I'm cross that the clean bed luxury has been ruined

[StealthPolarBear]

I've changed our bed today and it was overdue. I put the sheet and pillow back on but the duvet cover is a bit damp so has stayed on the airer.
I just went in to find DD lying on our bed, on the sheet in her outdoor clothes.

Blimey, I'd cut her some slack. I also lay on the bed in outdoor clothes sometimes. She wasn't being naughty (assuming she wasn't covered in horse muck or something).

To explain your batshit reasoning perhaps?

Also, if your dd isn't allowed to lie down during the day, what else is she not allowed to do?

I am completely with you, @StealthPolarBear - I love the feeling of being the first person into bed on the clean bedding. I know it is not logical, but if dh gets in first, it does take the shine off.

I don't know how to say this without sounding horrible which is not my intention, but frankly, if that is the only thing you have to worry about, then you are very lucky indeed!

@LadyBahBahBah 🤣🤣🤣 that's really cheered my day up

Late to this now but we try to keep beds for clean clothes or pyjamas only. Definitely not jeans etc. Think of where the hems have been dragging!! On bed, yes, not in it. Just saves on washing and effort. Clean beds are amazing.

I think you are being totally normal OP, especially if you are the one that has to do the washing and changing. When your DD does more washing for herself she'll probably get it too.

Ground her for a month no pocket money for the rest of the year.
That should teach her.

Or you could be like any normal person and get over it if she hasn’t been swimming in a slurry pit what’s the problem?

Ginger ale drinker do you never find that when you have bigger worries, it's the little things that set you off? The little things you come on mn to vent about?
If not, fine. But that's my experience. And no I don't have any huge worries, I'm very fortunate. But I do feel very stressed at the moment and sometimes that's when the tiny things get blown out of proportion.
Thump, thanks for the contribution. I'm not going to engage any more.

Fuzzy duck already over it and have confirmed that pages back.

Oh well - off you flounce!

Not flouncing I just have any more to say to you. You have fixed opinions of me. I don't agree. I can't say any more to change your mind.

Don't have any more

You’ve come a bit of a cropper on this thread OP, and I can sympathise somewhat. I can see how you were expecting to tap in to the pretty commonly held ‘clean bedding’ feeling. I like a clean bed too, but as far as I’m concerned, beds get dirty from you sleeping in them for hours at a time, night after night, and someone lying briefly on the sheet in their normal clothes wouldn’t make any difference to me. If I had made the whole bed up and it looked nice and neat I might be a bit miffed if someone jumped in and messed up the duvet and left it like that, but I wouldn’t consider it ‘dirty’.

Glad you have accepted that dd can lie in her bed as and when she likes though 🙂

Ffs Thump OP has responded throughout the thread with patience and humour. She's not flouncing.

Thank you for spotting that :)

Well, considering it's an event significant and rare enough to warrant the OP posting about her dd trying to lie down on two beds on Mumsnet, my money is on her dd actually feeling unwell.

Mrsd, definitely not flouncing, I'm killing time until the rewashed sheets are done :)

Lying in the bed is only for naked or pj’d bodies nothing else!

Lying on top of the bed is for pj’d and clean clothes bodies.

Clothes that have seen the park/bus/hospital etc do not go on top of the bed.

Am I weird??

OP I completely understand where you are coming from, non nightwear IN bed is just odd, it’s acceptable ON the bed though.

BUT on bed change day there’s is to be absolutely NO lying in the bed before bedtime, either in clothes, PJs or naked! I love the feeling and smell of freshly laundered bedding and PJs.

Tomorrow is new bedding day in this household and I can’t wait!

Snowy I hate to break it to you, but yes

Wow how do you have time for these micro rules? It sounds absolutely batshit to me, sorry

StealthPolarBear

Glad that the bed feeling is nice for you. But perhaps not telling your DD off

Has she been down t'pit?