A generation waiting to inherit

[Okaydoklay]

With house prices being so high, are we creating a generation of people who home ownership is out of their grasp, and those who have wealthier parents , they are all waiting for their parents to pass to ever be able to afford their own home.

I have my aging disabled mother living with me and my two adult sons. I will care for my mum until the end and a home will never be an option.
She has been with me 7 years now and could be with me 10 plus more years.

Having been a carer myself no way would I want that for my children if at any time I am unable to care for myself. I love my mum and don’t regret the choices I have made but has restricted my life and will go on restricting it. So there will be no discussion and I will just go into a home or if my quality of life was such that I felt my usefulness was over I would choose to end my life. I don’t want to linger in a home unable to do simple personal tasks and kept going with medication.

It's very hard to end your own life when you are old and decrepit though. Also when younger, people say they don't want family looking after them (my DM), or that they will end their life if very ill etc,, but then they change their mind when at that stage.
That's why it's so important to make Advanced Decisions well before that time comes.

gingerbread, as a teacher myself, I think even my 9 year olds understand what a sweeping generalisation is.

OhDearGodLookAtThisMess

If you were my teacher I would want my tax money back.

Oh for God’s sake, stop being so bloody goady, will you @gingerbreadsprinkle. You’re just making yourself look stupid.

Oh for God’s sake, stop being so bloody goady, will you @gingerbreadsprinkle. You’re just making yourself look stupid.

I'm goady for explaining a cultural difference then having my posts taken out of context by idiots who can't read properly? Nah, people who are so close minded that they refuse to see any other side but their own are stupid. You are goady.

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gingerbread

Dmil was being looked after by Bil. He is very close to his mum and didn’t want to put her in a home. But when she started to get violent and refused to let bil leave the flat for weeks and started to attack the supermarket delivery guy it became intolerable.

Would you put your children and other family members at risk if your dm got violent.
Bil has to hide all the knives and anything mil could get her hands on that could injure him or worse.

I don't care about you swearing. Racists hate it when someone wants to explain a cultural difference. You both want to giggle and lash out? Cool. Do the Trump thing. It's no sweat off my back.

Inherit what?

My mum’s spent everything! She has a big death in service pension from my dad which will die with her, but she is generally rubbish with money and any capital has long gone. She’s even remortgaged the house so nothing there either.

(1) as was stated in another thread on here very recently the issue about whether people will ever be able to afford to buy their own property is a very regional thing. There were several posters in their 20's / early 30's who had bought property. It seemed the key thing was remaining living at home to enable you to put money aside, and obviously living in an area where housing is affordable. My friend's daughter has recently bought her own property. Age 25. She's a teacher, been teaching 4 years and has bought just on her salary. You can buy property here for £100,000, with 3 bed houses for £120,000.

(2) regarding inheritance, unless a person remains perfectly healthy into old age, most people will have to sell their property to fund care in their old age so inheritance is no way guaranteed.

(3) being looked after in a care home isn't necessarily the end of the world (or worth ending your world so you don't have to be in that position.) The home where my mum is is like being in a hotel, lots to do, trips out etc.

I don't know anyone 'waiting' to inherit! I'm in my 40s... I think 99% of people are just getting on with their own lives... Maybe you're reading too much into nothing OP?

"I don't care about you swearing. Racists hate it when someone wants to explain a cultural difference. You both want to giggle and lash out? Cool. Do the Trump thing. It's no sweat off my back."

Racists 😂😂😂 proper tantrums being thrown now!!

Racists 😂😂😂 proper tantrums being thrown now!!

Nuanced racism is a joke to people who aren't on the recieving end of it. I can't wait for Brexit, then the racists of this country will get their just American desserts.

There were several posters in their 20's / early 30's who had bought property. It seemed the key thing was remaining living at home to enable you to put money aside, and obviously living in an area where housing is affordable

Or do what Dd has done. Live at home , save up and buy a property miles away to do up then sell.

Probably. Sadly I think the kinky house my dd will ever own I. This current climate is a dolls house

Omg. ONLY not kinky

What the fuck does this even mean? Lunatic.

You are a racist for making a joke of racism. Hence why you wouldn't understand, it's beyond a neanderthal's level of comprehension.

I think I missed the point re racism..? But it might be past my bedtime...? Confused.

I'm struck by the people saying they wouldn't treat an infection s/a a UTI in a dementia patient. Are you saying that that person requires in-patient treatment?... oh.. is ot because they might refuse to take oral antibiotics? Or something? I know nothing about geriatric care but as someone who gets UTIs sometimes - this seemed harsh?! And painful? Why would you leave someone to suffer? It's not like a UTI would kill them? Someone help me understand this?

I'm 57, my mother died at the end of last year. I am due to inherit a substantial sum once probate is sorted.

My 1st priority is to set up investments so that my son will eventually benefit once I die.

I do plan to spend some of it as well.

I think I missed the point re racism..? But it might be past my bedtime...? Confused.

I'm getting trolled because I said I was foreign and explained how end of life care is handled in my culture. Racists came on to feign ignorance and act offended about my posts, calling them goady because I dare to be foreign in England and post about my life experiences.