I'd have been mortified had they continued when they had a family and priorities.

How pathetic of adults to have hobbies. They should do nothing but work and sleep.

I stereotype gamers as lazy and unsociable. On the other hand they are probably loyal and less likely to stray away.

I think it's more the man than the gaming aspect. Mine is a programmer, who enjoys gaming, but never to the point of it being an issue in our lives. We enjoy playing some together, he plays when he has time, but since having kids he plays much much less. Some people are just selfish though. My advice would be don't marry someone who doesn't pull their weight, irrespective of hobby

How pathetic of adults to have hobbies. They should do nothing but work and sleep

I know man.

I'm still waiting for the MN approved hobbies list me. I'd like to see what the eternally snidey do for pleasure. who wants to go first?

gamer

That's an easy question. They wash and clean things that are not dirty and fret about the day when a tradesperson asks to use their toilet.

It's y opinion that consoles are toys for children, and that grown ups are a bit pathetic playing them tbh.
Whenever I meet one pathetic springs to mind, I can't help it

And having knee-jerk reactions over a hobby, a god proportion of which is designed for adults isn’t pathetic....?

Yabu.

My dp is a gamer (tcg and boardgames rather than Xbox though).

It's actually how we met.

Dc is getting into gaming now too.

It's not family avoidance for him, gaming IS our family time