AIBU to want to live as far away as possible from other people’s badly brought up children?

[francescadrake]

Today I took my child (nearly 3) to a small, free soft play area on our local shopping centre. There were a few toddlers running round. Fine. My DD wanted to go on the slide, so she got on and waited her turn. All the while, there are two little boys going up and down the slide, climbing up the inside as soon as they finished their turns, shouting in the face of the other children. My DD went down the slide, couldn’t get out at the bottom because they were blocking her and climbing up, and promptly burst into tears. She’s a shy child.

WIBU to tell the boys very firmly to go back down the slide, not climb up, then go and speak to both their mums, who were sat there on phones ignoring their sons’ behaviour?

They did apologise, but why don’t their children know how to use a slide? Why aren’t they stopping them frightening other children and climbing all over everyone rather than using basic turn-taking manners?

Last point: it’s nearly always boys.

AIBU to want to move to the Outer Hebrides so my DD doesn’t have to put up with this?

In all serious OP I have had to let these things go-it drove me insane to begin with but I learnt it’s just one of those parenting things which is super annoying. This being said I did intervene recently when a girl did do a wee in the ball pit though ...the mother went onto explain that she was on day 3 of potty training (I was too speechless to challenge)

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Bringonspring

Francescadrake you're saying it's always boys misbehaving at softplay

I didn’t say that. I said it’s very few children overall, but nearly always boys.

@Bringonspring that’s disgusting.
Some people 🤦🏼‍♀️

It’s interesting to see the truly defensive response

That is fucking hilarious, you're the most defensive poster I've seen on MB!

FYI my two DS are grown adults, soft play didn't really exist and I actually managed to bring them up to be decent self confident adults....... truly fucking amazing.... I didn't even need MN to help!

be house best you wanted to come on MN and say my child is currently an angel, why can't everyone be such a wonderful parent as me!!

You're lucky at the moment she's 2, things may change,,,,,,, then I'll be laughing!

typical mother of a girl thread

plasterboots

If I am defensive, it’s because of the ridiculously inappropriate and irrelevant to the topic comments about my parenting.

‘I do not pull her away from every situation’

No? It sounds like you do, you’ve said you don’t tolerate certain behaviours for example.

No? It sounds like you do, you’ve said you don’t tolerate certain behaviours for example.

And how do you get from that that I pull her away from every situation, rather than just certain situations?

f I am defensive, it’s because of the ridiculously inappropriate and irrelevant to the topic comments about my parenting.

Really, the "it's not my fault" it's all your fault scenario, you made me do it?

So when you DD swipes a child, you'll be that parent that then backs her with "it's not her fault"?

We all know those type of parents .....

So when you DD swipes a child, you'll be that parent that then backs her with "it's not her fault"?

Too much of a leap for me, that. You’ve lost me.

My boys were never allowed to do this. It is parents that cant be bothered to parent.Outer Hebrides kids are lovely and very well behaved last time I was there. My sister lives there.

Sorted, then! When are you moving, OP?

francescadrake, you have now spent way, way, WAY too much time overthinking a non-event and digging in behind an unhelpful position.

Let it go. In every way. If you get this exercised about soft play you and your daughter are both in for a very rough time. Leave the thread, shut down the computer or put down your phone, and let it drop from your mind.

Well tbf OP, you're judging these DMs for looking at their phone and not interacting with their DC.
The irony considering you're on the phone all day.
Not a good example of parenting, even if the child is shy and quiet, you should be interacting with her.

I know I know I'm on lots today too, it is my day off after 3 night shifts, DP is off today.

CarryOnUpTheNile

I’ll keep you informed.

YANBU to expect parents to be making sure their children are playing safely. It's not just the little girl who could have got hurt in this situation, but the little boys too.

I don't think your post was sexist. You didn't blame the kids. I totally agree that people do hold boys and girls to different standards and encourage them in different kinds of behaviours.

The only other explanation here is that maybe it wasn't that dangerous in the play area, e.g. if the slide was small and it's a soft area, maybe they didn't really need supervision?

EmeraldShamrock

Here we go again. My child gets plenty of attention, thanks.

The only other explanation here is that maybe it wasn't that dangerous in the play area, e.g. if the slide was small and it's a soft area, maybe they didn't really need supervision?

No, it wasn’t dangerous. Their behaviour was dangerous.

Here we go again. My child gets plenty of attention, thanks.

A lot of people think not...... loads of PPs have expressed surprise at your level of posting.

A lot of people think not...... loads of PPs have expressed surprise at your level of posting.

That’s their concern. It isn’t mine. She gets plenty of attention.

But the point is, I am judging other parents for being on their phones. I couldn’t give a crap how long they spend on their phones. I care that they are on their phones at a time when their child is being rude and aggressive towards other children.

*not

Oh OP...why have you come back? You are being trolled....

That’s their concern. It isn’t mine. She gets plenty of That’s their concern. It isn’t mine. She gets plenty of attention.

Ok, if you say so!