... to ask about three things you think about every day?

[onmydoorstep]

I've NCed for this. For some context I'm in early 50s, nice DH & kids, good position financially (but big mortgage), jobs, health OK, etc. Lots of pluses, and the usual stresses of work, some family stuff, and so on.

I find there are things that I think about almost everyday.

• Parents: passed away over a year ago after long illnesses. I miss them so much, and think about them every day.

• DS: has friends, popular socially but struggles in school, not very motivated at all. He also has some manageable health issues. I worry about him.

• Sex (life passing me by?). My DH is great on so many levels, but his interested has decreased hugely in recent years. I just sense it feels like a chore for him, even when he makes the effort. I daydream a lot ...

Money - we are comfortable but don’t have much leeway, trying to build up some savings. I know we are luckier than a lot of people though.

Work - not always negative but I am on a fixed term contract so I think constantly about possible scenarios.

My stage of life - I’m late forties with one DD already left home and a 14 year old DS. I have more free time than I’ve ever had but I am often bored. I can’t settle on a good way to fill my time. The more it goes on, the less motivated I am to start new things.

How I'd spend my money if I won the lottery.

What's the least amount of cleaning and tidying I can do to maintain reasonable levels of hygiene?

Why can't my kids sleep past 6am?

How I am going to pay the mortgage
Escaping
If DS is ok

1. Work related stuff. Can I leave my fairly well paid job and move to a new one (I'm not young, not a lot of options in the area I'm in, but I need the money, but I dislike my work and it has been a very difficult past year)

1. Children making good choices as they move through life. But I'm gradually accepting that I have limited control and influence at this stage.

1. How messed up the world and environment is, and how I'm not really helping it in anyway and busy with my own life.

1. My weight (I think about this approximately once a minute to be fair)
2. Whether I am a good enough parent
3. Money - I'm self-employed and always thinking about work on some level

Thanks for this question OP - it's really interesting to note that, although I think about these things all the time, I don't think about thinking about them IYSWIM and I'm now wondering if any of it is healthy!

Being fat

Ds’s Future/happiness

Money- specifically how I can manage retirement.

1 - I think about my husband all the time. I'm still dotty about him, even after 12 years together.

2 - My shape and weight, how to disguise or hold in my flabby bits, how to dress to enhance my shape.

3 - My dad. He lives 200 miles away, not in the best of health. I worry about him all the time.

My DS - he's fine, I just think about him and stuff he needs
Food - namely what to do for dinner...
Golf - fairly new hobby. I'm a bit obsessed

Moving out of the busy, polluted London subs to the coast - I think about this everyday, every hour actually. It’s consuming me.
Stepmum, we were very close and she died suddenly of a heart attack last year. I miss her everyday and regret I didn’t let her know how much she meant to me while she was alive.
UK politics and how it got so bad and toxic and depressing...

My children .... are they happy!! They are but I just can't help it!

My boyfriend, only six weeks but my goodness he's beautiful!

Fitness - am I doing too much? Am I addicted? Do I look muscley? I want to be toned!

1. My children. Hoping they are okay and happy. They are grown up but it never goes away, even though they have their own families.
2. The state of society in this country and how nasty people are to each other, and anyone who doesn’t agree with them.
3. How unpleasant my sister was when my dad died, and how she just went round to his house and took anything of value. My dad was scared of her when he was alive. We don’t speak now. I can’t seem to let it go.

Every day I do search for what gigs, cinema, and events are coming up. I've probably never out grown FOMO!

I think about work a lot. How can I help the families I work with, what activities I can put on, what would motivate a certain child, what sessions are needed, e.g. Shall I run an indepenco group or one about resilience etc.

I'm not sure about the third. I guess it's around the kids.

Food. Cooking and food history is a serious interest of mine and sadly, also an obsesssion. I am a chocolate addict and I love baking. I am devloping and translating recipes with green banana flour for a local bakery at the moment. Love it bur horrible for my weight.

My cat. She has stomatitis, which has no real cure. One vet I consulted is encouraging me to have all her teeth removed, but my older, more conservative vet is trying to manage it with medicine. The weekly shots and medicine are expensive but her quality of life is pretty good. We will be moving countries soon and I am preparing things for that nightmare.

My weight. I have gained about 20 kilos in the last year. I hate it - so uncomfortable! And I love clothes and can no longer fit into my nicest pieces. It is the last thing I think about before bed. I vow to do better, but...

My weight
Ageing
My inability to have anymore children.

My weight

I should be doing more exercise

My children

Food: What I want to eat Vs what I should eat (Im trying to lose weight unsuccessfully)
Running/Gym: what's my next workout/race etc
Hormones: Whether or not Im in pre-menopause (nightsweats are a common occurance, my periods are pretty much non existant just a bit of spotting and the weight gain is just not shifting no matter how many salads I eat and how many biscuits Im cutting out, but Im only 40 and hot flushes are non existant. In fact Im always cold so really not sure)

Feeling like a rubbish parent.

Feeling like I'm rubbish at my job.

Wishing I made different choices when I was younger.

My partner, I think about him everyday and our life together.

Housing - we are saving for a deposit at the moment and I’m always thinking about where we could live, what sacrifices we need to make, dealbreakers etc.

Babies - We are starting to think about TTC but we should probably wait until we have bought a place first, but what if we are running out of time etc (early 30s).

Oh and recently worrying about climate change and the state of the planet and where we are heading

Death.

Clothes.

Seaside towns.

Being fat - every day, possibly once an hour or more.

Having another baby - I'm so very broody.

Money - We are so very poor.

My weight and why I have no motivation to do anything about it.

My chronic health issues which would be much improved if I could tackle the above.

How I can avoid being driven mad by my husband when he retires at the end of the year.

My weight/ the misery of being fat.
What I'm going to eat today
How to help my kids be happy

• Weight
• Money, we have enough to be comfortable but not much 'spare'
• Food, see number 1

Why society is so unfair
Why I'm suddenly so old
How best to make love