... to ask about three things you think about every day?

[onmydoorstep]

I've NCed for this. For some context I'm in early 50s, nice DH & kids, good position financially (but big mortgage), jobs, health OK, etc. Lots of pluses, and the usual stresses of work, some family stuff, and so on.

I find there are things that I think about almost everyday.

• Parents: passed away over a year ago after long illnesses. I miss them so much, and think about them every day.

• DS: has friends, popular socially but struggles in school, not very motivated at all. He also has some manageable health issues. I worry about him.

• Sex (life passing me by?). My DH is great on so many levels, but his interested has decreased hugely in recent years. I just sense it feels like a chore for him, even when he makes the effort. I daydream a lot ...

• my weight/losing weight/food
• money and how much we earn. We aren’t poor but we could be doing better.
• the current utterly shit state of this country and frankly the planet, so many bloody dreadful things going on.

My loves (family)
My pension/ job/ retirement
My happiness

My DD, she has horrendous behavioural issues

Money

Work, I have a new job so I'm stressing about this a lot. If it wasn't for the newness then I'd be thinking about my dh whom I adore

Such an interesting thread but overwhelmingly sad to see the same things coming up

So many women worrying about their weight (myself included). On the one hand it’s reassuring to know it’s not just me but depressing that so many of us are so consumed by it. I feel it is a wider reflection on the current position of women in society, we haven’t come as far as we think.

to everyone struggling with something everyday.

My mum who died six months ago. I think about her constantly and miss her so much it hurts.

Angst about my boring job but being afraid to take a lesser paid more interesting one.

The ever swarming mass of domestic, children and practical stuff that consumes me, constantly.

Family, especially elderly parents.
My ds's and if they are happy.
My weight.

Getting boys into a career that will make them independent

Boys academic success

Being financially savvy

Food and my new body. I r just lost 2 and a half stone and it’s taken some planning and prep!

The kids, logistical stuff and how lovely they are.

Wedding: less than a month to go.....

My children; particularly my son in the Gulf and how increased tension in the region might affect him.
My husband and his particularly stressful work time at the moment - how to support and minimise his stresses.
My mother who is dying slowly and taking weeks to finish her journey on earth in a state of existence rather than life.

The Ontological Problem
Imaginary Numbers
Jacques Derrida's assertion about the logos

How everyone seems to be buying houses and there’s a million housing estates popping up everywhere with ‘affordable housing’ but seems so far out of our reach.

Worrying if I’m doing enough as a parent

Despite the above, most days I think about how lucky I am in different ways

1. my baby. She has a rare genetic condition and the future is uncertain. I worry and stress about it a lot
2. my weight. I'm so fat and unhappy yet I cant seem to do what i need to do lose 3st
3. my health. I have arthritis, and whilst I'm currently well, when I flare it's bad.
4. my older kids. Lots of guilt and conflicted emotions as I am so stressed in general. I'm a shouty, bossy mum.
5. my family. Two siblings have fallen out very badly and it making me so sad. I've tried to intervene. It's just made it worse
6. my mum. She has suffered anxiety for as long as I can remember and she doesn't take good care of her physical health.
7. my mental health. I've started CBT but it's not helping. I'm so scared I'm going to become my mother

I do have lots of positive thoughts too.... but they aren't as constant as the negative.

Sorry. I missed the thread title about "3 things"

My lack of motivation - really struggle to be motivated to do anything at all these days. There are things I so want and need to do but every day I wake up my mental and physical energy are so low I just let them slide.

DS2 - he has a range of mental and physical disabilities. He really does try his best and is doing pretty well at school and starting to gain a social life but he has huge social anxiety and very high hopes for the future that may not be realistic.

My parents - we are barely in contact. They are in poor health. I have problems that stem from my upbringing and chose to distance myself but I wish we were on better terms and could be affectionate and supportive of each other.

Chocolate
Cigarettes
Sex

Calories
My mum who's 87 and becoming frail
How much I want to retire (I'm 52 so have 8 years to go.)

My son. Several times an hour on workdays, probably minute by minute when not at work.

Logistics of my life/his life/the dog’s life & how it fits together.

Work. Kids at work. Work issues.

1. My mum. She died in an accident 4 years ago and I miss her every day.
2. Work. I often wonder if I am in the best job for me, or if I should do something else. The trouble is it gives me lots of freedom and flexibility that no other job would.
3. Menopause symptoms and how to manage them. I am peri menopausal and seem to ricochet from one symptom to the next!

1. My beautiful DD and how I can make her happier.

1. Work.

1. Exercise and turning back the hands of time

Currently

Savings
Sex
Sex

My health/ my children's health & happiness
Keeping my weight down
Having enough money

Sex.
Cricket.
My ageing body.

1. My DCs and making sure they're doing well (constantly on my mind)
2. No longer enjoying my work and want to switch to something else
3. My DCs begging for a step-dad! I feel so sad for them that they want something I can't provide.

Husbands job (freelance).
If I’m a good mum - I’m not.
Where people actually like me or they are just pretending to.