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To have let my DS2 have a (wash out) crazy colour on his hair?

144 replies

Mischone · 02/07/2019 12:24

DS2 Is obsessed with all things blue and has been pleading to have blue hair for a party since he saw it on somebody else.

we thought what's the harm it's a bit of fun and will wash out so we did it for him. The thing we used was called crazy colours and isn't a proper hair dye and doesn't have all the harsh chemicals in.

DS is thrilled but my fathers reaction was "what the f, why have you done that to his hair"

Suddenly what started as a bit of fun to make DS happy has made me not want to take him outside like it. Is it really so terrible? I've washed it twice but there's still a tinge so will need a few more washes definitely.

Am I a terrible parent?

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Dahlietta · 02/07/2019 12:58

I would have thought what your father did, but I wouldn't have said it. It's not the end of the world though.

bluebluezoo · 02/07/2019 12:59

That’s stupid on a 2 year old. I bet most people voting haven’t seen the age. I don’t blame you for being ashamed to take him out

Can you explain why it’s stupid and op should be ashamed?

I once got told that when i let my two year old dd get her hair cut short. She loved it, but i got told either a) i should be ashamed to take my son out in a dress or b) i shouldn’t have allowed it because i was pretty much asking others to bully her.

Btw she’s now 9, still likes dresses, still has short hair and can give bullies short shrift.

QueenoftheBiscuitTin · 02/07/2019 13:03

It's not the same as normal hair dye, so I really don't see the problem. It's a bit of fun that will wash out.

MsMaisel · 02/07/2019 13:06

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combatbarbie · 02/07/2019 13:06

Nothing wrong with it..... But if his hair is close to blonde standby for it going green

username95 · 02/07/2019 13:08

I don't think it makes you a terrible parent at all! Only a great one, you have found a safe and temporary way to make your son happy - personally I don't think the fact he is two is an issue, he did ask for it! (If he didn't ask and was too young to ask, then possibly there would be an issue!)

As for your dad, it's absolutely none of his business and you should definitely ignore him!

Zoflorabore · 02/07/2019 13:09

2?!

I thought you were going to say 10 or something op Grin

Whilst it's great that your ds clearly has his own mind etc you may be sending a message that he can get his own way with everything! as happened with my dd until we nipped it in the bud

I do think it's a bit young to be messing with his hair though. My dd's friend who is 10 has similar in her hair and it has taken months to fully come out. School were not happy but it just wasn't budging and was bright pink.

skybluee · 02/07/2019 13:13

So he asked for it
It made him happy
You loved seeing his reaction as he was so excited

Someone please tell me what's wrong with this.

There's enough shit and crap in the world without getting upset over someone's hair colour.

I think it sounds nice.

I wouldn't have thought you'd have issues in the street.

bluebluezoo · 02/07/2019 13:14

Whilst it's great that your ds clearly has his own mind etc you may be sending a message that he can get his own way with everything

So you never let your child have anything he asks for as it sends a message he can get his own way with everything?

louise5754 · 02/07/2019 13:31

I use this brand a lot.

Although it is temporary it will take 6-10 washes to get it out depending on his natural hair colour.

You can't really compare it to face paints.

SquishySquirmy · 02/07/2019 13:44

Are those who think it's stupid against face paint on 2 year olds? (Assuming the kid wants it).

Because if anything, face paint is worse in that there is direct contact with the skin!

Permanent/semi-permanent dye - you would be unreasonable.

Easy to wash out colour - don't see the issue!
It'll be fun for a day and then gone (like face paint).

GruciusMalfoy · 02/07/2019 13:54

I'd have used a colour spray rather than a dye, especially if the wee one's only two. Some of the sprays work pretty well, I used a deep purple on 7yo's hair for a crazy hair party.

VivienneHolt · 02/07/2019 13:56

Honestly, I have no issue with it. Presumably it’s a harmless dye so what possible damage could be caused by him having some fun with his hair?

Hair is a great place for kids to exercise autonomy over their own appearance because regardless of what they do, it will grow back.

I honesty can’t see a problem with this at all.

gollygoodnessgraciousme · 02/07/2019 14:00

Imo it's not much different to face paint etc. Yanbu.

mabelmylove · 02/07/2019 14:11

If it’s temporary and washes out I don’t see how it’s any different to any other sort of fancy dress.

usernameuser · 02/07/2019 14:15

2? 😱

CornerofUpandDown · 02/07/2019 14:16

YANBU - it's just hair and it'll wash out. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Dadadadededadeda · 02/07/2019 14:16

IME it doesn't wash straight out. I wouldn't on a 2yo.

OneStepSideways · 02/07/2019 14:20

I think it's a bad idea for under 5s, as they might have a bad reaction to the dye. It's on par with toddlers wearing jewellery, make up or having a gelled punk hairstyle IMO.

BettyJune07 · 02/07/2019 14:20

No different to using face paint and it's actually harmless. Also with him being a boy, if it does leave a tinge let it grow a bit and get them bits chopped off.

Princessfaffalot · 02/07/2019 14:21

Just seen his age, YABVU

Dadadadededadeda · 02/07/2019 14:24

As I said, it doesn't really wash out properly. If you want something that washes straight out without leaving a trace use the Moon hair gels which are truly temporary rather than semi-permanent and more like face paints, which Crazy Colours are not.

Owlchemist · 02/07/2019 14:24

YANBU. Not proper dye. I know someone who always gives their toddler "unicorn/mermaid" hair with pastel colours like pinks and turquoise highlights etc, looks amazing and her DD loves it.

LooksBetterWithAFilter · 02/07/2019 14:26

The only thing that would have made me reluctant is whether it really would wash out. Experience with teenage dd and having to dye out weird colours before dancing shows tells me it doesn’t always wash out as quickly as you’d like.
Ds2 has a few coloured gels he loves on his hair which suit me as he’s just turned 9 and probe to changing his mind but I wouldn’t judge you for having blue hair on your ds at all. It’s not like you have him a tattoo

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Mischone · 02/07/2019 14:27

I did a patch test in advance and he hasn't had any reactions to it.

I've been doing some reading and discovered that vitamin C mixed with anti dandruff shampoo and left to sit for 20 mins gets it out alot quicker than standard washes.

He loves it and I think it looks very cute but I don't fancy dealing with judgement when we're out on about so I'm going to get it out sooner rather than later.

I agree that there's enough crap in the world for people (namely my dad) to be getting wound up over a hair colour.

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