AIBU to want to live as far away as possible from other people’s badly brought up children?

[francescadrake]

Today I took my child (nearly 3) to a small, free soft play area on our local shopping centre. There were a few toddlers running round. Fine. My DD wanted to go on the slide, so she got on and waited her turn. All the while, there are two little boys going up and down the slide, climbing up the inside as soon as they finished their turns, shouting in the face of the other children. My DD went down the slide, couldn’t get out at the bottom because they were blocking her and climbing up, and promptly burst into tears. She’s a shy child.

WIBU to tell the boys very firmly to go back down the slide, not climb up, then go and speak to both their mums, who were sat there on phones ignoring their sons’ behaviour?

They did apologise, but why don’t their children know how to use a slide? Why aren’t they stopping them frightening other children and climbing all over everyone rather than using basic turn-taking manners?

Last point: it’s nearly always boys.

AIBU to want to move to the Outer Hebrides so my DD doesn’t have to put up with this?

Ah the ever antagonist emoji

Lots of people disagree with you OP, intact I’d say it was 70/30 not in your favour.

But don’t let those pesky posts stem away from your absurd opinions.

Lots of people disagree with you OP, intact I’d say it was 70/30 not in your favour.

So roughly a third of people agree. Right.

Actually there are shit loads of us on this thread- as in people who disagree with your bizarre view of the world.

Quick show of hands: who agrees with squeaky that my child interrupted the boys’ game and was therefore in the wrong?

This thread just keeps on giving.

Look, these are toddlers. They don't know the rules because their sense of empathy is still developing- so being considerate of others is something they have difficulty with.

Both the boys and your daughter acted accordingly- with little consideration as they are toddlers. That is normal.

Does your child go to nursery? If not I'd strongly recommend it, would do wonders for her confidence and get her used to some rough and tumble.

I think we may have located the source of male entitlement: like the Eldorado of pop psychology.

Squeaky: what lack of consideration did my child show? She queued up, she waited her turn, she said “Excuse me.”

What are you going on about?

How dare she want her turn on communal play equipment.

@AlecOrAlonzo there definitely is, that's why I've suggested to the op that she doesn't bother us up here and stays put 😀

She went down the slide when someone else was coming up or at the bottom.

Others have pointed this out to you.

Seriously though, so what? My point is, you cannot assign 'blame' in this situation because their isn't any. It was a critical mass of toddlers acting like toddlers. One ended up crying. That is normal too. Give her a hug and tell her to get back in there. That is what I do with my son. I would do it with a daughter too.

Are you just being deliberately obtuse or are just hard of reading OP.

2 very young children were playing as children do irregardless of their gender, nd your isolated generalisation of social and cultural differences.

YABU, and behaving like an adolescent twatty tween with it.

*She went down the slide when someone else was coming up or at the bottom.

Others have pointed this out to you.*

I can’t engage with you anymore. You are just too ridiculous.

Not sure why people are getting so upset about the op's opinion. Ime it is often the boys who tend to be the ones doing things like that, some girls as well. But mostly boys. Just based on observing kids at any given playground.

2 very young children were playing as children do irregardless of their gender

No, they don’t. Most children play with regard to other children. Those that don’t, in my experience, are nearly always boys.

As a child of the 90's I do love a bit of irony, my little princess 👸

And again, the “princess” narrative rears its ugly fucking head.

No, they don’t. Most children play with regard to other children

No, no they don't. They're two.

You remind of a woman from my NCT group who got upset when my four month old kicked her four month old.

Only read thread title.
Move to the middle of nowhere and home school then.

I mean there are lots of children, and people in general, about. But of you try in sure you can cut you and your kids off from society to a reasonable extent.

You're the princess

How can it be both? It’s one or the other.

I’m not going to waste my time however arguing with someone who calls a 2 year old a bully 😒

Move to the middle of nowhere and home school then.

I don’t want to home school (or get into that debate), but if it’s a choice between that an my daughter having to take a constant back seat to the boys, or become as entitled as they often seem to be, I would do it.

Just look at what is being suggested on this thread: my daughter was inconsiderate for waiting her turn in the queue, and should have waited for the boys to have their hundredth turn of the morning before she went down the slide.

FFS. No wonder male entitlement doesn’t go anywhere.

squeekywheel

You see, I am confused. I can’t work out whether I am foul-mouthed and aggressive or a delicate little flower. 🧐

2 year olds are entitled? And you have the nerve to tell other people that they’re not listening?

YABU OP

Acknowledge it or don’t, keep posting however your making yourself look like a adolescences teenager, throwing a strop because apparently we “just don’t understand”

2 year olds are entitled? And you have the nerve to tell other people that they’re not listening?

No, and no, you’re not listening. 2 year olds are babies. But when their parents neglect to supervise them and let them do what they want, that is how they become entitled.

2 year olds are entitled

Isn’t your child 2, oh the irony, however apparently your child is an exception to the rule, as she’s shy and a gentle snowflake princess.

@francescadrake unless they’re boys?

Do you get my point now?

I’m not listening? How many people are arguing with me on this thread? And how many are arguing with you?

Arrogance is ugly. I’d take a child running up a slide over that any day of the week, what’s your parents excuse? Obviously it must be their fault you’re like this because you’re not a boy?