... to ask about three things you think about every day?

[onmydoorstep]

I've NCed for this. For some context I'm in early 50s, nice DH & kids, good position financially (but big mortgage), jobs, health OK, etc. Lots of pluses, and the usual stresses of work, some family stuff, and so on.

I find there are things that I think about almost everyday.

• Parents: passed away over a year ago after long illnesses. I miss them so much, and think about them every day.

• DS: has friends, popular socially but struggles in school, not very motivated at all. He also has some manageable health issues. I worry about him.

• Sex (life passing me by?). My DH is great on so many levels, but his interested has decreased hugely in recent years. I just sense it feels like a chore for him, even when he makes the effort. I daydream a lot ...

DS - just thinking about his needs, whether I am a good mum to him, also just how amazing he is but my goodness also how frustrating and man I am so so tired he never stops etc etc.

Pregnancy and gestational diabetes - rolled all this into one as it is currently dominating my life - blood sugar levels, what I can eat, what I can't eat, is the baby ok, will I go to term or be induced early, will I have to go on insulin, what the hell are we going to have for dinner, damn I want some cereal etc etc etc on a constant loop. Only 9 more blooming weeks of this before the GD obsession is replaced by newborn overwhelm.

How to make a living or even any money at all by doing something I actually enjoy and how to do the necessary training with 2 young children. Something arty or crafty but would I be talented enough? Is there any point as everything has already been done and why bother just adding to the weight of decorative tat in the world etc etc

Want to know what it is about seaside towns that so enthralls the previous poster that s/he thinks about them every day?!

Food/diet/weight.

My mum and dad.

My ex, who I've recently re-met.

Death.

My family who I'm NC with. Might not be in contact but think about them every day.

Pet - worry a lot about what would happen to her if anything happened to me.

1. My relationship. Dh has mental healrh problems and I worry if he is a good enough dad.

1. I want to get fit but am always so tired.

1. I want to work less but my hours have gone up. I just want to be with the kids while they are little.

My weight, it’s a constant battle to stay at a healthy weight

Where we live, I love my house, garden etc but it’s in the wrong location

Our lack of friends, due to relocating to a house that’s in the wrong location.

Work
Money
Food

Gosh so many worrying about their weight, it's awful :( I'm right there too! My struggle with weight is emotional and connected to number two and three

How unhappy I am in my relationship and how I so regret bringing children into this situation and because of them I feel I can't leave, I've failed at life and mostly I've failed them.

I HATE where I live, it's a horrible place I'm so lonely here and feel trapped.

• I’ve been very fortunate in so many ways. Family, job, finance. I should be happier with all I have.

• I’ve lost all interest in sex. I don’t put in any effort. My DH is very very unhappy. Where will this go....

• I just so so busy. A lot of the things I do are just to keep my busy. I should try slow down

Yes, I’m surprised at the number of weight posts. It’s something I’ve never had to think about luckily. I naturally like to eat healthy, exercise, don’t drink much, etc. Another chance positive for me!

1. How I would spend any lottery winnings
2. DD, her anxiety, my parenting
3. Exh and how much I bloody despise him

I’d like to change point number 3 but every time I think I’m moving past it he rears his ugly head and does something shitty. Meh.

1 stressful job: cuts coming, matrix management, forced into new field that isn't a strength. Constant tit for tat in the workplace and feeling exposed.

2 NC with part of the family often wish things were different

3 home repairs and paying for them. Really gets me down. Been in house for 3yrs and still can't afford to replace kitchen floor.

My parents too my mum just passed away in January and my dad in a care home like you OP I miss them so much.

My son as well he is nearly 13 and doesn't seem motivated by anything other than his ps4 and although he has friends doesn't really go out a lot ,he has done a couple of stupid stuff recently and worry he is taking the wrong path.

Also myself, I feel like I don't have that special friend in my life,I have friends but I don't have a best one and would love a sister.

I think about;

I’m sad I couldn’t breastfeed
My baby and what he’s doing
What I’ll do with my life once I go back to work

Death.
Moving house.
My weight.

1. I think a lot about being lonely, wishing things would change and wishing I was wanted

1. About losing weight

1. Whether I'll ever have money to have an average house

Weight/diet
Family in various forms, whoever is worrying me at the moment and my dd all the time.
My dog and dogs in general

This thread makes me want to leap into the internet and give everyone a hand with things.

Baguetteaboutit This is me too!

My children

Money

Work

My weight
Money worries
Being single for many years and feeling lonely.

• My kids/ how I'm parenting. Is it any good? People keep on saying enjoy them while they are young. I don't want to start hating my kids or have a bad relationship. What is the best plan to prevent that?

1. God. I see myself as a religious person.

1. The majority of people I know in rl have divorced & lot of the time the partner left behind says they had no warnings. Is dh thinking of also leaving me? So far I have no reason to doubt him, except for the fact it has happened to others. I do have other things that

1. Health/death. I'm convinced every freckle on me, DH or the kids is cancer and every fever is meningitis. I have a heart problem I obsess about all the time.

1. My weight and whether I'm drinking too much.

1. Daydreaming. I daydream constantly every day. I live a different life in my head. I can't seem to switch it off. I think it's a coping mechanism

1. The Climate crisis. I feel heartbroken every day that my kids will likely face the kind of environmental devastation I only ever saw in movies or read about in books.

1. Politics

As above, but I worry about the NHS disappearing from their lives, far-right takeover and them experiencing war which always seemed so far away from actually happening again when I was young but feels dangerously close at the moment.

1. Money. Paying the bills, buying our house, trying to save for the kids when they’re older, pensions, healthy food and quality of life. Small goals but feel so unattainable

@RunningNinja79
Off topic I know but get your thyroid checked - could be under active - I was always cold and gaining weight despite living on salads and I also had an early menopause at 40, also had a host of other symptoms that I hadn't realised were connected.

As you were

My ds - he is my everything! I'm I being a good enough mum!

The loss of my mum - It's been 10 years and I still miss her terribly.

My ex - I still can't get over the fact he walked out when ds was 8 months old. This will be 2 years ago next month!