AIBU to want to live as far away as possible from other people’s badly brought up children?

[francescadrake]

Today I took my child (nearly 3) to a small, free soft play area on our local shopping centre. There were a few toddlers running round. Fine. My DD wanted to go on the slide, so she got on and waited her turn. All the while, there are two little boys going up and down the slide, climbing up the inside as soon as they finished their turns, shouting in the face of the other children. My DD went down the slide, couldn’t get out at the bottom because they were blocking her and climbing up, and promptly burst into tears. She’s a shy child.

WIBU to tell the boys very firmly to go back down the slide, not climb up, then go and speak to both their mums, who were sat there on phones ignoring their sons’ behaviour?

They did apologise, but why don’t their children know how to use a slide? Why aren’t they stopping them frightening other children and climbing all over everyone rather than using basic turn-taking manners?

Last point: it’s nearly always boys.

AIBU to want to move to the Outer Hebrides so my DD doesn’t have to put up with this?

I’m not a nutter, you’re clearly blind to your own contradictions.

I’ve got a problem with the way people seem to raise boys differently to girls. Because it really is nearly always boys.

Where we've lived it's just as likely to be girls of the "better" parents who behave like this.

I monitored my kids - girls and a boy - and they know how to behave but you do have to intercede when they are young as many parents don't seem to bother.

Having said that many a summer my kids have joined in with others in the park sometimes with older siblings and played nicely together.

On other hand I can remember two really bad encounters one like this on a day visit where some lads wouldn’t let other kids have a go even after parents like us interceded and another on holiday where some teenager girls had clearly been sent out with gaggle of younger kids to watch and they objected to us using the public park – foul language trying to push our kids of equipment even with us right there.

So are you- why not teach your daughter not to go down slides when there are other people on it?

You are the sort of odd fish who thinks my daughter should wait while the boys finish playing. You have nothing of interest to contribute.

I’m not a nutter, you’re clearly blind to your own contradictions.

I didn’t say you were a nutter.

I can understand where you’re coming from OP, I have a very shy boy (asd) and it is nearly always boys who do this in the park. Fortunately I’ve not yet met a parent who hasn’t stepped up and told them to cut it out whilst my boy is waiting to go down.

Exactly though @Pinkgin22 children who are like this tend to be regardless of proactive parent or not, these behaviours don’t create entitled brats, children tend to calm down as they age and start to understand other people’s emotions/ barriers and general manners.

It’s normal child behaviour- hence why we’ve all seen it from BOTH sexes,

It’s not the child’s fault that they’re behaving like that when they’re still learning about the world, they tend to have tunnel vision. But to blame the parents isn’t great either, since it still happens in children that have helicopter parents preventing it.

It’s a learning curve.
Young children are not entitled bullies though.

Toddlers aren’t great at self awareness. My 2.5 year old makes my 4 year old cry and is oblivious to the fact it’s his fault she’s crying.

OP are you going to keep on arguing until everyone agrees with you?

I would like to live as far away as possible from people like you.

23 posts in a little over an hour...... way to go OP you really have got this parenting nailed on!

You did however stop yesterday evening, I presume that your partner warrants more attention than your child does, she's got none all day long for three days now.

Are you sure she is just "shy"?

Hope the DM catches on to this one, would be hilarious to expose the perfect parent that spends all day on MN arguing relentlessly no matter how many thing she is BU.

Also glad for your daughters sake that these posts end after a 1000 entries.

And actually come to think of it. It’s not the children who are misbehaving that will end up being the ones who are entitled.
It’ll be the children whose parents move the earth for them every time something isn’t to their pleasing instead of teaching them that sometimes people aren’t nice and we can’t sit and cry about it.

Also be careful what you say about horrid boys, if you want any grandchildren your dd will need one, one day. Although admittedly it is not always necessary these days.

PS I've got boys, how much would you charge to come over and sort them out?

When a grown woman has an issue with little boys... Some sort of jealousy thing here op? Bored of your girl?

It’ll be the children whose parents move the earth for them every time something isn’t to their pleasing instead of teaching them that sometimes people aren’t nice and we can’t sit and cry about it.

Oh right, yes, should have realised: it’s my daughter who is the problem.

No. My daughter wanted a turn on a piece of communal play equipment. These boys wanted to keep playing indefinitely, preventing others from taking a turn. She isn’t entitled.

Also be careful what you say about horrid boys, if you want any grandchildren your dd will need one, one day. Although admittedly it is not always necessary these days.

She might need a boy, can’t see why she would need - or have any use for - a horrid boy.

PS I've got boys, how much would you charge to come over and sort them out?

What are they like?

I think you’ve got an issue with talking about tense 😉

Neither were the children who were tunnel visioned by excitement.

Your daughter wasn’t entitled no, but by giving her an expectation that the world will change for her, that will create entitlement.

Yes, your 2 year old should definitely have just put up with the little darlings preventing her from leaving the slide and shouting in her face. In fact you should have gone shopping and left her to deal with it on her own. 2 is far too old for adults to intervene. She needs to learn to let people treat her like shit asap!

No not at all @Killybashangel but OP likes talking about how behaviour now will affect the future.

Killybashangel

I know, the entitled little madam.

@francescadrake I love how you turn this, I never said your daughter was entitled.
You called the other children entitled however, for playing on play equipment in their own way.

You called the other children entitled however, for playing on play equipment in their own way.

But when I asked you for evidence of this, you could only find evidence that clearly said it’s not their faults, but they will grow to be entitled because of shit parenting.

Well no actually provided you of your own comments via screenshot which clearly show you contracting yourself.

You called them entitled, and continued to say that children who are left unattended and allowed to play like that are entitled.

Anyway. Enjoy your completely miserable life OP.

You could pick an argument with an empty room by the sounds of it. Clearly ignorant towards your own contradicting opinions, scarily blind to it. You’re complaining about 2 year olds that aren’t self aware, what’s your excuse?

Of course they're entitled- they're two! They're all two!

This is hilarious!

The OP has mistook her daughters lack of confidence for good manners.
Seriously, this is what happens at soft play. They go daft. That's the point.

Your daughter would act the same if she had the confidence- don't be so smug.