To think that you should never marry a gamer

[Somersetlady]

A glut of threads on here recently reference DH being useless/not contributing/ not looking after kids because they are in the xbox. Often they stay up late on the xbox.

One but of advice for those dating would seem to be to steer clear of gamers as your future OH!

Arsehole.

I'm sorry but I don't see pretending to do something creative at all

So you must class acting as not creative then...

It's mind boggling the extent some gamers will go to in order to not look like adults with children's toys

My closest friend who works with games (and no not just making them) finds his massive salary very adult

I find it mind boggling that adults have to be such cocks to others just to make themselves feel better and superior.

This says more about you then it does with gamers, role-playing in mmos is basically largely creative writing with the added bonus you can interact with others and move about. It's no different from creative writing or story writing.
Also yes I play with lego, I like creating models, it would be weird to give up something I like doing just because others see it as childish.

@Gooigi haha! Brilliant!! 👍

Gooigi

The truth must hurt,
Go play with your toys.

See, knew it was one or the other. Definitely the former

Why are you such a spiteful cow over how other ADULTS spend their time?

I will. Apparently it's not nearly as good a use of time as your hobby as being shitty to people while hiding behind a screen. I hope you didn't raise your wonderful non-gamer kids to be goady fuckers too.

Just to say, and of course I wouldn’t possible advise as it’s against talk guidelines, but Advanced Search is a joy.

Why are you such a spiteful cow over how other ADULTS spend their time?

Massive insecurity. It’s textbook.

I have been an incredibly selfish gamer today.

I got my son up, helped him brush his teeth and hair, while he got dressed I made his breakfast (porridge with bananas) and then we walked to nursery. But heres the bad bit, and I just can’t forgive myself, I played my switch for my twenty minute tube journey to work, I cannot believe how selfish I have been, but it gets worse.

I also played my switch on the tube back to nursery, I then took my son to the park on the walk home, made his dinner, played with him, bathed him, helped him clean his teeth and read him a bedtime story.

Sadly I am going to be selfish again, I’m about to start my forty minute weights session, but after that I’ll go back to play zelda on the switch. The horror.

I dont really get this Chovihano person. If video games arent your thing, so be it. Personally i've never been able to get the hang of anything more complicated than Wii Bowling, but my BF plays CoD from time to time and enjoys it. He also makes models and plays the guitar rather well. He seems pretty creative to me.

I dont consider myself very creative. My hobby is military history, and i write. Basically, i sit on my bottom, and wiggle my fingers over a keyboard.

As others have said, more than half of the population play games and it isn't a particularly gendered hobby. I play games, my partner plays games, my parents and grandparents play games. Not all games are 'mindless' either (no more so than a game of chess, reading a book or doing puzzles).

Someone who plays games or does any other hobby to the detriment of their family or other relationships has a problem, but I think that's a real minority of gamers (and some TV or movie watchers are just a bad).

My DH is a gamer. It’s not an issue because he puts his family first and plays in the mornings before work (after he gets up with the baby and puts him back to bed) and in the evenings when the kids are in bed. It’s better than a hobby where he’s out training or watching a sport constantly!

Just to add that some games are inherently creative. The most obvious are games like Minecraft which are far and away more creative than reading a book, watching a movie or playing a sport.

@simonJT botw is never a waste of time

Studies show that gamers are actually more intelligent and creative than non-gamers.

www.lifehack.org/355507/science-says-gamers-are-more-intelligent

Suppose that might help explain some of the responses on this thread...

Studies paid for by large corporations who pedal games at a high cost to gamers!???

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Studies paid for by large corporations who pedal games at a high cost to gamers!???
Well the study re. intelligence was by the US Dept of Defence. I don't think they're a major game distributor...

Its actually "peddle", not "pedal".

No, im not buying silly research that suggests gamers are more intelligent / creative / sexy than non-gamers. Five seconds' thought tells you that's rubbish. Some gamers are smart, some are stupid. Some non-gamers are smart, some are stupid.

No, im not buying silly research that suggests gamers are more intelligent / creative / sexy than non-gamers. Five seconds' thought tells you that's rubbish. Some gamers are smart, some are stupid. Some non-gamers are smart, some are stupid

Have you actually read the studies?

Oh look, it’s the annual Mumsnet “We hate gamers thread”

I’m a gamer. Threads are like is why I tell very few Women I game.
In addition to gaming, I horse ride- I have my own horse, I hike and I play piano.

My DH also games too, it’s not a problem. He pulls his weight around the house and he swims, cycles and hikes. He also mucks out the horse when I can’t. He’s far from pasty and lumpy. He works for a gaming company (coincidentally making games hated on here) so he is definitely passionate about it. But I can’t be grudge him an hour when he comes home from work if that’s what he wants to do. Many times we play together.

I would much rather he games than goes to the pub, gets rat arsed and comes home steaming drunk, but that’s just me.