... to ask about three things you think about every day?

[onmydoorstep]

I've NCed for this. For some context I'm in early 50s, nice DH & kids, good position financially (but big mortgage), jobs, health OK, etc. Lots of pluses, and the usual stresses of work, some family stuff, and so on.

I find there are things that I think about almost everyday.

• Parents: passed away over a year ago after long illnesses. I miss them so much, and think about them every day.

• DS: has friends, popular socially but struggles in school, not very motivated at all. He also has some manageable health issues. I worry about him.

• Sex (life passing me by?). My DH is great on so many levels, but his interested has decreased hugely in recent years. I just sense it feels like a chore for him, even when he makes the effort. I daydream a lot ...

Work
Running (exercise)
Food

Holidays - my escapisim. I'm obsessed with planning holidays and often price up holidays we will never take.

Health - husband's, children's, parents', mine. There's always someone I am worrying about. We've had a bad 5 years and this is entirely justified.

THe house - this could be in terms of day to day housework that I'm.never on top of, or big jobs needing doing. Its a total time and money, worry pit..

Sex
Food
Mumsnet

I have simple needs.

Money
Food
Nick Cave

They're in my garden. Don't suppose you've seen any starlings?

Not at the minute as they've buggered off to breed it you can have a few come September

We had a recent holiday in Tenby - now that is a lovely seaside town

It's my favourite one, @DuggeesWoggle. I'm having a week there in September. (I actually spend quite a lot of time seriously wondering whether to move to Tenby ... Mr Time isn't too keen, which is a problem)

Food - I’m overweight and can’t seem to stop thinking about what i’m going to eat later.

Weight - see above. In the morning I think come on todays the day. I’m not going to eat crap etc. By evening I think fk it, one more share bag of crisps isn’t going to make much difference.

DC are better off without me - I’m a crap parent. I flip my lid all the time. I see my DC flinch when I go near them. I love them so much but can’t seem to stop sweating the little things.

I went to Tenby at Easter, loved it. Shame it’s too far to go again

How fed up I am, I can't exercise due to an accident and I hate the independence I've lost. I'm telling myself it's temporary and how I'm going to appreciate getting back to 'normal' but I'm still fed up.

My Mum, I'm constantly worrying about her and how she is.

The DCs, worrying about the choices they make when I'm not there. They're teenagers now so gaining independence, I'm just hoping I've put in the right groundwork to help them make the right choices for them.

being fat
chocolate
my children

• how to make sure my toddler is going to be ok growing up
• how can I earn more money to make sure of that
• more recently, the one that got away

My lovely dps, both of whom have died over the last few years - miss them hugely and still grieving my mum fundamentally.

My dp who is going through a lot of worrying work related stress.

Birds - currently worried about a baby gull and baby pigeon both at first flight stage which has not gone well and caused local dramas. Hoping both will be ok.

If we should give DS a sibling, selfish side of us says no, but we worry we might regret not trying to if we don’t

Work - I’ve pushed myself to get far in my job and now I wonder if it was all worth it and if I should actually be doing something that is better for my wellbeing and connected with the earth

House - love it and out everything into it but not the area. Will I ever love the area? It’s practical but it’s in a Town and I’ve always been a countryside person and wonder if it’s affecting me more than I’d like to admit

Sex - me and dp work a lot and don't have it enough.

Babies- massively broody, been over 10 years since I've fallen pregnant 😔

Weight- I used to be a size 12 now I'm a 22

The state of my marriage
Ds1's behavioural issues
Brexit

Money

Why I'm still working 6 days a week at my age.

How soon I can escape and bugger off somewhere else.

The mental and physical health of my adult DC

How to improve myself

What I should be doing but am putting off (see also ‘how to improve myself).

1. How my ex took the complete piss out of me
2. My weight
3. If I’m a good role model for my DC

DC
Work
What’s next on my mental to-do list

The mental load is borne almost solely by me in our house. I’ve recently gone back to work full time and am exhausted... DH pulls his weight round the house and has increased what he does with my increase in hours. But he doesn’t do the thinking/planning...

To be honest my list is things I think about hourly, let alone daily!

My adult children and if they are ok.
The state of the planet and the human race. And worrying that I'm not doing enough.
How lucky I am. I think that a lot. Grateful, not smug. I know I could lose it all in an instant.

@Time40 I have a bit of a thing about seaside towns too. I like slightly run down ones, with lots of little ice cream shops. I have a favourite one in particular you may or may not have been to, and I feel it's a real jewel in the genre. It even has a whirly outdoor sea pool.

I think about money a lot too, and car accidents. I am very worried about car accidents happening to people I love.

At the minute though, I'm consumed with indecision over whether or not to get two rescue battery hens.

1. My horse
2. How I can give up work
3. Various concerns about family members, inc my kids!!

1.sex
2.relationships/love
3.work

I also obsess about sleep

Food - what's for breakfast / lunch / dinner. Do I have enough. Are the kids eating right, can I feed the family? New recipes.

The Kids - what they're doing, what they're eating (see above) am I shouting to much. Are they doing enough, are they good enough, what should I be teaching them / showing them. The list is endless.

Love Island. It's on telly too much.