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Original poster

To have let my DS2 have a (wash out) crazy colour on his hair?

144 replies

Mischone · 02/07/2019 12:24

DS2 Is obsessed with all things blue and has been pleading to have blue hair for a party since he saw it on somebody else.

we thought what's the harm it's a bit of fun and will wash out so we did it for him. The thing we used was called crazy colours and isn't a proper hair dye and doesn't have all the harsh chemicals in.

DS is thrilled but my fathers reaction was "what the f, why have you done that to his hair"

Suddenly what started as a bit of fun to make DS happy has made me not want to take him outside like it. Is it really so terrible? I've washed it twice but there's still a tinge so will need a few more washes definitely.

Am I a terrible parent?

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DirtyDennis · 02/07/2019 12:27

Your dad was a prick. It's your DS's hair, your DS's choice.

No, blue hair isn't so terrible.

Crazy Colours are really good especially for just dying hair for a bit of fun - gentle and wash out quickly. I have their very vivid pink on my hair at the moment.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 02/07/2019 12:29

Calm down. Your Dad sounds very rude.

Let your son have fun with his hair colours and stop worrying so much what everyone else thinks.

clockworklime · 02/07/2019 12:30

If it washes out, then no harm done and the father acted like a prick.

It's your DS's hair, your DS's choice

If the DS is 2 years old, that's a nope from me.

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 12:30

I've had the vivid pink on my hair too years ago and loved it.

It was lovely seeing DS so excited he couldn't wait for people to see it but I feel a bit crap now after my father's reaction.

My first thought was to tell him to lighten up but now I'm wondering what people in the street will think.

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nicecuppaforme · 02/07/2019 12:31

How old is he?

cardibach · 02/07/2019 12:31

Not sure what it has to do with your dad, to be honest. It’s a bit of (non-permanent) fun. Why have you washed it out?

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 12:32

DS is two (prepared to be flamed now)

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bridgetreilly · 02/07/2019 12:34

It's your choice, it's made him happy and hasn't hurt anyone else. It's fine.

Teddybear45 · 02/07/2019 12:34

Dying the hair of a 2 yo is wrong

Montsti · 02/07/2019 12:34

It depends on how old your son is IMO....if he’s under 5, personally I think Yabu...if he’s 9 or 10 then that’s yours & his choice.

I’m not a fan of kids getting their hair dyed but that’s just me. Although tbh it’s none of your Dad’s business...

nicecuppaforme · 02/07/2019 12:35

Yeah, that's ridiculous. 2 year olds change their mind about what they want from one minute to the next. Mine can't make up his mind about if he wants his banana whole or chopped up most days let alone ask (and actually want) his hair to be blue.
I'd definitely wonder what the fuck you were thinking if I saw him.

Montsti · 02/07/2019 12:35

Just seen his age, IMO Yabu...

marvellousnightforamooncup · 02/07/2019 12:35

Oh fgs, own it and ignore your dad. Why are you so easily swayed by one grumpy bastard's reaction? It's only blue hair.

Whoops75 · 02/07/2019 12:36

Was going to say YANBU but he’s 2 so I’ve changed my mind.

YABU

Karigan195 · 02/07/2019 12:37

I was right with you until you said he is 2!

Original poster
Mischone · 02/07/2019 12:37

Yeah I thought I'd hear that to be honest

I don't see the harm myself as it washes out and it's just a bit of fun but it's other peoples reactions I was concerned about.

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PablosHoney · 02/07/2019 12:38

I'd be surprised, I've never seen it done to such a young child but equally I cant really express what is actually wrong with it iyswim

bluebluezoo · 02/07/2019 12:41

Dying the hair of a 2 yo is wrong

Oh come on, it’s wash out colour, not bleach and highlights. Not much difference between nail varnish (where you need relatively harsh chemicals to remove), face paint or make up.

My guess is it’s because he’s a boy, o/p. Colouring hair is for girls. Next it will be make up and he’ll catch the gay, or think he’s a girl and want to be called carol.

My dc have used hair chalk, coloured braids and various other washable dyes since i can remember. Let him have fun.

ColdTattyWaitingForSummer · 02/07/2019 12:45

I find it a little more unusual at two than I would at, say, ten; but there’s nothing inherently wrong or harmful about it so I wouldn’t judge.

Apolloanddaphne · 02/07/2019 12:45

Surely it's no different to face paint or skin transfers. It's fine.

Snowy81 · 02/07/2019 12:46

That’s stupid on a 2 year old. I bet most people voting haven’t seen the age. I don’t blame you for being ashamed to take him out.

PablosHoney · 02/07/2019 12:46

Does it make you a terrible parent? No

Hoppinggreen · 02/07/2019 12:48

Doesn’t make you a terrible parent but I personally wouldn’t on a child of either sex that young

Bluntness100 · 02/07/2019 12:50

I don't think it makes you a terrible parent but I certainly wouldn't dye a two year olds hair. I'm with your father.

DinosaursWouldEatYou · 02/07/2019 12:51

YANBU. Yes he's 2 but it's also non permanent and no chemicals. Not like he has asked for piercings like my 4 year old is. It's a bit of fun and there is so many products out there for young children to have fun with, without it damaging there skin.

I've seriously been thinking of buying this coloured gel/mousse for hair that washes out after a while for my DD still in 2 minds cause it's £5 per tub.